I am serously extremely afraid of never finding a boyfriend?

Question

Okay so i am a 20 year old girl and now i am in my last high school year. I am so afraid of life. I don't even enjoy it. I just worry all the time! I never had a boyfriend and I don't know if I should go to university, because I'm afraid that I won't be able to finding someone if I study! I do wanna study and find I good job (even if I don't know what job), but i am too afraid of going there to university and studying really hard ong i won't be able to meet someone

i will be a 40 year old woman with no kids and men
help me

its my biggest fear

blank_expression · Accepted Answer

You are giving me an anxiety attack just reading your question. If you jam all of these unknowns in life together and try to find an immediate solution to everything at once, you will make yourself crazy. Everyone has or is challenged with similar things. The best thing is to work the most important thing first and all of the others seem to fall into place. When the world is overwhelming, you start taking it just five minutes at a time as if climbing a steep hill.

Better_off_here · Accepted Answer

i know how you feel i think, it is hard to be alone and to live alone, i myself have tried a lot of ways to try to connect and meet women, i guess college is the best option, all you have to do is see someone you like and try to ask them out, it is hard and most folks that will comment have no idea what it feels like to be alone like but it takes courage to ask someone out and talk to someone too, and i wish you best.

Moimaris · Accepted Answer

I’m also afraid. But you know, what belongs to you will find your way. It will cross your path. Keep positive.

Lynx122 · Answer

University is one of the best places to find someone to date but you don't have to go if you don't want to. I think working on your fear and becoming more comfortable would also help.

SunnySensei · Answer

Miss, just try to calm down, you have got nothing to fear about, at this moment you should think about college only, if you focus on building a career and getting successful, you will have a great life ahead of you.
As for love if you stay positive and be yourself, approach someone you like (even if it doesn't works, don't loose hope) try again, you will find your love, when the time is right.

exitseven · Answer

You have plenty of time. College is very different than high school and you will meet all kinds of different people. Hopefully yuo will gain the attention of several guys.

zagor · Answer

Probably got a better chance of meeting someone if you DO go to college.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm 35, same status and do not care about it...

Why are you afraid of it?
What will happen, if you will end up 40 cat lady?
Nothing, a lot of women live like that, worse when you have 5 kids from 5 divorces, but then you could get child support from 5 fathers... There are advantages in every situation...

Anonymous · Answer

I doubt it'll happen to you because women tend to be valued for their youth more than men are so a woman's youth won't really go to waste, and be glad that as a woman you're not expected to make the first move or approach a guy

jeffryrobertbabb · Answer

I can only speak from experience. I had a high-school girl friend, who was a hoe. I found a girlfriend in second year university, and have many since. Late adolescence is a confusing time, don't give up.

Browneye57 · Answer

All that 'extremely afraid' is just a bunch of bullshit.  Quit living in fear and go for what you want in life. YOU ARE NOT A VICTIM.

Anonymous · Answer

My god, you need to get a life. Are you really basing your happiness on your value to men? Are you really alive just for men? If you were attractive and fertile, there would already be men interested in you. Men aren’t attracted to this attitude.. they want women with options and confidence. I’m sorry if this is harsh but it’s very true.

Iron_Man · Answer

You’re only 20 years old you’ll find a boyfriend don’t worry about it

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I've never had a wife, a true girlfriend or kids either!

Anonymous · Answer

you won't be alone. most feminist girls will end up alone at 40 and pretend that is what they wanted, I applaud them because they are the worst partners around

Luckycharms12 · Answer

You are only 20. Very young enjoy life have fun find someone who you aren't looking that's what I found

CreamySeed · Answer

Im 32 and only had one girlfriend, clocks ticking young lady get out there

Snakeyes7 · Answer

You can find a potential partner in your class to study with.

randomperson3322556 · Answer

same i dont think ill ever be in a stable relashonship

Twalli · Answer

Just put yourself out there at college

Yellovv · Answer

You are still young don't worry...

Terssert · Answer

I can be your friend

I am serously extremely afraid of never finding a boyfriend?

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

I am serously extremely afraid of never finding a boyfriend?

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

We're glad to see you liked this post.