I'm the only sibling who dates outside her race?

[Anonymous]

I have 3 sisters who date within their race and my sisters look down on me because I date outside my race. I'm very happy dating outside my race and getting approached by my race of men like its entitlement. That I must date them as a black woman and them being a black man. I'm genuinely attracted to other races of men and find I'm compatible with them when it comes to a partner.. beyond that I have standards when it comes to a partner.

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IDC who anyone dates just stay out my business... I'm not pro this and pro that - I'm pro human and who ever loves who is there business... I don't judge... same sex , same race, IR... even people who are single and happy I support you aslong as you're not tearing down people

[Summeroflove]

That’s just stupid and racist of them look they can date who they are happy with dating bur they aren’t entitled to control your life. I think people also get jealous as well but plenty of black males date white along with other races of women.

I don’t see what’s wrong with being attracted to other races at the end of the day we are all human beings. Black, white, brown, yellow, or any other color. There is ugly and beautiful and ugly people of all races.

[Asker]

Right my sisters are not fond of IR dating and they have an issue with non black people

[Asker]

I just told another person on here that I've seen black men with this anti black woman mindset... it's all on YouTube... yes black people can be racist

[Summeroflove]

It makes no sense if two people are happy with one another. But people become jealous and feel entitled to sabotage it

[Asker]

Yep I agree

[Summeroflove]

Asker the thing is people who are too superficial will never be happy in a relationship. But when someone has a good heart and is looking for the right things. They can’t stand seeing two people genuinely happy with one another.

[Asker]

I agree I am tired of the racism period why is everything about race instead of character.. there's nothing wrong with IR dating.. I'm looking at case with Telvin Osbourne a black man who attacked black women with hateful rhetoric while dating non BW

[Asker]

I'm learning that racism and racist people have no color

[Summeroflove]

Racists are just miserable people I agree it should be based off character as well. There are good black men out there but why limit your options? There’s great white men, Hispanic men, Asian men, etc.

[Summeroflove]

Asker you deserve to find who makes you happy. People are going to hate no matter what you do. If their presences are for other black men that’s fine too but they shouldn’t be racist and try to control you.

You’re looking for the right things

[Asker]

I agree 💯 yes I met plenty of good black men - no hate I am just open

[Summeroflove]

Absolutely being open is great you never know who just may be the one. It’s also pretty normal for people to want to date someone who doesn’t look like them.

Such as not looking like someone could be your brother. There is great and horrible of all colors. It comes down to character.

[Asker]

Yes 💯 I'm about character and love regardless of race and don't have to tear down people to date others

[Summeroflove]

Asker I’m the same way I love regardless of race too. If I am attracted to someone it goes deeper then skin color.

But even physically there is some very beautiful women of all skin tones and ugly ones as well. Same for men too there are handsome men of all skin tones and ugly ones.

It should be about the heart. People can’t control what color they’re born as but they can choose who they choose to be.

[Asker]

Yes ! So true

[Summeroflove]

Yeah asker don’t let the jealous people get to you. Maybe they disagree or maybe it’s possible that they too secretly find men attractive if all races too but are embarrassed about it.

But you’re the one bold enough to not care and act on it without being ashamed. I don’t know maybe it’s the case maybe it’s not. But either way they probably jealous.

[Asker]

Yes I think a lot of people are who hates others unions simply jealousy or miserablensss

[Summeroflove]

Absolutely and they want to make everyone as miserable as they are. Especially seeing someone else happy

[Asker]

Yes so true I stop caring what people say.. I'm like how does my life bother you and who I'm saying

[Asker]

Dating ***

[Summeroflove]

Exactly….. exactly. People also judge no matter what you do. If you exclusively dated black men people would judge you for that too

[Asker]

Yep you're right why are you being racist and not dating other races of people... I try to be fair.. have I dated BM yes and I dated non BM too

[Asker]

But non BM have my ❤️

[Summeroflove]

Well asker it comes down to preferences. There is great men of all races including black. But you’re allowed to love who you love and shouldn’t be ashamed of that.

Just wanting someone more romantically doesn’t mean you’re even judging someone as a human being.

[Summeroflove]

I’ve seen racist white families too where say a white man is with a black woman and the family acts super weird. It just makes no sense at all

[Asker]

Right same here it's crazy how people date , but you're right

[Summeroflove]

Right but their dating life is their business. If they don’t want people nosing into theirs they shouldn’t do it to you

[Asker]

I agree thanks so much for feeding back

[Summeroflove]

You’re welcome

[777GgG]

Why do your sisters care what race you date? They should be more concerned with your happiness. I wasn't sure if my sister would be okay with my partner being a different race. Without even thinking she said the echoed my sentiment by saying "as long as you're happy I don't care if that man is purple"

[Asker]

Mines have an issue 😕 .. it's crazy I get a lot of controlling peoples lives by a lot of people

[777GgG]

I'm sorry. That sucks. I would ask why it's so important that you date someone who looks a certain way. Happiness is souch more important than skin tone.

[777GgG]

**so much

[alice55]

I do not understand people who obsess with only dating their race just date whoever who fit your personality the best.

[Asker]

I agree

[Nikki1989]

You have standards that you are not willing to compromise on. That is an excellent thing.

[Asker]

Yes with a partner

[Subtle_Luminescence]

So what?

[Asker]

I know...

[Asker]

Why is racism a thing in 2025?

[Subtle_Luminescence]

Ignorance and arrogance. Just ignore them.

[Asker]

Ok thanks

[Asker]

I want to end it

[Anonymous]

And your question is?