Why does almost every man I meet tell me they can’t give me what I’m looking for?

[Anonymous]

I always hear how great I am and they love my mindset and personality. They want to spend time with me but they can never give me what I’m looking for. I’m 28, no kids, good job, my own place. Not to boast but I do model professionally so I think I’m good on the eyes. I give a lot to the men I date, I am consistent, i communicate well, I don’t have multiple men I date at one time. I give a man my attention and it never gets past a few months because they can’t give me what I’m looking for.

[DishLady]

You're intimidating them somehow. (I know, that sounds nuts, but I was just out with my closest guy friends and they were telling me that this is just how some guys are.) You or your lifestyle are just too intense for the guy.

[Hobobobo]

There is obviously a big information gap because we only get your description of events. Each of those guys may have had a different reason for ending the relationship. The wording is interesting, but without communicating with them, I don't know what was meant by those words "can't give you what you are looking for".

Next time you are in a relationship, try getting more information out of him rather than something vague like "I can't give you what you are looking for." Use every relationship as a learning opportunity, the more you learn, the better chance you may have with the next person.

[Fireguy17]

what exactly are you looking for, do you tell them, or are they just guessing what you want?
That information would be good to share with the rest of the class.

[natured]

Maybe you focus on Men that are not really into all of this? You are amazing yes you are, but it takes someone just as amazing as you to actually want to be with you. I would suggest to be patient and continue working on yourself, let things happen naturally don't force anything !!

[ohsheeT]

Well , what is it that you're looking for

[Ariesman81]

If we give you what you want you won't want it anymore.

[VyacheslavSokolov]

What is it you are looking for?

[Asker]

A relationship, someone to put effort into me to grow our connection into a relationship.

[loveslongnails]

WHAT are you LOOKING for?

[Asker]

A relationship

[loveslongnails]

That tells me nothing. What does that MEAN?

[nicfire171]

What are you looking for?