My dad makes me feel bad?

[İamsosad]

We were going to drive together today. But he is usually angry person. So i dont wanna with Him. he doesn't accept that he is an angry person. and he tries to be nice and pressure me and insist that we go for a drive but I know the result will be the same and he will destroy me from stress. I feel really bad right now that I have to treat him like this. I feel like I've hurt him. But if I don't do it, my whole day will be ruined because I can't stand him. And right now, I'm feeling guilty. How can I get rid of this feeling?

[Summeroflove]

So does he care that he hurt you? Seems like there is one sided care but I don’t know what he’s angry about or saying. You’re 21 a grown ass woman you have to set boundaries it doesn’t mean you don’t love him as your dad but you have to have boundaries both for yourself and for the people you genuinely want to be around you’re not completely burnt out.

You can try expressing to him how he makes you feel but if someone just won’t listen or gets too defensive they just don’t want to hear it meaning again boundaries is key.

A part of you feels angry and resentful towards your dad but another part of you loves him as well as wants to build a relationship. But that takes two people to do that if one person doubles down choosing to act a certain way that’s what they choose to be.

Another major thing is that many people don’t want to see themselves for who they really are. The choices they have made and who they chose to become is too hard to face. Sure, they can talk about everyone else as a deflection. But never talk about themselves in a negative light.

[İamsosad]

I agree with everything you said, you have interpreted it wonderfully, thanks a lot, I feel better. 🌸

[Summeroflove]

You’re welcome

[ohsheeT]

If you have to go with him today. Look at him and say Dad. So tell me how long the doctor say you were going to be angry for..


And if he says I'm not angry

Ok you might not be but reme. mber when this happens. AND that happen dad you should have seen you fach and the smoke coming out of your ears. And he will answer you with a smile or he will have a tone in his voice.

Then you can explain to him see dad this is what I mean you say your not angry. And I tell you a funny story. And you have and Angry attitude.

[SueShe]

One day, you will have to open to him how you feel if you want your inner peace. Today would be a good day to tell him how you feel about him and his moods.

If you keep your feelings in all the time, you are slowly destroying yourself, your emotions and how you perceive him.

Why is he always angry? Is he only angry with you? Are there days where he is not angry? Do you know what are the cause (s) of his anger?

Perhaps you can sit together and talk over it. I suggest you prepare a list of issues you see with your dad. Go over those issues with him. Telling him that you don't want to continue being someone you are not is much better than accepting to be the victim.

If you don't speak your mind, you will start to hate him and that is not what you want.

[İamsosad]

My father is always angry, that's his nature. My mother can handle him, but I feel oppressed and I don't insist. He doesn't change, it's really hard, because he's also unstable, so when you try to talk to him you have to disable your logic. Because he distorts the truth. For this reason, it doesn't seem like a good idea to open up to him about my feelings, I just handle it. Yes, my love for him is fading away over time. I'm sorry for that. Since I can't do anything,

[SueShe]

So sorry to hear that. Your only option is to take your distance with him.

I don't know if you still live with your parents and if you do, moving out to a location that is not too close may help you and him. Good luck.

[İamsosad]

Thanks a lot 🌸

[Babebytheshore85]

Your self esteem is low and you're weak cause no one can ever make me feel like anything other than what and who I am. So you need to do some inner work.

[Renegade_Sailor]

You're a people pleaser in the presence of someone who is perpetually angry.

Hard to offer advice as that can be for many reasons.

You might try giving him a hug, telling him you love him and you appreciate everything he has ever done for you.

Sometimes when people are angry it's because they feel unappreciated.

[Nikki1989]

You're not a bad person for prioritizing your peace. Try to shift your perspective.

[İamsosad]

Thank you

[Zack-Bann]

Do you mean he’s teaching you to drive? Or just going somewhere?


Because honestly every dad is insufferable when he teaches you to drive


Otherwise it’s a question of not letting him through


Dismiss what he says.
Don’t fuel his fight
Take an “I love you but you’re wrong” approach without actually saying that


That’s how I used to handle my dad before I moved out and he is not an easy man

[EmmaMary]

Move out and start living your own life... Simples.

[İamsosad]

I really want to do this. There is very little time left. Thank you

[EmmaMary]

You're most very welcome... Please do take care and stay safe.

[MrZameer]

prepare something which he like,
Like some food, or give him a small gift

[İamsosad]

I think I can do this, thank you

[MrZameer]

always welcome

[MrZameer]

and also try to treat him well, I mean sometimes agrees with him, even if you know that he is wrong, but still admit that he is right.

[İamsosad]

İ already do that 🤗

[MrZameer]

good 👍

[Staximus]

Tell him he needs to learn relax and not get mad all the time. Tell him it's bad for his heart and blood pressure, and you can't relax and have a good time when he's always mad.

[LukeAurelin]

Best option is to talk to him and let him know how u feel

[jahaims]

You choose how others make you feel.

[İamsosad]

You right, thanks