How can I stop sounding like a big talker?

[Anonymous]

I am not English nor American but I am a graduate of English language and literature. so, I read a lot of books during my college years and I have good communication skills but I can't help sounding like a big and rhetorical talker. Even on quora I ask a lot of questions and people go through my profile and say that why are you asking rhetorical questions and answers. However, I don't like drawing attention. How can I stop sounding like a rhetorical speaker who is obviously literature graduate?

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[Oliverlogan263]

Here are some tips to avoid sounding like a big talker:

Keep your language simple. Don't use fancy words when basic ones will do. Speak how you would in a casual conversation with friends.

Get straight to the point. Don't beat around the bush or go on long tangents. Answer questions directly and concisely.

Focus on listening. Ask follow up questions to stay engaged, but let others do more of the talking.

Watch your body language. Stay relaxed - don't gesture wildly or use a dramatic speaking voice. Smile and make eye contact.

Share personal stories and experiences. Relatable anecdotes are more memorable than abstract concepts.

Be curious, not preachy. Ask genuine questions to understand others' perspectives instead of just lecturing your views.

Admit when you don't know. It's okay not to have all the answers! Humility is appealing.

Relax and have fun with it. If you're not stressed or uptight, it will come across better in writing too. Natural conversations feel good.

Hope this helps, man! Just be yourself, focus on others, and conversations will flow better without coming across as a know-it-all. You got this!

[Asker]

Thank you bro

[Oliverlogan263]

No problem dude! Just tryin' to help a brotha out. I know how it is, sometimes that book learnin' makes it hard not to get all fancy speak goin'. But people mostly just want someone chill to kick it with. So loosen up a bit and don't worry so much about showing off all the smart stuff rattlin' around in your head.

Just talk natural like the rest of us and you'll be good. And don't stress if it takes practice - we're all workin' on somethin'. Most folks will respect that you're tryin' to tone it down too. So keep at it man, soon you'll be shootin' the breeze like a pro! Let me know if you need any other advice on fittin' in better. We all gotta learn sometime.

[In_Trance]

Have you thought about trying stfu?
It's a proven method that's guaranteed to work.
Ask your doctor if stfu it's right for you

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Your answer is to dumb yourself down, which I think is stupid.


Just be you, ask your questions, who cares if they’re lengthy? I doubt you ask rhetorical questions on purpose anyway

[coxoabean]

Hmm, either don't care what they think, or maybe just try asking things in a different way.

[ProbablyClueless]

Say what you mean. Mean what you say. And don't say things that you can't substantiate.

[Anonymous]

From the way you wrote that paragraph, it doesn't seem like you're very educated at all.

[Asker]

What are the mistakes