Response taking longer and longer?

[Anonymous]

So i met a girl through friends almost 2 months ago we started going on dates we had fun. She would tell me after all the dates she had fun. A week ago i asked how she felt a out us she said she felt good about us. Then that Friday we went to a friends barbecue and my friends ask her infront of everyone if we were official and she said yes. Later that day we drove home and she said before she agreed to get in a relationship with me she has depression and ptsd from a death of a family member. And she didn't know if we were together because of distraction or if she really wants the relationship. She said she really wants someone but she always ends up pushing the guy away. When i dropped her off it seemed like she was trying to go inside faster than usual and we texted a bit the next day. But for a few days now its a days wait for a response. Dont know if i should ask her if she's ok or to support her of if she wants support while she's getting professional help.

Ps- i told her i wasn't going anywhere and if she needs anything im here for her

[HollyK21]

Well, you already know she isn’t ok, she told you she’s been struggling with depression. I think that while it’s nice of you to offer your support, you aren’t really internalizing the huge fact that she said she’s uncertain about the relationship. She doesn’t know whether you’re a distraction for her or the real thing, and despite knowing that you decided to move forward with asking her out anyway.


A lot of people who are good at seeing the bigger picture would’ve taken that comment as a sign to step back because who wants to willingly risk having their time wasted or being dumped? Who wants to live on the edge like this, speaking every other day waiting for the other shoe to drop and for their girlfriend/boyfriend to ultimately decide they don’t want the relationship after all? You would hardly be able to be upset because they warned you — she warned you. In my opinion this behavior of hers is nothing more than an exact result of how she’s feeling about you, which is uncertain.

[Anonymous]

So let me get this straight. She said you guys were official then later on that night she dropped the disclaimer about her "PTSD". So she decided you two were in a relationship unilaterally then told you about that? Dude she handcuffed you and you just took it. This stuff might be true. Or she might be just seeing how much control she can grab in the relationship.

[strateguy632]

Once she chose not to reply to your message, stop sending n move on.

[DrPepper12]

Wait her out but keep up the supportive communication