Will I never find a guy because I have brachymetatarsia?

[Anonymous]

Hi Everyone, This has been on my mind for a long time, and I just need some honest opinions. I have brachymetatarsia (basically, my fourth toes on both feet are shorter than the others due to a growth issue - you can find photos of this really easily online if you look up brachymetatarsia, but I'm too shy to post my own feet here). It’s not something that affects my life in a major way physically, but mentally, it’s a huge insecurity. I worry that no guy would ever truly love me because of it—that the moment he sees my feet, he’ll be disgusted, turned off, or just lose interest. I know this might sound irrational, but it’s a fear that’s deeply rooted in me. So, I guess I’m asking: Are guys really that shallow? Would something like this actually be a dealbreaker? If you’re a guy, how would you honestly feel if a girl you liked had this? And if you’re a girl with a physical insecurity, how do you deal with it? I’d really appreciate honest responses (good or bad). Just trying to get a reality check here.

[ohsheeT]

You know what your words tell me your agreat person smart wise. And happy , I would say you're very loyal compassionate. With deep passion and with the right person soft. Slow motion very deep and sensual. And a good friend I believe that's who you are I also believe you can speak with your eyes.

And this might sound rude please don't take it that way. I have a choice to say this to you out loud. Or not to.. but I would have to just to maybe make you smile or to let you know it doesn't matter I like you because if who you are in life not because of your toes. Or what they look like but if I was to date you I would want you to look in to my eyes as I said these two things.. Just to let you know it's all good.

And I was going to say these 2 things to you right here right now . But it wouldn't be fair to you or myself if you couldn't be looking in to my eyes as I said them. So I'm not going to even tho i want to I won't but know days with the way people are if someone dis likes you because of your toes it's easy just to wave good bye with one middle finger because you don't want him to be any part of you life anyway

So fir me it's not a problem. Because if you are all the above on what I said then your perfect

[SteveSmith1985]

This is maybe the surest I've ever been about anybody's question. Ever.

I usually hedge with stuff like "It seems to me..." or "I would guess that..."

Not with you. I KNOW I'm right about my answer here.

No man will care at all, about your brachymetatarsia. It's not going to be an issue. Ever. For any guy.

I could go on and on about just how much of a non-issue this will be for any guy you're ever with... but I know this is a legitimate fear, and I don't want to seem like I'm minimizing your feelings. If it would help, I could give you paragraphs elaborating on how you should never worry what any guy will think of your brachymetatarsia. It will all lead to the same inescapable point.

This is a fear that you need never think about again. I know it's not that easy. But it is still true.

This is not something that "most" guys will have no problem with. This is something no guy will have a problem with. It's just not going to happen. Your fear will never ever come to reality.

I wish I could somehow show you just how much this doesn't matter. I don't think I can properly convey in words... just how strongly I'm telling you: No guy will give a shit about your brachymetatarsia.

Please try and tell yourself this, if you're worrying about this, and what guys might think. Stop yourself. You are worrying about something that is never ever going to happen. No guy is going to care. 100% of men agree... this is nothing.

It's sad to see you clearly going through some real mental anguish over this. That's hard to watch... because (as a guy) I can see how completely unnecessary it is for you to worry about this at all.

Please try not to worry about this. There is nothing to worry about.

🙂

[Asker]

thank you so much for saying this! i really feel a lot better after understanding the certainty with which you believe this. i'm an insecure person in general despite being pretty attractive (feet aside haha) and i think that plays a huge role in how deeply this bothers me. i guess some guys are more shallow than others but those aren't the ones that i want to end up with anyway. i hope you're right and thank you so much for taking the time to right such a heart felt and sensitive response <3

[SteveSmith1985]

It's totally worth it when it actually works. I'm so glad you were able to hear me. It's really not anything you need to even think about.

Even a shallow guy wouldn't care about this. But I'm glad you're not going for shallow guys anyway.

I am so sure. Totally sure. 100% confident that I'm right about this. I really hope this is no longer something you even give a second thought to. I'm so glad you found it helpful.

[Abbycado]

Really? Because of a shorter toe? I have never heard of a guy saying "Lemme see your feet before we go on our first date".

[Asker]

it's not really about going on the first date but all the dates that follow, the first time you sleep together, going to the beach together.. and everything else that comes with it...

[Abbycado]

You know what? I have been dating my boyfriend since last year. He might have this. He might not. I don't know, because feet are not something I look at.

[chrissykerdock]

all men love blowjobs and the swallowing of their cum

[skunk3n]

I understand that we all have things we perceive as flaws. But I can assure you that if you find a guy and decide to be intimate—whether in a relationship or a one-night stand—by that point, you both likely feel comfortable with each other.

And trust me, he will accept you for who you are.

[Stevepro68]

I'm an orthopedic specialist. I cannot unsee abnormal walking, limps, prosthetic. Surgical scars on strangers I see briefly. Yet despite that I can't even remember any of the differences in any of the women who have been in my life. This post made me even realize I have no idea if my girlfriend of 4 years have any foot abnormality of any kind. Trust me only foot fetish guys really pay attention in any real way. Don't worry about it.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

In life people come in all shapes & sizes & in life we are all individuals & different in our own ways. As for Brachymetatarsia I wouldn’t let it stop you from living your life because who you are is who you are & when it comes to love the right person will love you for who you are no matter what.

[Shiprex]

Absolutely no problem I expect. You sound like a sound and pleasant person and that for most men is the biggest greenest flag that will cover over a lot of the red ones that some may have or develop.

If it bothers you then it will be something a good man will account for and take great care to make it something he loves about you.

You will be fine and a good man will be lucky to have you in his life.

[Lynx122]

I don't think it will be a big deal. You have to deal with your mental insecurity so that it won't ruin your dating life.

[msc545]

I would look, think it was interesting, even might remember learning about this, and promptly forget about it. There are probably some many other things to consider and this would simply not matter to me.

[msc545]

No man will ever care about this at all.

[foxsquirrell]

If you're cute you'll find. And even if you're not so cute but more average, there are a lot of guys out there who might click with you and like the idea of being with you despite of what you have.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I dont think any guy would care unless they are foot fetish types.

[zagor]

I would be surprised if you found one who cared about it.

[seeyounexttuesday]

lmao. No dude gives a fuck about the size of your toe.

[Anonymous]

You might find someone who likes you, and most guys don't care about brachymetatarsia.