Anyone else tired and done with dating?

[Anonymous]

I’m literally at the point I don’t wanna date anymore and stay single for the rest of my life. Yes I know I wouldn’t be able to have a family or have a men help me but I’m too drained to try anymore. I always tried my best to be a good person especially loyal for 1 guy but never works out. I’m not perfect but been told “I’m different” in a good way yet these guys never seem to respect me. I’m just stupid in letting the wrong guys in my life but I’m also not going to force myself to be with someone that I don’t feel interest in. I was single not talking to any guys a year ago for 4 months and it was the best feeling to not have to worry, overthink, or feel worthless. I’m trying to think of ways to not let guys in my life if someone comes along. The universe just loves to bring me new men into my life as a lesson or a reason but I don’t want it anymore. I just wanna be single, any advice to push these guys away when someone does come along? I rarely go out I just go to work, school, and go to the gym. When I tell people I have a “bf” they like to ask 20 questions to get to know the “bf” I have, you would think they back off but they don’t. This guy I’m talking to at the moment met him at my old job in person, so I’m not into the whole online dating thing at all. But this one definitely isn’t working out and don’t plan to date anymore.

[Zack-Bann]

I think your problem isn’t the dating itself but instead the social pressure to put on the performance expected from a relationship


If you go into a date with a stranger with the express purpose of turning him into your boyfriend you will bend over backwards to make it happen and if it’s not natural and fluid it never will


And announce “I have a BF” and then sitting down for the interrogation from friends is another form of self inflicted problem that we only do to please society


My advice:
Try dating for yourself.
Meet a stranger and go with your feelings
Don’t expect him to become your husband don’t trust to earn a spot as his wife
Just have fun and have a good time and if it flops then big deal don’t stop to think about it for days


Once you meet a good match the relationship will be easy as pie

[Blunky]

Nope. Been single for 2 years and loving it, but I still go on regular dates with a couple trusted women who are also staying single (career types). New house, new hobbies, new priorities. If I meet the right woman though, I'm still willing to commit to a relationship. But for now, doing me work.

Take some time off for yourself. It's not the end of the world to not date for a bit so you can reflect on past relationships, including the one with yourself.

[Nikki1989]

I was never tired of dating. My dating years were full of fun.

[Anonymous]

Online yes and irl isn’t an option for me rn.

[Opinion Owner]

thanks for mho

[Summeroflove]

If it’s a chore take a break until you start genuinely feeling attracted to someone again. It’s okay to be exhausted and take a break if you’re not finding people who are right

[BarryLiverstone]

Nope. I’m single rn but open to meeting someone and am not in a hurry. Seems like as with other parts of life that dating is hit or miss yk

[Anonymous]

Find a guy who would be willing to pay child support and become a single mom with him. He gets to have children but pay some for the pleasure. You get a family.

[PaleDale]

There are those who can find pleasure by themselves

[Asker]

Being by myself was the best ngl. I don’t think I’m meant for a relationship and I rather just see love from afar by other couples than having to experience the ups and downs.

[Danny_dan92]

Oh yes. Definitely

[Smile456]

Sometimes