Are you a failure if you can’t mentally recover from a bad relationship?

[Anonymous]

I just haven’t been able to

[ohsheeT]

Your not a failure what the old saying you gave to fail before you can Succeed


Or failure is success

Every single one if us has been through this

And when your ready to get over you will. Its really that simple.

Also, you You need to just stand up and say I acknowledge it. I accept it shesI never coming back. And there will be 1 day a moment in time and you will say and I don't want her back. Because you learned your lesson whatever that might be and you will accept it and acknowledge it. . But it's only gonna last as long as you wanna. That's the truth right there.

If you wanted it to end tomorrow it will it's a choice. So stop beating your self up

You can't make somebody love you. And why would you Even want to Because if you did it would be fake.

If.
You need something wrong for it to end? Accept it , say it out you mess it up and then move on

If she did something wrong to mess it up then what are you doing... She's the one that needs to be in pain. Not you, you didn't do anything. As a matter of fact you should think her for showing you who she truly is before you looking at things in a different way

Things happen in relationships. Some there not in your control. If you did something wrong, forgive yourself and move on..
your Wasting your time. Your not going to change the out come today. But 1 day your going to meet someone and your going to take everything you have learned from this one. And make it better.

But then there's one thing you have to understand and 1 thing you have to know for sure, and that is there are 2 people they both have to make it. work If they truly want it.

You put your 100 % and she has to do the same anything could happen at any time You have to realize you can only do your part. You can't do her part

And if she can't do it, then you're gonna have to make a choice and walk away. But no matter what happened, you have to forgive yourself. Forgive her and move on.

So now.
Let me tell you this.
We all have an energy assault. A spirit a heart a brain within us

Our energy.
Is like a common sense our energy Is who we truly are

Sometimes when we fall in love and we break up , i It's hard but we get through it and we move on

But there are sometimes where our energy falls in love with their energy

We break up We try to move on but our energy is mourning her energy. You can't eat. You can't sleep. You can't think you can't function and you're talking to yourself going. What is wrong with me? Because it's not you, it's your energy.
It's a powerful thing when 2 energies. Fall in love because it's out of control. You cannot control it. And I truly believe.
Everything I just said because I've been through. It was not me that I was acting the way that I was acting. It's like something else inside of me. Took over my body and I couldn't function until I figured it out.

So from the very beginning too right now. Just because I think it doesn't mean That I am right It just means it's something for you to think about Is your experience this is your lesson

But get over it and move on. Because you have more and more lessons to learn

[Oncewildtwiceburned]

At your age, yes. A failure at the relationship not at life, and probably relationships in general. Which is fine because a vast majority of people today seem to be lacking quality in any aspect as well as just a shred of moral behavior.

Just be happy you didn’t lose kids in Family Court. Live for yourself first and a side kick might show up, People downplay sidekicks, but look they have good taste. They know a winner worth following when they see them, and thats simply female evolutionary psychology at work.

1 more thing

You aren’t alone in your loneliness bro. They say this is the loneliest generation as well as being the most technologically/superficially connected. I blame bad parenting as well as the advent of social media at our fingertips coming together in the perfect storm to induce a type of selfishness along with a death of cultural cohesion around traditions, like religion. This type of selfishness is pervasive throughout the entire world now. It’s an interesting phenomenon. I’d like to see how it all turns out. It’s not going to be pretty, we’re talking a war of biblical proportions, its brewing.

[natured]

You are not a failure, it's normal to take your time so don't be so hard on yourself, give your self time and a lot of self love. It can take some time until you will be fully yourself again but don't give up or call yourself a failure you're not.
it took me 2 years almost to recover from my crazy and toxic relationship, but trust me it was possible and I loved myself even more after that, you just have to believe in yourself, treat yourself to good things, work on yourself and your projects...
You and ONLY YOU will know how to fix yourself so don't go out to date other women while you're in this state.
I would also highly suggest therapy in case
Good Luck

[StarWarGirl]

No. There is nothing you can't recover from. Try taking some professional help or therapy. Try moving on in your life. Find out something important for you to focus more there.

My boyfriend took 6 years from recovering from past relationship. And he is totally fine now.

[SteveSmith1985]

No man. You're not a failure, you're just hurt. It depends on how long it's been. It depends on what kind of bad relationship you mean. Bad relationships can fuck you up badly.

They often leave scars that don't heal completely. It does get better though, over time. The last thing you need, is to beat yourself up for not being over it. Take the time you need to get over it, without thinking there's something wrong with that.

It might be worth seeking somebody to talk to, if it's having a significant impact you you. It depends on where you are mentally.

[Valdemort]

You cared. Many don't. Give yourself some credit and cut yourself some slack. Take the time you need.

[TheSpaceGnome]

No, you are trying to apply logic to emotional attachment or betrayal. Emotional recovery can vary on timeframe and circumstance.

[NathanDavis]

give yourself more time... not a harsh time

[Shiprex]

No it's a healing process that leaves a scar that should diminish in time. Just some may take a long time.

[DrPepper12]

8-15 months is maximum. Time to get back on the 🐴

Continuing counseling is also recommended

[Unap0logetic_]

No you’re not a failure. You sound like you’re grieving a relationship.

[scott04sa22]

Your not a failure but I do feel that ex's always lives marks on us. If any women dated me she'll quickly find the next person and moves on very fast

[LiamJHayden]

No. Probably just stuck in that mindset and unable to get past the idea that the next would probably be a similar disappointment.

[Anonymous]

I don't know, I've never been in a relationship.

[Kingofkings1992]

No, it’s normal. Being hurt doesn’t make you a failure

[NicholasRedone]

Seek a shrink 🏥 and that rhymes

[Danael31]

Most of us are failures, end of the story.

[Immedamn]

It's really hard to

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes.