What Makes Someone Creepy?

[Anonymous]

[Joshydavid25]

Being creepy is really just based on threat level.. If someone or something is creepy it basically means that they feel ominously threatening to one's livelihood.. Like say for example, if you see a baby or even a kid staring, it'll either be cute or nothing because their threat level is basically nonexistent..

[Cormac995]

A lot of things apparently I did a poll a few days ago about "Is it ok to make friendly conversation with strangers in a coffee shop. For every one person who said it would be fine five said it would make them uncomfortable or creeped out.

[zagor]

I wonder how it was stated. There is a difference between conversing in line and going up to someone sitting at a table with their order.

[Cormac995]

@zagor I phrased it kind of vague when I asked but either way it's still a fact people don't want to be approached in coffee shops anymore even causally seemingly.

[Asker]

The reason why I asked this question, is because I know that some people get creeped out by me! I don't want to creep out people. I just want friends. ((((shruggs)))

[Cormac995]

You know back in the day coffee shops used to be called "Penny Universities" because it was a social place where you talked with others and discussed things like science and education. They were basically small social clubs for people to interact and share their idea's but now everyone just sits down and looks at their phone why they sit in a public space not talking to anyone. Pretty much every space like this has turned into this a public place where everyone is private. It's making it impossible to meet people make friends or flirt.

[Asker]

It's even getting bad online, It's a long story but I got into trouble for "flirting" on a forum site. Notice I put that in quotes. Because I was just doing what everyone else was doing, and yet someone decided that I was creepy and the other ones were not.

[Cormac995]

Mood bro, mood.

[Cormac995]

For me the biggest hurdle is my anxiety and bipolar. I bounce back and fourth between emotional extremes it get's really bad in the winter because I have seasonal anxiety disorder too. I have a naturally loud speaking voice and sometimes it feels like words tumble out of my mouth that only make sense to me. It tends to make people uncomfortable and then I feel bad because I made them upset.

[Cormac995]

I can get really passionate about things I like or care about as well and sometimes I get over excited talking about them to the point it kind of overwhelms people and often times by the time I've caught myself going overboard I've already been weird.

[Asker]

@cormac995
It's nice to meet you! Even though these mental disorders are well documented, and it is easy to find information about them. People don't seem to care to try and be understanding. They judge quickly and move on.

[Cormac995]

Yea that's been my experience I based on what my parents can tell I was born this way. WIth bipolar sometimes it happens later in life but I was almost certainly born with it. I also have ADHD, OCD and along the way I eventually got PTSD I'm pretty sure too. My therapist says she has no doubt about it but I haven't been formally diagnosed with PTSD because I can't find someone to actually do the diagnosis but it's pretty clear I have it. I've been through multiple trauma's, and I have a lot of the mental and physical signs and symptoms of having it though so with all that in mind I'm sure I have it. It's made making friendships very hard and dating impossible. I just don't have the social skills to do it, I know how people work but I don't understand them at all I'm not sure if that makes sense.

[Asker]

I run into people online that can't understand why anyone hasn't gotten laid. I have ADHD, cause of that I was bullied a lot. Girls showed no sign of being friendly to me. This basically continued into adulthood. Here I am now jobless, and the last female that was in my life. The most friendly one, ends up turning against me, and I don't know why. She don't communicate her intentions one way or the other. So it's hard to tell, is it ADHD on my part, or is she just as messed up. Anyways, if I name all the issues they have diagnosed me with, it sounds like a long list. But according to my online research having other issues besides ADHD is pretty common. What I can't understand, is after people get to know you for years, how come turn on you.

[Cormac995]

Normally you don't have just one of these disorders they tend to come in clusters of 2-5 mental disorders. I was never popular in school either. I was either bullied or ignored by 90% of the school and people thought I was weird even though I tried making friends for a while but when you reach middle school you start to realize you've already been put in a box by your classmates and they've decided who and what you are and you won't get a chance at a second impression in most cases. Dating has been a total nightmare for me, I don't want to go into deeper detail publicly but I've been abused and mistreated a lot by almost every woman in my life including family and it's messed up my head and confidence and even thinking about dating just makes me scream the words "stupid idiot" over and over again because I know it's pointless because nobody will have me because it's not very hard to do better than me. I don't have money or even a job and I'm average looking at best and people think I'm weird not to mention I'm pretty conservative about sharing my body and i n today's market people are expecting sex in like 2 weeks like WTF people your body is a temple not a brothel be careful who you let have access to your parts. Crap like this is why we have a spike in single parent homes, orphans, foster care and abuse or neglect. People "Fuck around" and then they get upset when they "Find out". Did you even pay attention in health class people? Did your parents not explain the birds and the bees to you? This is basic biology people.

[Cormac995]

I don't really have a stance on legalized abortion but what I will say is woman should be careful and try to avoid needing one in the first place. (Excluding cases of rape that's obviously not her fault in any way then) Even if you are prochoice abortions are dangerous. They can damage your fertility permanently and the procedure can go wrong and kill you. There are also many documented cases of woman being traumatized by the abortion and even developing PTSD from it in some cases, even when they were sure it was the right choice. Men should obviously be careful too because if this happens you better be ready to either be a dad, pay child support or have to watch that happen which for the father can be devastating too. Women seem to have this weird idea that they are the sole decider in a babies fate and they aren't if it was consentual. YES THEY HAVE THE FINAL SAY. It's her descion at the end of the day if you're in that situation but the father has a right to know and say his piece about the subject. You have to hear him out even if you decide to go through with it. You don't have to do as he says but you have to listen and hear his point of view. If you do it behind his back and never tell him or discuss it that's one of the 3 situations, I feel it's acceptable to hit a woman if you find out.

[Cormac995]

1. They're assaulting or harassing you physically, violently or sexually.

2. They cheated on you without a good reason (in my opinion the only legitimate excuse for cheating is your partner being abusive. Under any other circumstance in my opinion it's the 4th evilest thing you can do to another human being.

3. She lied about something so big it's emotional devastating to the point of madness and evil like getting an abortion without discussing it with you behind your back.

[Asker]

@cormac995
I agree with what you are saying. It is a mess for sure! I'm having a hard time trusting women these days. They change their minds. You can go from good guy to bad guy just from one little conversation to the next.

[alice55]

Staring at someone during hours / months, talking to them while they looked uncomfortable / did not respond said they wanted to be left alone, following them and generally being focused on someone who don't want anything to do with you.

[Nikki1989]

It is the way you present yourself.

[Simslover92]

Lots of things but primarily stalking someone.

[Sevenpointfive]

asking questions on how to better stalk might seem like one of its descriptors but i'll let that one slide.

they have a high level SNEAK, they live in a crypt and you've never seen them eat. any one of those but there are lots more

[Babebytheshore85]

Being nosy/intrusive, copying me, stalking, talking to much, oversharing, immature, jealous and envious

[beefcakebradybatson]

Looking and behaving like Trump and Beardo !!!