Picture this:
Society is becoming increasingly anti-migration, and the birth rates are at an all-time low. The birth rates in America are currently at 1.6, well below replacement levels (2.1).
Now add to it the gender differences in political ideology, and you create the shit cocktail of a dying population.
If men and women don't fix their relationships and have more kids, the future might look much darker than what it is today with a smaller working population having to support more and more elderly retirees. Higher taxes, likely return of military conscription and ghost towns.
Did I go too far? I apologize, let's wind back to the current times.
Most people think about dating through individual lens. I don't blame them, I see that picture. I believe you should be with someone that you find both attractive and compliments your personality and beliefs. I also think that such people aren't a rarity (at least not yet) and that most people tend to look on the surface level without ever digging too hard. Again, I don't blame them. In this short attention span economy it's easy to get lost in the tiktok rabbit hole of online gurus telling you how you should behave to attract women and create the best version of yourself, and I believe that you will probably become more cynical and have a worse idea about women, making you less likely to try when you have less resources.
Don't get me wrong, I believe our female peers of today are not like the women of our grandmother's generation, but that's only because the men of today have changed and become nothing like the men from our grandfather's generation. Women today on average are more likely to file for divorce and less likely to prioritize getting married in the first place, opting instead for social cohabitation (aka relationships) more than their predecessors. Women today are more likely to not see a problem with having children outside of wedlock, and are less likely to believe that the only way to have a family is under the union of marriage, although as an institution marriage still exists.
Whether or not you believe this is positive or negative, one thing remains certain. There's no going back in the foreseeable future. People moved on and one third of the world economy now depends on women. It becomes a question of taking them where they're at. Blame your dad's generation for conceding on many important issues regarding family's welfare and acceptance of "planned parenthood" programs that affect birthrates and threaten the very existence of the nuclear family. The biggest changes have been social, not political, and a new generation of men grew up with a different set of codes and ethics than did our grandparents.
To answer your question directly, a man shouldn't "build himself for one woman". That's flawed thinking, and an oversimplification of the problem. A man builds himself because he has a purpose in life that God has given him to fulfill. Ambitious men create societies, innovate and inspire generations. They don't do all of that for a woman, they do that because they believe in that. If you want a woman, you don't need to do HALF of what those gurus online are telling you to do. All you have to do:
1) Be presentable. Haircut, decent style and maintain hygiene.
2) Don't be awkward. Learn how to behave in a social setting and how to maintain conversations going from topic to topic. Keep them engaged. Learn how to be charismatic.
3) Be financially literate. You don't need to be rich, you have to have a 401k plan and an emergency fund for 6 months. Save, invest and repeat. Live within your means and don't overspend.
4) Be authentic and don't try too hard. Women especially can sense fakeness and will be able to tell if you really take that taekwando class you were talking about, or if you're just lying to look cool and impress them.
That's literally it. That's all it takes. Bear in mind that this can get you the number, even a few dates, but it won't maintain the relationship. Maintaining a relationship is a two-way street for both of you, and also that rejections are common these days because of the attention economy and the broadening of available options for many women online. That doesn't mean that all of them are delusional, plenty of average guys are doing just alright and aren't struggling to find women.
Moral of the story. If you're not gonna become exceptional for the right reasons (changing the world/ influencing your community) then don't try doing that to "attract a woman", it will only affect how you view women more negatively, and it will cause you a lifetime of depression and fatigue.
People need to figure out how to like each other again because if they don't, the alternative is much more sinister.
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7 moI don’t think that’s settling I think some people want a lifelong companion others are miserable only after sex needing that next thrill. Constantly having new partners cheating as well as being cheated on it’s a miserable life. It’s fun at first but leads to major issues including having kids out of wedlock, STD’s, Court issues, among other things.
People who seek a genuine connection, best friend, wife, and companion are different then those just chasing tail. At the end these men and women will suffer the consequences of their actions later in life.
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@Summeroflove If you have multiple options then by definition that's settling. Most men if given the choice would want a new woman every day, it's just that very few can pull this off. This is why men that can are held in the highest regard.
- 7 mo
It’s not settling if you genuinely love someone. People who can’t build genuine connections think like you.
By your logic it would be the same for women though too. - 7 mo
@Summeroflove A man can love a women and still bang other chicks, after all it's just a physical thing for the man. Woman typically become are looking for the best man they can get so they become attached through sex. How many women have you actually had sex with?
