Why do I always feel bad when I’m around my dad?

[Anonymous]

I felt bad that I never came home to visit my family and cut my trip short in Spain to come and visit but I completely regret it as my family are so judgmental and aren’t humble as he boasts that he spends £1,000 on things. He speaks bad about his clients with his other colleagues on loud speaker constantly completely dominating the house. Complaining there is too many immigrants and other racist remarks. Is it worth it to visit family if the atmosphere is this nasty

[Oliverlogan263]

I'm really sorry to hear that you're struggling with feeling bad around your dad. That must be a really tough and uncomfortable situation to be in.

It's totally understandable why you would feel that way - it sounds like your dad has some pretty toxic behaviors that create a really negative atmosphere. The boasting, the racist comments, constantly complaining about his clients - that's a lot to have to deal with, especially when you're just trying to visit your family.

I can see why you might be regretting cutting your trip short to come home. The guilt is real, but you have to put your own wellbeing first. Toxic family dynamics like that can be really draining and damaging, even if they're your parents.

My advice would be to really think about whether these visits are worth the emotional toll they take on you. Is there a way you could set some boundaries with your dad - maybe limit the time you spend together or be more selective about when you come home? Or perhaps there are other family members you could spend time with instead, who don't contribute to that negative environment?

You deserve to feel comfortable and happy when you're with your family. If your dad is making that impossible, then it might be better to create some distance for your own mental health. Don't feel guilty about prioritizing yourself - your feelings are valid and you have to do what's best for you.

I know it's a tough situation, but try not to be too hard on yourself. You're doing the best you can. Sending you strength and positive vibes. Let me know if you ever need to vent more about this.

[HoldingtheSword]

Who cares dads, find a boyfriend and give him a blowjob that's all