Yes, I like confidant, competent and capable woman and knowing how to fight as a woman shows grit and drive. Honestly, I think every woman would learn self-dense and carry some kind of defense tool like a stun gun, tazzer or a burnya. If it were up to me, I'd make self-defense classes a mandatory in K-12 for woman.
I know there will be people who say. "Men are stronger than woman so it won't help." This is incorrect and I can explain why. Most self-defense martial arts aren't about blocking and resisting it's about redirection and changing the path of the attack so instead of you taking the force it goes right pass you and it's wasted effort and energy.
Woman in a self-defiance situation don't need to be stronger than a man, the need to be confidant and well trained but they can win with smart and fighting quick reflexes. You don't need to block a bunch, you just need to know how to re direct it and there are many techniques that woman can use to break a man's grip on her if he's got her pinned or something that really on dexterity and leverage or carefully placed counter attacks with things like elbow tricks and balls shots.
If you're a husband reading this, I encourage you to pay for your wife to take self-defense training and I encourage you to teach them to use a stun gun or pistol as a present at some point and explain why. The best way you can protect someone you love is to teach them how to protect themselves. If I was dating a woman who knew self-defense it would actually be a load off of my mind and my worries frankly.
Also, for those of you in a future this is a small detail that people often forget in panic so remember this very carefully. The cops aren't going to show up at the last moment and save you like in the movie's odds are way, way higher you're fucked. If someone has a gun and is telling you to come with them. Don't go under any circumstances!
If they want your money give it to them but if they try to kidnap you that means they want, you. If you go with them, you're either going to be raped, tortured, enslaved, murdered or if you're really unlucky all of the above. If someone kidnaps you THIS is the only thing that's going to happen.
It doesn't matter if they have a gun, fight, scream kick, make as big a fuss as you can, be as violent and loud as you possibly can use nails teeth and cheap shots but DO NOT GO WITH THEM! If you fight kick and scream, they'll either flee and give up or kill you on the spot. Both are better than what they'll do to you if they can take you where they want. This goes for men and woman. Plenty of serial killers and criminals target men too just fewer.
Personally, I'd also buy my SO a piece of jewelry with a tracking device (I'd tell her of course I'm not going to spy on her) but that way when she went out and about, I'd always know where she is if there was an emergency of medical or danger purposes like kidnapping. That could end up being the only way cops find them in time to help in that scenario.
Quite honestly, no generally. It's not really feminine and generally women that have martial arts as a hobby or take it seriously tend to be more on the masculine side (not always).
I prefer girls that are into yoga, volleyball, tennis, and personal fitness rather than martial arts.
It's not a bad thing that a girl is able to defend herself, but when she's always saying she can kick your ass or acts all macho in front of you, it's not cute at all.
One of my exes did muay thai. It was the only thing she wanted to do physically and honestly I got pretty turned off by it.
I'm not attracted to girls but I can see how some men might not be keen on dating them unless he himself is practicing martial arts. A man is usually seen as the provider and protector in the relationship even at a subconscious level. I don't believe they'd be competing as protector in his mind but most men want women who retain their femininity. Martial arts is not exactly seen as a feminine in western cultures. That doesn't mean there aren't feminine women in martial arts but there does tend to be women who can carry themselves in a manly way. In the end, it all depends on what men desire. Many are looking for nurturing women because men usually don't exhibit these qualities in the way women do (they do in different ways, like providing an protecting as mentioned above). Im not here to tell women to change but consider more feminine roles as an option. In the end it's that woman's decision and so are the consequences of her decision.
I will say that most men are surprised when they find out I practice Karate. It's only my first year but I do tend to notice that the longer women have been in martial arts (like childhood) the more SOME of them tend to carry themselves more manly.
When i was younger I used to wrestle the boys in competition and the longer a match went the more I could tell how attracted they were to me, i could feel it up against me. I remember one boy was very big down there, when the match was over I looked at him and I swear it was up past where his belly button would be and thick. My parents pulled me out of wrestling after that.
Not really. I would say that, best case, it's neutral, and often, it's a negative. The negative comes from it making many women more masculine and physically aggressive - NOT traits the majority of men find attractive in women.
Certainly, a few exceptions exist - men who specifically find this attractive, and some of those men are going to be men who themselves take martial arts training. But realistically, it's going to shrink a woman's pool of potential relationship partners to a fairly small percentage, and few people need even more of a challenge finding a partner today.
Number one yes attractive and not intimidating. Look…. If someone wants to do a man harm they can do a man harm…. If they gonna stab him in his sleep, shoot him, slowly poison him, and the list goes on….
So at the end of the day anyone can be dangerous and if I don’t trust someone I just don’t trust them. But there’s nothing wrong with being able to defend yourself as well as if someone’s not good at it. I mean… You have someone who can teach you right.
