How can I address my guy friend’s behavior he is in and out (he self sabotages) but wants a future with me (relationship kids etc) ?

[BbyBell21]

[Zack-Bann]

You’re calling him your “guy friend” which alone is a problem


Just put your cards on the table


Tell him he’s either your romantic partner or a friend that will eventually sit quiet when you date someone else


Spoiler alert: he won’t sit quiet
Which is why a guy can never be just your friend

[slatyb]

Not your problem. You can't fix this. He can want whatever but you need to take care of yourself by finding someone capable of being a partner.

[Nikki1989]

You are not responsible for fixing him. Don't even try.

[HelpfulWoman]

you can't address it. thats what he needs to sort out

[Shiprex]

Do YOU want that with him? If so tell the mofo this and that he needs to either sort out his shit and quit being a twit and grow tf up.

[Staximus]

Tell him to get his shit together and you want a man, not an adult child. Ask him how he is going to support you and children if he can't even take care of himself

[glennos89]

You probably can't, only he can change himself if he has the strength and willpower to do so