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I don’t think you can cheat on someone you genuinely love. Some people do it and feel bad for a while until they don’t anymore
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But women do the same thing as well so… Your point? Cheating is wrong. Regardless. You don’t want to be cheated on so you shouldn’t cheat
- 7 mo
But it’s Always rules for the but never for me
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Better yet find a woman whose also worked herself up as well. See that’s how success works not just having sex with loser women who want your money.
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@Summeroflove I agree, however for men, having sex w/ another woman isn't cheating. Not providing for them is.
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@Summeroflove Actually that's not true. If a woman is w/ a man she respects and admires, she doesn't even want to look at another man. Men no matter how attractive the girl is are always going to want another one. That's simply biology.
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@Summeroflove Women don't "work themselves up" they are born w/ value and have to fight to keep it. Men have to work themselves up, once they do they get the luxury of having multiple women. That's how the real world works
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Everyone’s born with value. If people grow up to be a shitbag. They become a shitbag.
- 7 mo
The type of relationships you’re promoting encourages narcissists and abuse. For both genders.
Women who just want a provider will cheat. 9/10 times because there is no genuine connection and once they find better they discard or if she blows all his money.
As for women. Getting cheated on. Beat. And eventually dumped for a younger woman - 7 mo
I know how these relationships end. It’s never good
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@summeroflovev that's false women are born w/ value men are not. An 18 yro women has much more value than an 18 yro man. I'd you don't believe me take both of them to any nightclub in the world.
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@Summeroflove Again this is false, and don't be embarrassed that you don't know this because it sounds like you're a bit inexperienced. Women are looking for the best man that they can get. As long as you are that man you'll be fine. You're going to run into trouble because you believe in the intangible nonsense that a lot of young guys do.
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@Summeroflove How would you know?
- 7 mo
Nightclubs lol. Just because perveted flirt with young girls doesn’t mean they have more value. Grown ass teachers have sex with underage boys too
- 7 mo
Women who been married decades empty their husbands bank accounts to young dudes.
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Dude I’ve seen these marriages flop. Chicks marry men in the military for benefits and divorce then when they get out. Chicks marry men for money and something happens such as a job injury and they leave.
- 7 mo
Men marry young beautiful women. They grow old. They divorce them for a young woman…
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@Summeroflove Nightclubs are a tangible example which validate my pov. Discrediting them because it makes you "feel" bad doesn't help your argument.
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@Summeroflove Not at all, again this is a statement from a man who has had little success with women.
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@Summeroflove What does this have to do with the original statement?
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@Summeroflove That only proves a woman value lies in her youth.
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@Summeroflove Your statement isn't terrible, the problem is you don't understand that cheating is different for men and women
7 moIf you want to date multiple women you have to make sure plenty of women would actually want to date you first even if your successful is it really worth it if your gonna cheat them if you have nothing else going for you besides "success" plus why don't you just pay a sex worker instead if your successful and don't want a serious relationship
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@puppystarfish23 Actually no, and don't be embarrassed because most women don't understand this. If you're successful as a man, the women come to you, and you get to pick and choose the ones you want. You're not "cheating" them as long as you're able to provide and protect, because that's your job. A "sex worker" is a low level women. (Any women can sell their body for sex) so why would a man like myself who entertain a sex worker when I can have any woman I want, and not have to deal w/ their drama?
- 7 mo
Oh sorry, silly me I'm forget I know nothing about women whist being a woman. I'm just a stupid bitch whose needs to get back to the kitchen
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Why ask if you already know so much about women and were all wrong?
- 7 mo
Plus if your so successful why are you on G@G surly you should be out making money and having sex with models
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@puppystarfish23 Apology accepted, you know what you want, but you don't know what it takes to be attractive to a women as a man. Don't be embarrassed most women don't
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🤣🤣🤣🤣 yeah no idea what women find attractive only been one for 27 years what would I know. Women love men who master bate to Andrew Tate in there mum's basement.
- 7 mo
Never answered my question either. Why are you asking I'd you already know everything?
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@puppystarfish23 As clearly stated, you know what you find attractive, however don't understand what it takes to be attractive to a woman as a man.
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@puppystarfish23 That's a great question. I operate a service that helps men have success w/ women. GAG is a great platform because you get to see in writing the ignorance of females when it comes to relationships. You have demonstrated this quite effectively. The original question asked why a man would elevate himself to settle with one woman yet you are attempting to pretend it ask for help, having this in writing validates what I teach men about female delusion. TY for sharing.
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@puppystarfish23 What makes you think I don't?
