Do you mind if a girl is out of breath after walking up the stairs?

[Anonymous]

[Zack-Bann]

Mind? No
Attracted to her? Probably not


Of course it’s all about the nuances
If she’s out of breath because she’s way out of shape and not at all physically active
Vs if she’s just tired after a long day
Vs if she’s a heavy smoker


It’s really all about the person not the stairs


I am someone who’s been at war with weight his whole life
So I do prefer a likeminded individual who values health and fitness over someone who’s just in denial and slowly killing herself

[MrOracle]

Not exactly. I might have some concern for her, but otherwise, it's not going to be a problem for me.

I am often carrying ladders or loads of tools or supplies or gear up flights of stairs, so I'm often out of breath when doing that. What are you gonna do?

[DishLady]

Do *I* mind? Her breath is her business. But I'll get her a glass of water and a chair so she can sit in public with her heaving chest for all the passing fellows to oggle her till she calms tf down. (I presume the question was intended with the male oggler in mind, yes?)

[trumpetplayerforlife]

Girl I got asthma my ass doesn't take stairs unless I have to lol my husband ans I joke about it all the time that if u see me running u better run lol

[ohsheeT]

Well really how does the girl feel about it

Does she mind. . I would be more concerned out that. . But no I dont.. I mean how many steps tbh it could happen to me to lol

[incorrected]

Mind in what context? I'm going to assume romantically. Why is she out of breath? Is she just unfit, or is she a big fat fatty (fat is ugly)? Is she unfit because she works a sedentary desk job or is she a total bum who wants to mooch off me? Depends what it signifies.

[IslaTheWitch]

I dont think I would notice... I'm climbing on the 7th floor in one go... but my breath is quite heavy on the last floor :D

so it's normal for me

[ChicoFromThe305]

How many stairs cause I go up 8 floors of stairs and id rather not and take the elevator cause that shit hurts but I mean if it's just one floor, maybe less elevator is better 😂

[Asker]

1 floor is ok but after 2 I'm already panting.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Damn you gotta increase your stamina

[Asker]

I know, I also have problems with running and playing sports. Pretty embarrassing that I can't keep up with others.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Do you have any asthma you can blame?

[Asker]

No, I have nothing I could blame. Probably just my laziness because I do almost no exercise, at least not on a regular basis.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Are you overweight? Have heart problems or respiratory problems?

[Asker]

I'm overweight but I don't have heart or any other health problems.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Then maybe it just that, although I think you can still increase your stamina either ways so maybe work on that

[Asker]

I don't know if i can blame my weight. I've friends who has the same weight but has no problems on stairs.

[LionBrasa]

I believe this is irrelevant in the relationship, but if this is a health issue, I would help her.

[deniz_9]

i hope the answers to this aren't too harsh bro😭

[BarryLiverstone]

Ya, being too harsh isn’t really helpful. I’m sure the asker has gotten mean comments in the past and who thinks they will make her exercise? Sad if she’s been judged yk

[deniz_9]

@BarryLiverstone dude i agree😭 people here seemed pretty kind tho? i preciate that🙏

[BarryLiverstone]

You are right, so far some kind answers. Impressive for gag lol

[jahaims]

Wtf. You have to be in crazy bad shape to get winded from steps. I would mind. I wouldn't date a lazy person.

[Asker]

Doesn't the ammount of steps count?

[tutazaurs]

I think it's pretty common to get more or less winded after taking stairs. I observe it quite often.

[Anonymous]

If you are out of breath after exertion at age 18 you should get your heart checked right away.

[Anonymous]

I would be concerned about her health.

[Asker]

Not health problems, just out of shape.

[Opinion Owner]

Being out of shape is related to health.

[Asker]

Fortunately I've no health problems so far.

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes.

[Asker]

Why so?

[BarryLiverstone]

It’s fun to be active on dates and doing things out of the house. If she’s stopping after a floor of stairs how much can she move around?

[Asker]

Well, maybe not exactly stopping after a flight of stairs. Rather panting after 3 or 4 flights.

I also like active dates but I be panting pretty loudly if we have to climb up some hill or an observation tower. And, yes, if it's higher, I might have to stop to catch my breath. I'm worried if guys would think it as unattractive.

[BarryLiverstone]

Think that everyone finds health attractive and that’s universal. I can understand why you are feeling worried as you don’t want being out out of breath to communicate a lack of focus on maintaining your health.

When you have been out with guys and your friends before how has it gone, what feedback did they give you?

[BarryLiverstone]

And to be clear 4 flights of stairs most guys don’t expect a total lack of breath lol

[Asker]

- What's wrong with you? Are you ok?
- You should exercise/hit the gym/walk up stairs more often/lose some weight.
That kind of feedback.

[BarryLiverstone]

That’s frankly not very motivating and I’m sorry they don’t care about you if that’s how they talked. Seems obvious that you should exercise as everyone needs to. But have you learned how to be motivated and work on yourself?

[Asker]

Yeh, I know, I'm usually the only one panting when we arrive on 3rd floor.

[BarryLiverstone]

And you asked about attraction. Sorry I’m a bit brutally honest but assume you want honesty. If you dated a guy who was panting after one floor how would you feel about him?

[Asker]

Unfortunately no. I would need an exercise buddy to keep me motivated.

[BarryLiverstone]

Then it’s fair and you know you can improve your health and can find someone to kick your butt and help you move. If they did it in a kind and flattering way I bet you would be proud to see results

[Asker]

Honestly? I'd be disappointed.

[BarryLiverstone]

Good to be honest. Why would you feel disappointed?

[Asker]

I'm thinking about running on a regular basis. Just can't find enough motivation.

[Asker]

Well, because I'd feel much less attracted to him.

[BarryLiverstone]

But you said you wanted an exercise buddy to help you stay motivated. So if they helped you get out and move why is that disappointing?

[BarryLiverstone]

Ohh. Because you would feel like he’s not as into you and wanting to vibe as you hoped based on how you look? Hmm, that’s a tougher situation. Because as you were honest in that you wouldn’t be attracted to a guy who was out of shape, it is fair both ways right

[Asker]

No, moving together would be great.

[BarryLiverstone]

True. Moving together is a huge benefit of being in a relationship with someone else. You both wanna be attractive to your partner and can go out

[BarryLiverstone]

But honestly how would you feel dating a guy who is really in shape? Would you worry about people judging you next to him?

[Asker]

I'd feel proud to go in public with a guy who is really in shape. Like, I got him, I have something to show off.

But I would probably worry if he finds me attractive. I'd definitely be embarrassed to show him that I'm out of breath after walking up stairs or running.

[BarryLiverstone]

Right I see why you would feel like you got him. But could you keep him and still be happy dressing up with you on his arm. When he goes out without you and has other girls flirting or even if you were there. Being in relationships can be challenging but I’m glad you would feel good showing off your man