Well it's not that it adds to their appeal. But otherwise girls who are trained in martial arts are equally attractive. Fighting ability, or lack-thereof is not a relevant factor for me. It would be crazy to find a girl attractive, and find her less attractive when you learned she was taking martial arts.
She has a beautiful heart and she's kind and she's caring Smart and intelligent and happy that's what counts. And though it's kind of a turn on not intimidation
One thing I've noticed with women who train in martial arts is they really like hugs. Physical contact. I wonder if it's because guys are intimidated to touch them? Most women I know who do martial arts are still very feminine and attractive.
I trained in taekwondo as a kid and army combative as an adult. The women I've sparred against can be incredibly aggressive and scary, especially the smaller frame ones. They make me flinch way more than the larger frame women. But there's a level of intimacy that comes with all that physical contact that's just unmatched. Gotta have the fan on full blast if we're in the same bed though. 2 people who run hot with fast metabolisms turns the bed into an oven.
If my current girlfriend were in martial arts, it wouldn’t intimidate me since it is a hobby / sport in the same fashion : American Football, Baseball, Chess, or Tennis is.
Secondly, her wanting to spar / fight or learn self defense is her choice and none of my business unless I go, “hey Honey how was your day?” sort of thing then I inquire further how martial arts went. She can do whatever she puts her mind and body to, just as she would for me (and she absolutely does).
Unless she wanted to beat the crap out of me with those skills or threaten my closest male & female friends then it would be an issue, though martial arts isn’t like that. Whatever makes her happy, makes me happy and a lot more people ought to have that mindset tbh since people seem to forget that at times.
Why would it intimidate me? lol I'm not planning on attacking her. I admire the discipline of people who study martial arts.
I personally have had the magic destroyed for me by my father's over-intellectualizing martial arts through out my life. He means well and he totally believes the stuff he's saying, but it's just a bit much.
My dad used to be a martial arts teacher, so I've always been around it.
I will say though; it seems like the ability to actually win a real fight comes from an inner meanness more than formal training. I've met some scrappy women who could level men twice their size because they fight like a demon is trying to get out.
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Yes, but no. Yes because there are some very attractive women in martial arts. It no because a lot of them tend to be manly. A lot of them tend to be loud, obnoxious. But physically speaking yes I’ve seen a lot of cute women in martial arts. At least that’s what I seen when I took martial arts. No it wouldn’t intimidate me at all. Sure she can probably take down a few men who are small, skinny w no martial arts background. But most men are stronger than most women so even w martial arts training she’s probably going to get her ass kicked if it was serious. Men usually aren’t intimidated by women in the slightest. If she’s cute, sure he might be intimidated or nervous.
A lot of women seem to have this fantasy that if they are "tough" men are intimidated. That never happens based on strength. That would be like you thinking a toddler is as strong as you. Not going to happen. If you mean intimidated because she looks good: some guys are intimidated by looks but it has nothing to do with how strong she is, really.
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Some of them are, but definitely not all of them.
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It's definitely not intimidating, if a hot girl is training martial art, I think it's very attractive, besides, I like dominant girls.
I've been practicing kick boxing ever since I graduated highschool. Just something to keep my muscles active. Never to the level where I could compete, but just enough to defend myself a little. There is one chick there that looks like she would choose the bear just to fight it 👀
Most women that do martial arts just have a bit of a sleeper build. If very serious you get a generally athletic body. Since martial arts, outside of outliers like Sumo, basically emphasize pound for pound fighting it is more about fitness than being big.
So yes. Absolutely. Although that in itself can be awkward when rolling on the mat together.
I take it you can defend yourself if you need to and that's good.
But do you act violent to others even if they don't attack you or if it's for martial arts training?
Because I wouldn't attack you. So as long as you are mentally stable and don't attack people for no reason. Then I shouldn't have to worry even if I met you or dated you.
I find them just as attractive as a woman who body builds. The same idea applies here. Martial Arts is an athletic sport, like body building, and requires constant ideation. You need to sink hours into Martial Arts.
Take Rayna Vallandingham, she's good with her legs, and she does it quickly. Find her on Instagram, its interesting. But my point here is, she's young. She's sexy for her age.
I used to take Tae Kwon Do, so I would know. You have to wake up loving the sport, and staying loyal to it. I love Tae Kwon Do, but my ankle is THE worst part of my body. Anytime I run, my ankle would get "tired" easily. There are other issues but you get the idea.
What does the sport she enjoys have to do with her attractiveness as a woman. I'm actually turned on by a fit healthy woman's body. And it likely means she be able to do all sorts of stuff that would break Ariana Grande's frail little body. I'm talking skiing, biking, running, tennis, swimming, surfing, hiking, etc.
And by the way, the two women in the pic look great.