- 7 mo
The fact your asking is one of the reasons and secondly women hate arrogant men. I know your just a troll anyways
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@puppystarfish23 That's an odd belief, however because I understand women I realize that your response comes from an emotional position of not liking what you heard. You "feel" bad so you want to respond. It's also important for guys to see that you ignored parts of the question and are attempting to frame it in a way that makes you "feel" better. Having this demonstrated in writing is a valuable tool young men can use to help them understand the female brain.
- 7 mo
Cool beans 👍
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@puppystarfish23 Glad I could educate you
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7 moBecause one woman is enough unless people want to go downwards and have many women
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@Changiis07 Most successful men have multiple women as men prefer variety.
- 7 mo
Most "successful man" are not living in sin
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@Changiis07 I can't speak to that because "sin" is subjecting, however most tangible successful men have multiple women, as they have earned tje right to do.
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@lexim That's obviously not true, all you need to do is look at the history of the world.
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@lexim Not sure why you believe that, or why you think you would know, but simple public record proves you wrong. Kobe Bryant, Will Chamberlain, Derek Jeter all millionaires all w/ multiple women. So who are the ones you believe settled for one woman?
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7 moHandling multiple women is too much work.
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@AviatorTom Lol, that's unfortunate, and I can can see your perspective, however that's why you have to build yourself up so you can easily replace the ones that are hard worl for you.
2.3K opinions shared on Dating topic. I once gave the analogy for relationships where people who are dating and focused on having fun have a small boat. They stay near the shoreline. The motor on their boat often makes a lot of noise and they make a big show of running around but the boat never goes far. Trips are short. When you find the right woman to settle with your relationship becomes like a cruise liner. It can go places the small boat will never go. It can stay out for months/years. It's got way more entertainment stuff going on. It can weather massive storms. There's a lot of pluses.
The problem is that today you have a lot of lazy people who want everything instantly and can't invest in building a relationship the right way... and can never bother to be selective and find the RIGHT person. Then they go around claiming to be experts on what's possible.
That said, there's no law that says you have to settle. Not everyone is cut out for it.
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@hahahmm I understand what you are attempting to say, however it doesn't seem like an applicable anology. Men and women have different dating goals, yet women and inexperienced men always attemp to apply female dating metrics to men. Men who are focuses on dating and having fun actually are the ones w/ the cruise liner. Men that are rich, successful, and focused on achievement are the ones that can go places. Men who focus their energy on one woman are the ones who are stuck on the shoreline.
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Eh, I would say that from a male pov.. I mean a guy who wants to settle, he has to look at it from his POV which is the exact opposite of not having purpose... the opposite of simping. He has to ignore all of the woman who would be bad for his purpose. I call it a cruise ship because when he is with the right woman it is a forever type situation. I personally can only think of one couple that went decades without marrying but a bazillion that were married for decades.
Yes, it's true that women who don't want serious with a guy think they're on a cruise ship and the guy who doesn't want serious may think that too. But look at results. People talk like they can have everything they would have in a committed marriage from someone they're not actually committed to. I don't see that happening. Yes, they can have fun. - 6 mo
@hahahmm Are you on drugs? No man is rewarded for wanting to settle for one woman. That is a female metric. Throughout history men that can get several beautiful women have been respected and in some cases built empires behind that skill. in my opinion you sound like a female posing as a man on GAG.
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@hahahmm Stop it. Never event mentioned leaders. Bunch of regular men have built empires because of their ability to attract women. Hugh Hefner, Larry Flint, Dan Blizarian the list goes on and on. Your anology makes no since and sounds like the typical bs women try to say to make guys think there's something wrong w/ doing something completely natural.
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7 moBecause we aren't Muslims, nor libertines, nor something similar.
One woman is enough for the rabble, what they need in my opinion is some unpaid hard labor, fixing up roads or sweeping the street. That would do some good, keep the mind occupied and keep out subversive and malicious ideas.
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@Sun_Kim-Ai Please elaborate.
- 7 mo
To vegas "they" means those wanted polygamy.
1.8K opinions shared on Dating topic. If he feels the need to have multiple women then he’s not built himself enough yet
And I’m not saying settle for the first girl that comes along.
Be picky, have standards, do all that
But a worthwhile woman is better than some perverted post modern harem any day015 Reply- 7 mo
@Zack-Bann If that then why have the most powerful and successful mem throught history had multiple women?
- 7 mo
@Zack-Bann Lol, that's factually not correct, and TBH a statement that shows that you don't understand male female dynamics. The simple example of people like Wilt Chamberlain, JFK or Derek Jeter easily disproves your theory. How many women have you actually had sex with?
