What can I do about being too talkative?

Question

Like with myan I talked so much, talked about all my past dates, everything, didn’t keep anything as a secret… Why am I so silly?

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

It is a trait and I feel women do it more... for some reason. I mean in the manosphere we're told to let them talk so that they tell on themselves. You'll learn more by listening to them badger on and contradict themselves. I know from first hand experience women will do this to if you don't kick them off or prompt them to start talking about themselves. I'm talking questions with a purpose of trapping us in a contradiction. Best advice I have for other dudes is don't script anything, and just be an asshole.

Look at me... I'm talking a lot right now. Sure I type like 105WPM and probably make a lot of grammar mistakes but I can just think it and it shows up on the screen like this as long as none of my fingers are broken.

So what to do about being too talkative. You're going to have to set up pre-staged guardrails against yourself. Basically keep yourself in check or like me, reverse the situation and turn it to your advantage. You talk too much, when you recognize you're doing it, turn the table and force him to talk. I mean isn't the whole point of these dates or whatever you're doing is to figure out if they're retarded, abusive, or a psychopath? You're not going to figure that out if you're doing nothing but having main character syndrome. Just saying and that's not a jab. It's just a fact.

What can I do about being too talkative?

Staximus · Accepted Answer

I would rather have a girl who over-shares and tells me everything, as opposed to one who is all quiet and mysterious. You never know what quiet mysterious people are thinking, or what they do when you're not around. The hell with all that mysterious bullshit, I like to know what a woman is thinking.

NoDecision · Accepted Answer

I don't know. You would have to ask the guys and see what they say.

Lostgirl611 · Accepted Answer

Sometimes I do it too and I'm excited about something. There's nothing wrong with that.

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

hahah, you sound like a perfect date to me. I like talkers. I like actually getting to know somebody. Maybe its not so bad?

AviatorTom · Answer

When you are comfortable with someone, you talk a lot. That's a positive thing.

Menace69 · Answer

Nothing wrong with being talkative and a bubbly personality its a beautiful quality. What you should try to avoid is oversharing you could talk all you want still keep the sharing to need to basis you get my point. Always slow down with the thought process when you find yourself about to overshare and just compartementalize it and you will do just fine. You could always start opening up more and more with the passage of time but not the other way round )

sawno · Answer

Its a trait I actually apprechiate. If you were my girlfriend i'd love it since it would help to get to know you on a deep level.

NathanDavis · Answer

this is going to be just about one of the best things about you...  with, and for the right person...

TsundereMatrix · Answer

I’m on the quieter side but those who know me well know I will talk your ear off once I’m comfortable with you. For me, I’m always initially quiet due to being judged for what I say. I guess you can try this: next time you catch yourself talking too much, you can ask yourself if you are sharing too much or saying too much about someone. That’s the best advice I got.

Shiprex · Answer

You're young and excitable. Maybe a little anxious and unsettled. It's not a bad thing. Perhaps you need to meet someone who's not like that UNLESS you like that kind of response and can resonate with them.

Massageman · Answer

You have asked two questions. Why you are too talkative, and why are you so silly.

If you ask questions of others and let them answer, then you will have them talking more than you.

As far as the silly part, you'll have to figure that out.

As far as secrets,

learn to keep them, or don't listen to them in the first place.

Have a great day!!

exitseven · Answer

Isn;t there a rule about talk about past dates? I know it would be a big turnoff to me. I guess the best way to not be too talkative is to keep your mouth shut.

Wayneg89 · Answer

I'm definitely the super quiet type so I personally love dating the "yappers" as they're called now. I love women that will just talk and talk.

NicholasRedone · Answer

@lafemmefatale_1 ADD? anxiety? Or something else? Bipolar? Mania? Otherwise lady I for am talkative and it's because I suspect I had OCD and general anxiety :) yet I enjoy my life and my style

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Too talkative isn’t a big deal unless … the one you are talking with says they need to sleep but you keep talking and talking preventing them from getting any sleep. The last two women I met were this way and I dragged all day at work as a result.

PaleDale · Answer

You're not, you just like to share, his loss if he doesn't appreciate that

RandomUser1000 · Answer

Why you are so silly? I don't know. Maybe you are a silly goose?

MoonFace2 · Answer

Be yourself. The right man will accept you for yourself.

Likes2drive · Answer

I do the same thing, but now I know I have to control that at times and not divulge Everything about myself and try to keep some mystery

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Your not silly just honest and open. Trust me he wanted to hear that stuff you made it easy for him cause now he didn't have to ask you volunteered the information

chocolatetwopointo · Answer

I don't know maybe stfu? ”im so silly😣👉👈” stfu u pick me ass troll ur pissing me off

msc545 · Answer

Try doing something about your anxiety. And the over talking will resolve on its own.

nawtee_me · Answer

Chew gum, not polite to talk while chewing gum….

Valdemort · Answer

Find people who appreciate it.

sage2021 · Answer

You need to practice having a filter!!

DrPepper12 · Answer

Self monitor better

Anonymous · Answer

You’re doing the right thing

Uglygaypoorcoward94 · Answer

You dont know healthy boundaries

foxsquirrell · Answer

Typical women.

PeterLegg91 · Answer

Just keep things short and sweet

Despina6 · Answer

I’ll take a time out and try to calm down.

Alexa6 · Answer

When on first date being nervous.

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Talk less

shortster · Answer

Find a good listener

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