Why is it strange for successful men to have only one woman?

[Vegasrunner]

[Anonymous]

Having more than one and keeping more than one is another matter, women have sexual needs and if he's not satisfying those because he's with another she will find another.

[Vegasrunner]

@Anonymous Keep them after sex?

[PretzelBeanie]

I don't think it is strange. Where I live, monogamy is the norm for everyone. Things like harems would be considered very unusual.

[Vegasrunner]

@PretzelBeanie Where do you live?

[PretzelBeanie]

I live in the USA. Where do you live?

[Vegasrunner]

@PretzelBeanie Lol, Do you live in Disneyland? Monogamy certainly isn't the norm in America. I think we've found the flaw in your thinking.

[PretzelBeanie]

What do you think is the norm, if it is not monogamy?

[Vegasrunner]

@PretzelBeanie It's the same as it's always been, top 20% of men get 90% of the women, remaining 80% of men compete for the 10% that are left. This dynamic is responsible for women having inflated egos and inexperienced men providing the most male relationship commentary.

[PretzelBeanie]

What does that even look like for an individual man? What is the expected norm for one man from the top 20%, and one man from the bottom 80%?

If I meet any man I just assume he probably has either 1 or 0 women he is in a relationship with. Maybe he is cheating or has a lot of exes, but most men I have met only have 1 partner at a time.

[Vegasrunner]

@PretzelBeanie Excellent question, and don't be embarrassed that you don't know this, my general position is that woman aren't able to understand relationships for obvious reasons. Biggest difference from top 20% v top 80% is options. Most top 20% men are going to have access to exponentially more women, those women will be selected based on specific criteria, w/ frequency, meaning we can choose the type we want, and dictate the frequency of dates. This is because 90% of woman are seeking top 20% of men. This leaves the other 80% left to compete for the remaining 10% of woman, who ironically are the ones no men want. Fat girls, babies momas, sex workers etc.
I agree if you met a man you would assume he has no women, this is an indication that you yourself are average therefore have proably never HV man, or worse wouldn't recognize one when you saw. You're most likely dealing w/ the 80% men left to compete, and even could be the 10% or woman that wants those type of men.

Whats the largest per plate benifit you've ever been to?

[PretzelBeanie]

You mean that the top 20% of men do only have 1 woman at a time, but many women want to be that 1? So he can be choosy when picking a partner and not worry about whether he will be able to find a different one if he doesn't like the one he chooses? That just sounds like someone who moves through relationships quickly and doesn't settle down. That is not very unusual, I agree. I wouldn't call that “having more than 1 woman” though. He doesn't "have" the woman any more after their relationship ends, so he still will only have 1 woman at any time.

I said I assume he will have 1 or 0 women, not just 0 women. Most men I know are in a relationship, or have been before. I have known only one man to have multiple women at the same time though. He is not "successful" as far as his career—he is technically homeless. But he is successful with women who don't fit your examples of the bottom 10% of women. He is charming. Does that make him part of the top 20% of men? Or would he be an exception to the rule? This is a fascinating theory you have, and I'd like to understand it better.

[Vegasrunner]

@PretzelBeanie Lol, no that's not what I said at all. Most top 20% men are going to juggle 3-5 women at one time. The second part of your 1st paragraph is irrelevant because it's based on a false premise.
If a guy is stuck w/ only being able to get one woman, then his value is the same as a guy who can't pull any. Your anecdotal evidence isn't relevant nor accurate because as you mentioned previously you don't understand this dynamic.
Also it seems a bit unrealistic, how would you know the dating habbits of a homeless man? Have you considered that your limited experience is a contributing factor to your ignorance of this matter?

[PretzelBeanie]

I knew his dating habits because we used to work together, and some of the people he would stay with were mutual friends. Your partners are not secrets, they are pretty big parts of your life. Most of the people who know you usually know when you are dating someone.

I may have limited experience in relationships myself, but I have never even heard of multiple parters being popular or common, and even open relationships (still 1 partner, but you can sleep with other people) seem very rare. Are these top 20% of men all in some niche hidden corner of society where most people never meet them? Are they all hermits or something?

[Vegasrunner]

@PretzelBeanie You're making the mistake of thinking female behavior is normal behavior. Women want to let everyone know about their partners especially of the respect and admire him, because that's how they are judged. Men especially men that are successful w/ women understand the importance of keeping them secret.
You answered your own question. You've never heard of this because you're inexperienced, why would you think you would know about something you've never experienced? No the top 20% are in plain sight, Tiger Woods was famous for having dozens of mistresses Kobe Bryant went on National TV and told everyone he cheated on his wife, etc, etc. There are tons of these examples you just don't like them so you are pretend they don't exsist to attempt to make a point. Many women are more concerned with being right to let the truth get in the way

[PretzelBeanie]

Oh. So you are just talking about cheating after all, not actually having multiple partners. You could have just said that. Lol

[Vegasrunner]

@PretzelBeanie No again try to read the actual words and limit your emotions, I realize its difficult for women to do that. I'm providing you tangible examples to support my theory. In America we call this evidence and we use this to determine validity. If I tell you successful men have multiple women and then give you examples of successful multiple women, in a court of law I am awarded the winner. You haven't provided any evidence to the contrary so you would be considered a loser or at least your argument would. Are you able to comprehend this? B4 responded please think and use logic.

[Seangreen]

Because the more women you have the more it costs and the less money you're going to have and yeah you'll figure out the rest I'm sure

[Vegasrunner]

@Seangreen So you're saying broke men get women?

[Seangreen]

No I'm saying that if you have a shit ton of women you're going to have a shit ton less money so if you only have one you're probably going to have more money and be more successful

[Vegasrunner]

@Seangreen Your opinion is based on a false belief. Actually if you know what you're doing, having a lot of women should easily provide you more financial value.

[Seangreen]

Yeah if you're a pimp, hell yeah dog Pimpin Ain't Easy

[Vegasrunner]

@Seangreen That's one way, but having access to a lot of women will get you into a lot more social circles providing you with a ton of opportunities. (Further validation that men that attract women are valued more then those that dont) But there are tons of ways to leverage having a lot of women, you can't seriously think there isn't?

[WonderingManII]

Because women are attracted to success, power and money.

[Anonymous]

In my opinion, it's not strange, but people usually think that successful men have more women, it's a stereotype.

[loveyouoak]

It isn't strange.