- 7 mo
Really that’s your brilliant counter example? 2 athletes and one mobster turned politician?
They didn’t use “power” to get girl they used fame
Don’t disapprove a thing
Genghis Khan, Napoleon, Hitler, Goddafi, any Ottoman Sultan
Or even rich guys like Musk Bezos and Gates
All powerful men and all atrocious with women eventually having to buy it or pretty much kidnap them
And I’ve been with 18 women til now but I’m not sure how that’s relevant compared to if I had been with 2 or 1000 - 7 mo
@Zack-Bann There are countless examples, and three more than the ones you presented tp provide a logical counter argument. In fact you proved my point as "fame is simply a metric of a man's value. The 18 is relevant because it shows you have limited experience.
- 7 mo
18 is a long way from “limited”
It’s more than what my entire family’s body count combined and I have a big family.
This post modern bullshit that you somehow need to sleep with 100 different women before you can understand them is just that: bullshit
I’m not some virgin reading about it in books.
I meet and talk to women every day - 7 mo
@Zack-Bann That only proves that your family is limited and have passed those beliefs to you. Assuming you had sex at 17, 18 women is less than 2 per year. I don't know if it's 100 but you need more than 18. I'm glad you meet and talk to women everyday because they are simply a numbers game and you won't get better w/out more practice.
- 7 mo
I had my first at 23. 4 and a half years ago
And I was dating number 17 all of last year (dated number 12 and 9 as well ) so it was not 2 women per year over 10 years some even suggest I have a “problem”
And my family is not limited they’re just not hedonistic like me and come from a traditional place of marriage and loyalty - 7 mo
@Zack-Bann So you were a 22 yro virgin?
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@Zack-Bann Then you're pretty new to female nature. I would say get some more experience b4 weighing in on these matters
- 7 mo
Im so sorry I JUST now realized you’re the one who asked the question not some random guy who replied to me 😂
I was confused for a quick minute and then I realized when reading the question:
You’re actually an idiot. 😂
Everything else you said makes so much more sense
Good luck with your harm man
20 years older than me and still haven’t figured out how childish the notion itself is - 7 mo
@Zack-Bann If you believe building yourself up is childish then you're in for a difficult life.
- 7 mo
@Zack-Bann Happy to hear that you learned something. You are more than welcome to settle for one woman once you build yourself up, however history says you won't.
There are so many paths into your question. Maybe the simplest path is that marriage is designed to distribute women evenly between men, and then provide a legal basis to raise children for 18 years or so. I could write another 4000 or 5000 words, but that is probably enough for this post
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7 moSounds like a question Patrick Bateman would ask himself as he's looking at his reflexion in the mirror during sex.
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7 moBecause he wants a better woman. But more precisely it is not "settling," one good gal is the ideal goal and the purpose of meeting many.
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@Sabretooth Men seek variety, women seek one man.
Well it really comes down to if you prefer something profound and meaningful or something shallow and transitory. You can’t have both.
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@vevv123 I'm not sure if that's true, but I would say most mean would prefer having variety. Women prefer to be w/ one man, however they attempt to use shaming tactics as an attempt to preventen from executing on their mature. "Profound, meaningful, shallow, transitory" are all words designed to make men question their natural instincts.
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@Vegasrunner No shaming at all. It's not really a gender problem either because I've seen women think like this too. I can assure you someone that doesn't care about you being with other people doesn't value you or respect you. There really has to be no feelings for someone to be capable of that and if those are your values and you are able to reciprocate the lack of feelings, then by all means go for it. As long as you aren't playing around with people that actually want something serious, that would definitely make you deserving of shame.
- 7 mo
@vevv123 Whenever you attempt to use an ad hominem as an argument by definition it's shaming. It's an old tactic used by women to compensate for their inferiority. Most women definitely care about a man being w/ other women but some are smart enough to understand that if they are lucky enough to get am exceptional man, that they are going to have to share him. Personally, I like to keep a minimum of three women, and while they may not like it, they much prefer the benifits of they get of being w/ me than being w/ a man of lower value. Most women would rather share a HV man vs having a loser to themselves.
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@vevv123 You would have to first retain a HV man to even have that option.
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@vevv123 It validates that you're making a statement out of emption instead of logic and reality.
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@vevv123 I do believe there will believe there is a subsection of women who will have to stay alone and invest in cats and dogs, however it doesn't have any impact on HV men. As long as we have multiple options, then that's all that matters. TBH there are some weeks I can't even remember my women's name so I refer to them by days.
