What makes a guy go from patient, caring, respectful, clingy to distract & hard to get?

[Brunettexoxo]

Trying to understand a situation im healing from.

He went from wanting to take me on a proper date, telling his family about me and having me over at his, turning down others, reassurance he wanted a relationship, seeking reassurance from me I was serious, wanting to be around me daily, holding my hand, always checking in on me, wanting to be around me and my friends just to chill, offering me rides just to see me, texting me even just to ask if I’d ate, always making an effort with his apperance

to … distant, leaves me on delivered for ages, very sexually forward, playing hard to get, talking to others, not wanting to be seen kissing me, won’t see me for weeks, won’t bring me to his place acts like he doesn’t care, doesn’t hold my hand anymore and seems awkward when I do, is sweet around me but a bit distant, yet seems confused when I’m distant, vents about depressing stuff, shown up in the same joggers two days in a row. And he reassures me NOTHING changed and he’s still interested and wants me

[Summeroflove]

Someone who pretended to be someone they’re not…. If someone’s playing hard to get or just genuinely lost interest they aren’t worth your time. Also, good people can loose interest as well but they will directly break things off.

I think he played you but is keeping you on the back burner. Do yourself a favor and just tell him you feel like he’s lost interest and you’re moving on. That’s what I would do someone who genuinely wanted you wouldn’t act like that. Seems like you got love bombed.

[Brunettexoxo]

I forgot that men don’t play hard to get, yeah well it was pretty low of him he could’ve just let me go the first time he got what he wanted instead of making it a whole process. What a loser.

[Summeroflove]

Some people play hard to get. But it’s a stupid game that causes people to loose attraction except for people who are obsessed and you’re genuinely saying no to.

But a lot of people do it too to keep someone
On the back burner. They show enough interest to keep someone feeding them supply. But that’s it.

[Summeroflove]

Regardless it’s better to move on from the losers.

[Zack-Bann]

Chances are he got hooked on an idealized image of you and as time went on he realized that the real you doesn’t live up to it so he shut down


That’s not to say it’s anything you did or didn’t do.


It’s just how immature people walk themselves into a relationship without thinking it through at all

[Brunettexoxo]

I thought me kissing someone two weeks into me knowing him put him off, or all the partying I was doing over Christmas / new year, I did display some unlady like behaviours, but I asked him multiple times if it’s that & I understand if he isn’t interested now because of it, but he reassured me he was and then said “but if you don’t feel the same feel free to walk away.” He lied about it not bothering him so he could keep me around? Maybe?

[Zack-Bann]

Any guy worth his salt wouldn’t be put off by a kiss
Not to mention 2 weeks into knowing him is huge

I personally kissed all the girls who ended up becoming my girlfriend within the first or second date

(Relationships ended for outside circumstances)

As for the partying, well it isn’t for everyone
I love it and couldn’t date someone who hates it
And I think you should do the same:
If he can’t keep up with you then you haven’t lost much, it’s useless to try converting him into a party animal of he prefers solitude

Just stop doubting yourself as though you’re the only one who pushed him away
It’s good to be self conscious about our actions and their consequences
But it’s not good to ignore the outcome of other people’s free will

[DishLady]

He's friendzoned you, kid. Possibly (1) someone said something about you that turned him off or (2) you did something that triggered the "release the gal" switch in his brain or (3) he lost interest and is starting to prioritize something/someone else.

[ohsheeT]

He's just showing you the real him with out even knowing it don't look at it as a bad thing

[Bklynbadboy12]

Either he got what he wanted or he found something new

[Brunettexoxo]

The last time I seen him his vibe had “I’ve met someone else” I don’t know why. I just looked at him and could feel it in the air, but I told myself I was just overthinking.

[Bklynbadboy12]

It's his loss!!!