How come my ex blamed me for him being fat when we were together now that he's single he’s sloppy looking and fat?

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Ran into my ex at the batting cages, I’ve been stressed with court stuff and decided to hit some balls to relax. While I was hitting I saw him and he gained a ton of weight and had long hair/wrinkled stained clothes. Now that he’s Single, was unemployed, not a full time dad, and lives alone shouldn’t he have his life the way he wants it? I’m in a much better place and taking better care of myself being a full time mom.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

There are guys and women in the world
That Unconsciously. Are telling there Partner don't pick me Because here's some of the things I do

It's easier.
To blame you then to be responsible for myself

It's easier to play you because if I was honest I would have to do something about it

And that's just too much hard work I'm lazy. I just want to eat and watch TV

And if you are dating someone and they blame you or anyone for anything
You don't want to be with them or around them because they will never be honest with you or anyone else.

By blaming anyone for anything tell you they don't know who there are. Or they do but they don't like themselves they have no Discipline They're a liar because they lie to themselves .
Because.
They know that they had a choice but it's just easier to blame other people to take a good. look at themselves. And for them to understand that. People don't make choices for them they can't do that. Each and every one of us. We are the only one in our body. Our brain our heart. We are the only ones who can makes us do anything.

So if you have a dog or cat or horse a cow. An elephant..

Start saving up all there shit. And the next time they blame you for anything

Take all that shit put it in there car seat or down the path the walk and say go sit in your car or walk to the end of the path and back

What do you think they're gonna say.
They're not gonna do it Because you can't make anybody do anything

It's there choice and there choice only.

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

Because people who are narcissistic can never accept anything is their fault such as poor diet and exercise. I’m sorry but nobody can control that even if someone was a crappy partner. It’s still their own fault if they refuse to eat right or exercise.

People make excuses and blame others for the issues they create. They want someone who enables them and feels pity for them. Not someone who genuinely helps them grow. They want to be a victim even if they choose stupid things to be a victim over.

Valdemort · Accepted Answer

You being "fat" probably wasn't the issue. Him being insecure and unhappy himself probably was.

Finchie40 · Answer

It sounds like he used that as an excuse to make you feel like you were the reason he was fat , you weren’t the reason he was fat period , unless you jammed food into his mouth., which I highly doubt you did , but now that you saw him , you finally have your answer that you weren’t the reason , you were never the reason period , he is just a lazy piece of shit that can’t take accountability for his laziness

WhiteSteve · Answer

Should’ve sent him a line drive to the beanbag, haha That’s cool that you go to the cage. Did you play softball? Or is it just for stress relief?

Joshydavid25 · Answer

As long as it's only baseballs you wanna hit.. The world is safe.. 😌.. But, he probably got a little depressed after it all, and that's what happened..

Blunky · Answer

Sounds like he needs a full time mom himself. It's always someone or something else's fault when someone lets themselves go. Mommy probably told him he's perfect the way he is a bit too many times.

bowenw · Answer

He obviously didn't know how good he had it with you. Karma is paying him a visit.

molonski2 · Answer

God , this guy sounds quite pathetic. It sometimes goes that way sometimes complete opposite , it's easy just to blame another.

Jay-_- · Answer

He tried to find an excuse, clearly it wasn't accurate. It is true that a lot of people when they find the "one" they get fat and that's normal but you left him and he's still fat, I don't know what to tell you, maybe you left him depressed.

fish5505_87 · Answer

Don't worry about it. When I got married I was in great shape, tying to get back there one day. I think she did it purposely to make sure nobody looks at me. lol. Live the best life you can, don't dwell on his misery.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

I swear you always surprise me and most men will never admit fault I know cause I've been that guy a few times. If we admit fault then we have to also admit that we fucked up and we never want to admit that

PeterLegg91 · Answer

It's typical fat person blames others not his or her own fault

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Some people never change it seems, still trying to blame you for his problems even tho you aren't even present, quite pathetic indeed

Surely · Answer

Don’t you know that “it” is always someone else’s fault?  Insecure ex is all that I can think of!

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Exes often look for any chance they get to find fault with the person they used to date.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Has to blame someone to feel happy and be able to go to sleep

Avicenna · Answer

He's messed up

msg321 · Answer

Do you make delicious foods for him?

DrPepper12 · Answer

Good for you!

Jerre · Answer

Congratulations on being who you are

PaleDale · Answer

Simple: he's a fucking hypocrite.

Smile456 · Answer

Hypocrisy

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