I'm not out here , but I'm extremely tired of the dating world collectively and the bs that comes with dating.. a lot of folks are fake , playing mind games, don't want commitment, etc.. I just don't have the energy anymore to even look for friends.. I was open to friends, but I don't want that... dating shouldn't be this toxic or problematic, but it is ugh 😑 ...
Advice?
I just ended a toxic situationship which a lot of modern people do. Thank goodness I never met her or we dated exclusively
Advice?
I just ended a toxic situationship which a lot of modern people do. Thank goodness I never met her or we dated exclusively
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I probably wouldn't 100% commit all your time and energy into someone you have known for less than 2-3 months, depending on how close and how well you know them. It will be easier to think more logically about the relationship rather than thinking emotional wise (because that's what girls are best at doing unfortunately XD)
I feel your pain, hence why I am answering this question. You should build a relationship with someone based on what YOU WANT. That is whether you are building for friendship OR romantic interest, outline your criteria of what a romantic partner/friendship should look like to you.
For example: Friendship should be fun, light-hearted, emotionally supportive, do things once a month, check up on each other occasionally, enjoy a few activities I like to do (e. g. foodie, adventurer, gamer, etc).
^ A basic list in order for you to enjoy a person's company, they should be able to meet most of your criteria. It is also beneficial to have a list of bad behaviours YOU CAN tolerate, like being late, very serious, very spontaneous with plans and activities, unorganised etc.
This is the same with romantic partners. If they share similar values, interests and beliefs you will get on fine. But like I said, do not over invest into someone too early, this is probably why you feel so tired now.
I went through the same experience this year. Went from friends, into romantic interest and then the guy wanted to back pedal into friendship again which had me drained and confused. If you know what you want from the start and set the standards you will be less emotionally drained.
Good luck!
This was someone I've known 2 years.. this isn't someone I met pretaining to my last situation. I don't operate like that.. I don't even date modern people.. it's takes month to court someone
I also explained I've been single 11 years and just getting out here.. I'm not seeking a relationship right now , but open to friendship
It takes months for me to court someone
Unfortunately people change over time and its natural to drift apart, come back perhaps and drift apart again. Its human nature. Our interests, values and beliefs will change over time depending on experiences. Its your duty to keep moving forward and do whats best for you whether people stay to walk with you or depart.
The people who stay with you for the long term regardless of change will be your true friends
I'm good in that area friends.. need solo time
I would suggest taking a break. Be single for a while. Enjoy the independence and freedom. Go back to trying to date when you're in the mood for it. I'd also suggest avoiding dating apps. Meet people the old-fashioned way. Find someone who shares your hobbies and interests. Go places where those people are.
I've been single 11 years I'm open to friends it's crazy out here
Stop. I'm not on any dating apps. I agree, I'm tired of that BS!
Idc for this bs way of dating