I've never dated before. Is that weird?

[Mochagirl93]

Life has never really given me opportunities.

[Simslover92]

I didn't start dating and being in a relationship with a guy until 31. The age you are now. It's not weird at all. There are a lot of people out there like you. Dating is hard. It's not easy but you have to try if you really want it. If you are not keen on meeting people the natural way then maybe try dating apps.

I'm an introvert and rarely go out though I'm starting to break out of that habit, but I started going on dating apps and now I'm dating after my breakup with my ex.

It's not easy but nothing worth it ever is. If you want to be with someone then you gotta put yourself out there, whether through meeting people irl or through dating apps.

[Mochagirl93]

Yes it very hard. I'm done with dating app

[Simslover92]

Have you tried every dating app? I was done with it at first but then I tried Hinge and it was the best thing I could have ever found. I found guys that were like me on that app (weird and quirky). Maybe give Hinge a try and if you've already tried it, give it one more try.

[Mochagirl93]

I haven't try hinge. Last app I try was boo.

[Simslover92]

Yeah boo isn't a great app. Try Hinge if you can. It's much much better.

[Mochagirl93]

Ok I will try it

[Simslover92]

Okay cool!

[Screenwriter]

Your statement is telling. "Life has never really GIVEN ME opportunities."

Life doesn't GIVE you ANYTHING. You have to create opportunities to meet people by being friendly, asking friends and family to intro you to others they think you might be interested in.

People who are datable don't usually fall into your lap. You have to be open and searching.

If you've done no searching and put forth no effort, you'll get no payback.

[Mochagirl93]

I try to meet people all times. Yeah so life has never given opportunities. Unless I mess up someone marriage. Because I always get hit on by married men and that is very easy get someone else men.

[Screenwriter]

There are a subset of married men who aren't married in their minds. It might be easy to connect with a married man, but a long-term relationship with a married man is always disastrous because they never want to leave their wives and children. They just want someone new for a minute.

And if you continue with them to being a chick on the side, you will always come last after a wife, children and all the man's obligations where you can't be seen with him.

You're incorrect. You cannot "easily" get someone else's man, except on THEIR terms.

You have no control over that situation, and will be alone when you'd want to be with him No holidays, no family gatherings. You can't call him when he's at home. So, no evenings. No public events where he might be seen with you.

Nothing about being with a married man is good. So don't make that a choice.

Go to Meetups where you'll find people with similar INTERESTS as you who might develop into FRIENDS. Friends are a great resource to find other friends and potential partners. Dating apps rarely yield great results. It's people TO people that does.

[Mochagirl93]

Most of the married men I talk to have no children. wife knows about me.

[Screenwriter]

Don't cheat yourself by engaging with someone who is not single and therefore not completely available to you. And it's sleazy, isn't it? And why be with someone who's cheating on h is wife. Doesn't matter whether she knows about you or not. If all. you're doing is TALKING, that's one thing. Nothing wrong with being friends.

But if it's any more than that, you're cheating yourself. Start with Meetups. They are not solely centered around dating. They are centered around people who share INTERESTS. Some of these people are single, some attached, but you can meet a host of people who you are able to befriend and in doing that, you can be introduced to a host of OTHER people who might be single and appropriate.

[SteveSmith1985]

No, it's not that weird. I answer questions similar to this fairly regularly. I answered one earlier this week, who was a 32 year old woman who had never dated. It's not so weird that it doesn't pop up (on here)... not "often"... but it's not rare either.

So, no it's not weird. It's not usual. But there's nothing wrong with that.

🙂

[Mochagirl93]

Thank

[Shiprex]

No, weird but perhaps unusual. Do you WANT to date? Have you asked anyone to date? Would you? Do you want to?

It's not easy at first but as a woman it's becoming more common to have the means in which to request spending time with someone in a romantic sense.

[Mochagirl93]

I want to date but it hard actually find someone who want to date me.

[Shiprex]

@Mochagirl93
It's up to you then to find situations where you can get to meet and know someone who you can ask out or find out if they're available.

[Mochagirl93]

Available that hard part. I mostly get hit on by marriage men.

[Shiprex]

That may be because men aren't seeing women as attractive propositions as relationships aren't bringing all that much benefits to them these days.

[Zack-Bann]

Life never does


You have to create opportunity


It’s hard to start but it gets way more intuitive once you do

[Mochagirl93]

Thank you

[ChiTown33]

It's a little weird. Most people have had at least one date by your age. But it's not that weird. Some people are active, social butterflies and some are not.

[Mochagirl93]

I'm not a social butterfly. I would normally stay to myself.

[ChiTown33]

And that's probably why then. A guy isn't going to break into your house and ask you out.😂

[Mochagirl93]

I gave up looking a long time ago.

[Mochagirl93]

Every guy I would like would reject me and pick pick me apart.

[ThebestIndian]

Do not let people on G@G decide this. It is not weird at all.

[Mochagirl93]

Thank

[Nikki1989]

It is certainly not the norm, but I wouldn't call it weird.

[Mochagirl93]

I just gave up looking.

[jahaims]

You know it's weird and that is a sad excuse you tell yourself

[Mochagirl93]

What excuse you tell your self behind close door

[Sono83]

What do you mean life hasn't given you options?

[Mochagirl93]

I would like people. Then I would be rejected because there is always something wrong with me.

[Unap0logetic_]

It’s not weird, it’s just not that common.