Have you ever felt unwanted or just destined to end up alone?

[Anonymous]

This isn’t me being a sad son BUT I’m curious why men don’t want me? Or at least not forever.
So I’m 19, I’m an extremely good cook and baker from taking classes and from practice at home.
I’m also an extremely good sewer. I taught myself and I currently make some of my own garments. I’m a very creative person in general. I’ve already opened my own small business which has been doing great. I’m fairly attractive. I don’t have that much confidence in my looks but every guy I’ve managed to get has been extremely attractive and they’ve all told me I’m too hard on myself. I’ve got the boobs and the bum. I’m a woman who wants to get married and have kids way in the future. I always get told by people that I’ll be an amazing wife and mother. I have patience, I’m not pushy or a nag, I trust easily and I’m not clingy, I’m forgiving and my heart is too big for its own good. I always try see the best in people, constantly giving people a chance, I try help people in any way that I possibly can. I’ve got a great sense of humour and I’m smart. I can hold good conversation and I have a lot of knowledge.

I just for the life of me can’t understand why no one wants me?

I’ve had one real boyfriend which lasted nearly two years and he cheated. Then 2 other guys I wanted to date but they kept me at arms length. Now recently I fell head over heels for a guy and that lasted 4 months and he realised he never wanted me and left.

Like what is going on?

[mattmanyah2]

When I was 22 I proposed to a girl I'd been dating for 5 years. She said no a couple of months later she announced she was pregnant (I'm a Christian and I thought we were both waiting till marriage) my world was flipped over I shut down and after a long while of feeling sorry for myself I started dating again I've dated a bunch of women but I'd only say 3 were girlfriend. I constantly work on myself to be a better man (which it sounds like you are doing) and I just started dating a girl I want to be my girlfriend. Yes I felt alone like no one wanted me but when I felt that way I dated women that weren't good for me and I really wish I hadn't.

[mattmanyah2]

The girl I like right now isn't the prettiest. she is so kind and talented she really cares for people and I can tell she love God ( all these traits I desire in a wife) I said all this to tell you that it's easy to feel alone before marriage. It's easy to feel unlovable when no one is showing you love. Keep working on you and you'll find love you are very young time is on your side.

[mattmanyah2]

Last thing be on the lookout for people just trying to use you for sex that kind of love doesn't last and will leave you feeling worst. I hope this helped.

[Asker]

I too am a Christian! I’d been praying for a Christian man but it seems impossible to get one because my area is pretty small and the guys who are around my age are in strong relationships or they sleep around. Other guys are either too young or too old haha. My ex wasn’t a Christian and that really hurt me.

I’m sorry for what you’ve gone through!

I hope you find someone and live a happy life with them! I think everyone deserves that.

[mattmanyah2]

I suggest writing down what you must have in a man. For instance I have she must love God she must care for people and act on it and that she must be stubborn but not in a bad way (I want to run an orphanage for teenagers). That's my list I date people looking for these things the girl I'm currently dating has all of them and she doesn't understand why I'm so attracted to her. o and her eyes drive me crazy... But back to you it's hard to stick to the list but the people you will date will be better men than you are used to... You have to weed out a lot of losers though. I did online dating (where I met this girl) if you go that route make sure to look out for losers I don't know where you stand on sex but put on your profile page that you don't want to have sex before 6 months this will weed out a lot of losers and don't go on dates for at least a week... Good luck feel free to message me anytime.

[Madhatter920]

Well, how old are the guys you're getting? If they're as young as you are, they probably aren't ready for commitment. They want to live a little before settling down.

You've said a lot about how you see yourself, but is that how they see you? It's great to have confidence and self-esteem. It's very attractive and healthy. However, some people can have too much and be blind to how others may perceive them.

I don't know why you have trouble finding and keeping someone. I have limited information. I can only make wild guesses.

[Asker]

The character traits I said I have is what I’ve been told by people (friends, family and previous guys I’ve been with) haha trust me I’m not full of myself or putting myself of a pedestal. I’m just saying what not only many other people have said about me but characteristic traits I know I have.

As for the guys I’ve been with, the oldest guy was 24, nearly 5 years older than me. The other guy was 20, 22 and 23.

I too am not sure why I can’t keep a guy haha. I’m always the one that gets hurt and left.

[Madhatter920]

It's usually around 30 that most guys really get in the mind set to settle down. Give or take a few years. Honestly, I'd put age as the most likely reason.

[Interstate]

That is me everyday of my life. No matter what I do or say, I am nothing more than just "a nice guy". When I was in High School I asked a girl I knew very well to the Prom. She thanked me then said there was another guy she was hoping would ask her. I found out later he never did.

[Asker]

Oof I’m sorry about that...

[Interstate]

I'm sorry for you, too.

[RawIronhide]

Well you've had more success than some, try to keep that in mind. I don't know, it seems like you just need to keep trying you may be doing nothing wrong. I would like to point out that you didn't say anything about the things you are not good at or need to work on. Not saying this is related just know that people are always looking for both.

[Anonymous]

I did before I had a relationship as everyone else had them and I didn't
Occasionally it strikes again amidst other issues and you just feel like what is the point to life but then you got hammered and everything works out once you sober up

[Shamalien]

Most people rnt looking for the real deal so if u are its difficult

[scott04sa22]

I'm somewhat of a loner but I'm trying to socialize with people more without getting hurt badly.

[Richard-Tilburg]

Do not worry, you are young. You will meet a good guy. 🌞😇

[one1wild00]

You sound like a good gal, Curious what the issue is.

[Smirnoff23]

Take your time you are young like they say plenty fish in the sea

[Anonymous]

@pronutro

That was the most manipulative and bitchiest thing I ever experienced


" can’t understand why no one wants me? " well, I can understand

[Asker]

Are you a child? Because you’re being extremely childish. I don’t want to talk so I don’t have to. Carry on with your day

[Chitown10]

I definitely feel your pain. As of lately I was rejected.

[Hotboy_booblover]

I sometimes feel lost

[In_Trance]

I think everyone does sooner or later