How can you date or find a girlfriend if you don’t have good social skills?

[Anonymous]

The guy is always expected to approach

[Anonymous]

You can learn to have good social skills. Look into Toastmasters and go to a few meetings, they're everywhere. They're open to the public, but sometimes employers have their own groups, such as FedEx or Home Depot, which are still open to the public, and you're welcome to attend. That can have the added benefit of leading to a mid- or upper-level job when everyone gets to know you.

You can find them with the geekiest people or the most polished professionals, some groups are very casual and some are very structured, and everything in between. If you decide to do it, you can go as fast or as slow as you want, but the more experienced people are very encouraging.

You don't have to say a word if you don't want to, you can just watch, but if you do participate, over time you'll learn everything you need. It's for public speaking, but the skills you develop works for all aspects of your interactions with others, including romantic relationships.

I'm sure there are other kinds of groups like this out there where you can get the skills you want, and maybe other people will have some ideas, this is just one I know about that's in every city and town around the world, so it's easy to connect with.

[Abbycado]

Mmm, not always does the guy approach. Most of the time, true, but not always.

You have to work on your social skills. Go out in a group. We had a shy one in our group but she opened up a lot more to others when we went as a group because she felt more comfortable with us there.

[Blunky]

First and foremost, stop treating women like they're a different species. Talk to them like they're any other person. Being social with women isn't any different from being social with men.

Work on your overall social skills by going out and doing things with other people. Interacting with other people is the only way to develop your character to present to other people, hopefully in a positive manner which will attract both men and women.

[Pohjolan]

Firstly get in shape if you are not already, eat healthy, get enough sleep, floss etc.

Then make a dating profile on Feeld. Have some good pics and be very specific about your hobbies, fetishes, etc.

[IslaTheWitch]

social skills can be learned... and I know many girls, including myself, who are open to approaching a man... but it won't happen if he can't keep the conversation or flirt back...

[Nikki1989]

You man up and work on your social skills some more.

[Jay-_-]

Honestly man I'm right here with you man past up many good opportunity cause of my social anxiety, i didn't used to be, I get mad at myself often about it.

[Anonymous]

You probably can't. Or you just got to wait for a woman to run out of options. Then she'll possibly give you a chance.

[Anonymous]

I wonder the same, I'm too shy and introverted.

[serious]

Yes I think that makes it nearly impossible

[alice55]

book store or nerdy place?

[zagor]

Internet.

[beefcakebradybatson]

M-O-N-E-Y !!!