Yes, I find them just as attractive as women interested in other things, and no, I don’t find that alone intimidating at all, so long as she still has a sweet disposition. I think it’s attractive for a woman to have a passion, whatever it may be, and I also like the assurance of her being more comfortable protecting herself if—and only if—ever I can’t. The accompanying physique doesn’t hurt, either. 😊
No, it is not attractive. It is not feminine, and many of us feel it. Few of us will admit it publicly though. Gender polarisation, that is difference between gender builds sexual tension. The more a girl behaves like a man, the less sexy she is. The more a guy behaves like a woman, the less sexy he is. That is why we have so few children nowadays;)
No. I've seen martial arts girls try and dominate small men in femdom relationships however, brazilian amazon type things. I like a tall athletic horny woman like yourself to work on that mat with in private, you're probably amazingly flexible.
Training in martial arts is neither here nor there as it’s completely arbitrary if I’m not at least attracted to her in some sense. I certainly wouldn’t be put off by it in ANY way
You are either attracted to fit girls or not. Most men just feel intimidated. Martial arts is a form of self defense. A lot of men do not want woman who are confident and know how to defend themseleves. Its has nothing to do with masculinity, at all.
Typically, only attractive women will train in martial arts. That is, because if they don't have good confirmation and coordination, martial arts will have no appeal to them.
No, not because martial arts interest is bad, and its certainly not an itimidation issue. But rather its because injury prone sports are high risk, and her building muscle bulk is a sexual aesthetic negative to me.
Yes, y’all try to play innocent like you haven’t been going to the gym and been shown the same kick for months but when some of you lock in and show form, it’s very cool/attractive.
I like a woman that may know how to fight and handle herself.. So there's that aspect.. I wouldn't say doing Martial arts in general is an attractive thing though..
Should have added , here its extremely common , and you don't have to be some giant masculine figure , they teach girls from the age of 3 , so something quite common especially for fitness.
@dustybiker2 Why is it then disguised and labeled as ''Arts''? Can I expect an aggressor to play to the same rules that my ''Arts'' is teaching me? I'm all for self defense when it's necessary. But a good kick or hook will do better than some skillful artistic stunt.
Just joining the train for the sake of semantics and things, since:
"There is no generally agreed definition of what constitutes art"
Especially when modern meanings of that term can be quite far or more restrictive than what it meant centuries ago:
"art (n.) early 13c., "skill as a result of learning or practice," from Old French art (10c.), from Latin artem (nominative ars) "work of art; practical skill; a business, craft," from PIE *ar (ə)-ti- (source also of Sanskrit rtih "manner, mode;" Greek artizein "to prepare"), suffixed form of root *ar- "to fit together." Etymologically akin to Latin arma "weapons" (see arm (n.2)). In Middle English usually with a sense of "skill in scholarship and learning" (c. 1300) [...]"
@Maybe_Maybe_not... yaaaaah... ok, guys. I am aware that specifically U. S, people are fond of ''definitions of terms'' (I will assume that there also is an 'Art of Rape', then?) As for my originally European culture, I may want to add: to my understanding, ''Art'' is a thing of thought or of beauty. Smashing or overwhelming someone else's body is not included in this. What I mean to say basically is, that I do NOT adore people who choose physical aggression to solve problems. Where sometimes we don't have a choice... I was there myself. The non-martial-arts-girls that will be attractive to me (to return to the topic) are those who can take care for themselves, but rarely even get into a position to self-defend... because they are smart. Is that acceptable for you theorists? :)
Well, I am French actually lol, and I subscribe to the definition you gave for art, because that's the one I use often enough. I also appreciate the relativistic route though, that's why I popped up here. What is encompassed into the term art is probably region based, as you said, because, like you, I see English language (or culture) often naming art what does not look like art to me but craftsmanship or technique instead.
As for this idea of martial arts promoting violence, I'm unsure, I hear you, in the sense that I understand why it is unacceptable to you. Now this violence is expressed in a specific framework, with rules and consent. So, I see martial arts more as... channel/redirect violence than promoting it
@Maybe_Maybe_not... je comprends :) I try to change no one. I just explained my own approach. The original question was about ''attractive'' ... in this respect I'm quite unimpressed. But I mentioned it earlier.
For sure, I trained as well and I can confidently say that there's no shot they will be intimidating, but they are very comfortable with their body, don't mind physical touch and end up pretty toned
If this makes her personality masculine, no but as long as she still loves being a female and enjoys her femininity this is a turn on and makes her more attractive for me.
It would be a great additional quality for sure. Especially if I was to meet a woman at my school. It shows you are able to look inward, and seek your own approval. That is way hotter than trying to meet someone at a bar.
nah. they're smart. we're SUPPOSED to be their protectors but we can't predict every second of everyday and will eventually fail. it's emasculating to think about but it's realistic.
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