Well let me be clear anyone can have any expectations they want to have men or women. But at the same time they aren’t entitled to anyone and the opposite sex doesn’t owe you shit.
People are hypocrites but you’ll notice the people demanding the most are the people with the least to offer. The type of men or women they want typically aren’t choosing them so they become bitter as well as resentful. They feel entitled to who they want but don’t want anyone else feeling the same way for them.
If someone doesn’t want me over superficial or materialistic reasons I don’t really want someone like that anyways so it’s not a loss for me.
It's perfectly OK for people to have all kinds of expectations for an ideal mate/date. Doesn't mean those expectations are reasonable or will pan out.
I think people are package deals. You either accept the package, or you don't.
If you have requirements that exclude people that are otherwise great because of their being a few inches too short, not rich enough, or 15 pounds heavier than your ideal woman, OK, pass them up.
But I'd, excuse me, "weigh" the value of a person before I'd dismiss them as a prospect.
If you're talking about extreme cases, of course, extremes won't work. But don't toss out the baby with the bath water. Be circumspect.
we don't ONLY have those expectations like men do too lol its normal
everyone just has a different degree of standards like some are extreme and some couldn't care less. i feel like we get caught up too much in our heads when most people's standards are like at a normal level
Men don't have height and money expectations of women. Men know you can't change height and are aware they're supposed to provide money wise in a relationship. As far as women many think it's okay to be obese and unattractive yet expect to get a brad pitt
Well, men can have any standards and preferences they want. Women, sadly will keep trying to shame and lecture men as to what standards they should have but, at the end, of the day their standards will stay in place and all of the lecturing and scolding and shaming won't change anything.
We don't care about women's jobs and travels and accomplishments and many probably will care if she is overweight or too bossy and masculine or if she has been too promiscuous.
Justs the facts. Women care about height, status, competency, masculinity, leadership and assets. (Not all of course but many) and men will keep having their own standards as well.
I‘m a guy who is willing to date overweight (but not obese women), but I have my own criteria in other areas. Its up to the individual to have their own expectations and you can’t hide something like height or weight anyway.
At the end of the day, we all date who we’re attracted to some level, it’s not necessarily an expectation, but just a preference and I do think women also have weight preferences, it’s about health but I don’t think it can be dealbreaker or a excuse for shaming someone— same with height. Because, if I were to fall in love with a fit and tall man and they gain weight over the years, I’m not going to break up just for that cuz then it’s an expectation which is wrong. If any relationship is based silly expectations like these, then guess what, then it’s probably just lust. I would encourage them to stay healthy out of love. But I will say, weight CAN change while heights cannot. I won’t deny that looks do matter, but it’s such a small factor, people hyper focus too much on looks rather than truly learning someone’s character and that goes for both height and weight.
Women are not in it for love or sex. They are in it only for the best deal that they can get. We deceive ourselves into thinking that women have the same sexual appetites that we do. But they don't. But they do realize that we are addicted to sex and we can be controlled and manipulated by proper rationing of it.
But when you lose your job, you will lose everything. If they find a better deal, you will lose everything. Modern western women are a terribly bad deal. And we are best to resort to rentals, which are mistresses and friends with benefits. We look at physical attractiveness and accessibility. They look at money and height because they reflect earning power and providing for them.
Back when women loved God and loved family and children, they were worth taking the risk for. But now it's all about money, prestige and power. Better just to stay home.
It’s okay For both to have the standard. Just people really have to know their place, like 5ft women who mock 5’5 men and call them short are hilarious, and poor women, from poor family who expected to get only men with money are clown. And same with men who over weight or just have no fit body but always want to get women with model body with small waist are shameless.
I've always had serious weight expectations , I'd never go with a fattie , never have my entire life , as it says a great deal about them. Plus my diet and exercise is very structured.
The entire Western world overall if sloppy and fat , and that because they are lazy , good choices must be made , right throughout life. My mother had type 2 diabetes, as does my brother , I was not going down that path , so I went opposite.
both men & women have someone in mind of what they want, it is human nature, some like big boobs, a big ass, short, thin whatever, rich, tall, a Hallmark movie romance, a great personality. Why sould anyone have to settle for less than what they want?
The way I look at it, everyone has the right to have preferences, and that's perfectly fine. Just don't act offended when the person that fits yours rejects you for not fitting theirs. (That's a general "you", not you, specifically).
Hate to say it but judging by the woman's boob size and probable ass size her weight is all in her tits and ass which most redblooded Hetrosexual men would have no problem with.
Really? That level of muscle is unusual, and so are the men who prefer that. I think most men who like curves on a woman, me included, are most drawn to the fit-curvy, not musclebound-curvy
@babebytheshore85 I didn't take what she was saying that way. I thought she was saying that many men like bigger asses and bigger breasts, which is often true.
None of those things are ok, but I think the weight thing is worse because it carries with it the patriarchal baggage that women have to be skinny and perfect. That’s worse than women’s expectations of men because the fear of fatness has had thousands of years to internalize, where women’s expectations of height and money is only a couple generations old at most.
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Ok maybe not thousands of years. Skinny women have only been in for a couple hundred years or so. But still a very long time.
A woman can have whatever expectations she wants, but will also have them. Women, generally, prefer taller men with financial stability, and security. Men, generally, don't want a fat woman. That's the way it is, whether it's okay or not.
Also height is something a guy can't change without surgery and it's a dangerous elective surgery that's freaking messed up and weakens your leg bones for life. Weight on the other hand can almost always be shed if you just get enough exercise and last I checked woman didn't like fat guys either so it's hardly a double standard too.
Can't tell them that though lol 🤣. I've notice you have to do this. Even with men being a woman other women are very intrusive and if you decline them knowing your personal life they get angry as if your business is their business. They act like they're entitled to your life.
Because it's a stupid double standard. Especially since most women who seem to have height expectations are those thst would be denied for weight expectations.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🥴😳 I couldn't believe she had the audacity to post this on social media. I wad embarrassed for her and shocked at the fact she though this was sexy
They do I agree yet men can't change their height and they know and accept that. If they say they don't want a fat woman here comes the me too movement
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