Have you ever felt like you will never find anyone?

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SteveSmith1985 · Accepted Answer

Yes, I have. Well now, I assume you mean "find the right one."

Anyone can find someone. The key and important thing, is that they're the right person for you.

I felt that way most acutely after thinking I had found the right person, only to find 8 years later, it wasn't after all.

Then there have been a few times where there's been some possibilities that seemed to fit and be right, but which lasted a few months or a few years.

When I was younger, (i don't know if you're 18 or 24), I had my heart broken by my high school sweet heart at age 19. I had a few not-too long relationships, then lived with a different girlfriend for 2 years. She was definitely not the one (although obviously I though she was) Then there were a couple more relationships of a year or less. ALL of that if before getting together with the girl I was with for 8 years in the previous "paragraph".

So I don't know if you're somebody who has had a string of bad relationships, or if you've never been kissed.

You asked a simple question. My answer is "yes. I definitely have. I have felt that way at many different points along the way. Every time you try things with someone, who turns out not to be right... that thought is part of the regular course of things.

I do know that everybody feels like they will never find the right person... up until the day they meet them.

You never know what life's going to throw in your path. Even if you think you know what your life will look like over the next month or year... there are chance meetings that happen (to everyone) all the time. One of those random days will be the day you find someone. You may not even find them while actively looking. You may stumble into them quite by accident.

I could tell you a long ass story about a good friend of mine. but It's late and I'm off to bed. But I've seen it happen up-close, and in acquaintances. Love can find you very randomly and from a totally unexpected direction.

All you can do is stay open to the possibility. Sometimes you'll feel more down on the likelyhood you'll find them, other times you'll feel more confident. You'll probably have a handful of times you think you found the right person, only to be wrong. Maybe you've already had that experiene. Maybe more than once alrady.

All you can do is hang in there.

I like to tell myself that the right person must be out there too, looking for me.

Hang in there and try not to get too down about it. You never know what life's going to bring across your path.

🙂

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

No. ... let me ask you is this what you feel.. if it is. Then try this Every day that you're looking into the mirror smile. And say you are beautiful.
Don't say it with just your words say it with your heart and mean it

And then smile And then say you are smart, You are intelligent you are wise And I love myself and nobody can never take that away

What you have to understand is that we are our thoughts when you believe in yourself and when you know you are a beautiful person from. The inside out

And the outside is all just an extra bonus you will glow People will see it in your eyes in your face. In the way that you walk and talk

know how much you believe in yourself and BE competent and confident. You can do anything in this WORLD And it shows. In every step, do you take
In every word that you speak?

Try this everyday for 1 month and be happy and don't think about it any more find your positive self
The girl you have always wanted to be and become her

natured · Accepted Answer

When I was in my mid twenties yes, then I found someone, that someone ruined my life and wasted 9 years of my life, and then I had the same question, until I found the answer: IT'S ME... I had to find MYSELF FIRST and love myself first before I even decided to find someone else... and that's when it worked, I'm in a beautiful and very healthy relationship right now...

Valdemort · Accepted Answer

Yeah, but it's fine. It's just a feeling that wants to be felt sometimes, not something I actually worry about.

Anonymous · Answer

Not exactly. I don't see a lot of point now. I think we all look for that person that we think is made for us. But the notion of a soulmate is silly. Anyone can be that person if they're inclined to be that person. But that's the point. Everyone's looking for what's in it for them. That's not to say they're not willing to give. But they want to get first. To make matters worse they hide who they truly are. Hiding anything that they consider through past experience to be a turn off to the opposite gender. So they become a jack-in-the-box full of skeletons. Ready to pop out and surprise at any time. This is why nobody trusts anyone anymore.

So no. It's not that I think I'll never find anyone. I think I have in the past, but wasn't smart enough to know they were my person. I know at my age good women are NOT single. It's just the law of averages. If she's a good woman some guy was smart enough to claim her by probably 25 or so. So reluctantly I just need to accept my reality that it's very unlikely I do not remain single for the rest of my life.

Zack-Bann · Answer

Seasonal depression can do that

Times a year when people are doing couples things
You feel extra lonely and nihilism sets in

The truth is: life is too arbitrary to anticipate with certainty and entire future

All you can do is play the game and hope to win it

chefsam · Answer

Yeap. Like when you think you found someone, the timing is off or they just got into relationship or they don’t feel same the way you do or other reasons. The feeling sucks. Seeing people around you in relationships while you’re the single; not a great feeling to have

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Sometimes.
I may have waited too long to find what I'm looking for in the US unless I compromise and date much younger.
I could easily find the type of woman I want overseas, but I'm too scared to do international dating because countries like to deport people who weren't born there, and I don't want to lose a wife to that.

NicholasRedone · Answer

I've grown to accept it :) ☺️ I'm pushing 30 lol 😆 the wrinkles are unstoppable for me eventually so 🙃 what's a person to do yet acceptance is bliss 😁

Nikki1989 · Answer

No, I always knew it would happen eventually. I had to do a lot of dating, but at 21 he unexpectedly walked into my life.

sawno · Answer

More like ill never find anyone I can love that much again. Still hoping she comes along though, my hearts open to it but my type is rare.

Fireguy17 · Answer

nope, not at all. I've never had any trouble finding someone, be it for one night or long term.

Jay-_- · Answer

I've set my mind on I won't find anyone and I'm okay with it.

Anonymous · Answer

I felt like that all the time, probably not in this life, maybe in the next one :(

Anonymous · Answer

There is no the one or soulmates. Just live your life. Marriage is only a piece of paper.

Anonymous · Answer

Even I fucked at least 20 women , still sometimes I feels that

NathanDavis · Answer

nope... but I've found them

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Yes but most of the time I'm hopeful on it

Smile456 · Answer

More often than not.

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