My ex boyfriend use to call me fat and he was so big on me working out 7 days a week. He would see me eating a cookie or something and he would say "do you want to be a fat Fuc*?!?!?!"...it was so embarrassing. I wasn't fat I am 5'9, 128 pounds. He just completely took my confidence and destroyed it. I am with a new guy now that doesn't care at all if I have a few extra pounds on me...he says my body is perfect and I need stop worrying so much. I won't let my boyfriend see me naked of even in a bikini...i just don't want him to feel the same way my ex did. This issue is really messing our relationship up...even with sex I make sure the lights are off and I won't let him touch my breast or anything! He just wants me to relax and show my body...i am so afraid of doing this. How do I let go and feel free in my own skin?
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Just because your ex-boyfriend used to say you were fat, doesn't mean you are. I can't believe you let him get to you like that. You should have a pretty good idea of what you really look like. Do you think you're fat? Are you happy with the way your body looks? Forget about what your ex said. All that matters is what YOU think! Don't let other people change your opinions!
128 pounds for someone your height is DEFINITELY not fat. Seems like you're at the perfect weight level - not too skinny, but not really chubby either. So I wouldn't worry if I were you. If you want opinions from guys, put a simple picture of yourself and ask if people think you're fat or not. Lots of girls do it, and there's nothing wrong with it.
The best way to let go and feel free is to BELIEVE you're not fat. Stop being afraid. This new guy knows you look good, and if he's asking you to relax, then it's because he KNOWS you have a nice body, and wants you to stop feeling insecure about it. He doesn't thinkn you're fat, so why on Earth do you still believe on what your jack-ass of an ex told you? Let it go... It's in the past. You're with someone a lot better now, who thinks you're hot the way you are. The sooner you embrace that, the better.3