- 7 mo
@Vegasrunner And see you're already struggling to keep up. Imagine the day you call the cops because you think you have home invaders. 😂
- 7 mo
@vevv123 I doubt I'm the only person struggling w/ females delusion. Why would I call the cops on home invaders? You would have to because unfortunately you're inferior.
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@vevv123 Home invaders are relevant to this conversation how?
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@vevv123 you spelled weak wrong.
Anonymous(18-24)7 moBecause he worked hard to get her and values her.
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@anyoymous So you're saying it's the only women he can get?
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7 moMaybe I'm deluding myself, but I have to think one good woman is worth 100 bad ones.
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@ProbablyClueless Yes you are deluding yourself.
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😂 I never rule out the possibility!
- 7 mo
Not delusion, that was a brilliant comeback in accuracy and logic! 👍🥇👨🎓
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@ProbablyClueless How many women have you been with?
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7 in total. I'm certainly not a lothario, but I also never particularly wanted to be. I do have experience with women.
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@ProbablyClueless Very limited experience though.
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🤷♂️All I can do is answer the questions I'm asked to the best of my ability
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@ProbablyClueless NY point is you lack ability
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lol Yeah, I was picking up on that.
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@ProbablyClueless Don't feel bad as you gain experience you will improve.
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I don't feel bad about it at all
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@ProbablyClueless Good, hopefully that will lead to a willingness to improve.
- 7 mo
What are some insights you think I would benefit from?
7 moFor the sake of sharing a life of love with said woman.
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@thegreenyogi That's a benifit for the woman, not the man. For one thing yoy would be sharing w/ a depreciating asset, while your value increases.
12.8K opinions shared on Dating topic. Why would a woman work hard to build herself up only to settle for a fraction of a man?
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@slatyb That's a good question and don't be embarrassed that you don't know. Women are born w/ value so they don't need to "build themselves up" all they need to do is stay pretty and quiet and they have a shot at the man of their dreams. Men need to build themselves up and provide a ton of value to have a shot at the women of their dreams.
7 mowomen will always be superior in my opinion , u can see it in nature
01 Reply- 7 mo
@Reem12345reem Is there anything specific you believe females are superior at?
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7 moI think that part one of your question has nothing to do with part two.
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Anonymous(25-29)7 moBecause that's the normal thing to do. Otherwise, what difference would you make compared to a polygamous wild animal?
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@Anonymous actually history has shown that the "normal" thing for a man to do is for successful men to have multiple women.
Opinion Owner7 moForget history and come to the present. Or if you can meet all the living conditions of multiple women, you can set up a harem for yourself. No one can interfere with that.
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Anonymous(36-45)7 moThe same reason why a woman would settle for one man.
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@Anonymous women don't settle on men, they seek the best man they can get to committ to them.
Opinion Owner7 moLots of women just want men for money, or looks.
If you don't have one or the other, you don't get the girl.
However, unattractive women have to settle on men, they can't be choosers.- 7 mo
@Opinion Owner I would argue most women want men for money. Looks isn't as important, which is why you will see rich, old ugly men w/ some of the hottest women in the world.
Opinion Owner7 moExactly, money is the priority for them.
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@Opinion Owner Good, glad I could educate you.
Opinion Owner7 moLoL, educate me? I have known this for decades :D
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@Opinion Owner Then why ask me?
Opinion Owner7 moThis is your question, not mine... I was just commenting.
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@Opinion Owner But if you don't understand the subject why would you comment?
Opinion Owner7 moI already told you, I understand perfectly.
I'm single, I've never been in a relationship... most likely because I'm not rich, nor handsome.
7 moBecause that's how monogamy works
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@Sirenboobzilla How does that benifit a HV man?
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That's for the him to decide
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@Sirenboobzilla He's already decided it doesn't, which is why men are valued by the number of women they can pull.
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Good for him
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@Sirenboobzilla You asked.
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Ah actually you did
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@Sirenboobzilla Not really I felt like your statement was a question so it must be one.
- 7 mo
None of my statements were posed as questions. I would advise looking up statement questions and expand your knowledge, thus ACTUALLY raising your value
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@Sirenboobzilla I'm simply mimicking your logic.
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If you say so
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@Sirenboobzilla glad I could educate you.
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7 monot everyone wants to be a manwhore.
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7 moA man would have to be crazy to do that
00 ReplyA man would have to be crazy to do that
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