Still struggling to get over a guy after one date almost 2 years ago? What’s wrong with me?

[Anonymous]

I cry hard about it, I feel depressed, I haven’t really talked to anyone else, I’m in therapy, I’ve been off work for months… there was a lot of drama after … he made me feel like I was safe even though I wasn’t looking. I became emotionally attached to that feeling and I admired him as a man… it hurt when he ghosted me , gave me closure almost a month later, found out he’s attracted to trans, feeling like after telling my trans cousin about him feeling like they were in kahoots or that he’s attracted to her… just feeling a deep hurt , sadness and anger. Police had to get involved because I tried to embarrass him for hurting me

it just became a lot to deal with and I still have feelings at times

I don’t know what’s wrong with me

[ohsheeT]

Ok this is going to be hard to understand but let me try

We are all made of energy soul spirit heart brain and all this Equal. Chemistry

When we die our body falls to the ground our energy Gathers are knowledge. Everything we know our soul are it. It leaves our body

Ok so now let's pretend you and I meet we go on a date very first thing that happens is your trueself your energy and my energy meet in the blink of an eye. Then our heart mind soul spirit we meet each other we have a good time we end the date go our own ways but your energy bonded with his energy you feel this and you like the feeling it's as if you have know me for ever and you can't shake this feeling you can sleep you can't eat your mind can't focus. But it's not you it's your energy Your energy is mourning my energy it's as if they became one and your energy won't let go. It's not you that's doing it it's your energy
Ok so I don't know if any of this makes sense to you.. it's kinda crazy but it's not at all

[Asker]

No I totally agree… attached energy

[ohsheeT]

Yes I believe our energy is who we truly are and it plays a roles in every thing we do

[Zack-Bann]

Damn I wouldn’t wanna be the therapist that’s been dissecting this same one date for two years


He was GAY darling!


It’s not even your fault.


He wants dick


What can’t you get over exactly? What part of that one date still haunts you?
2 years is long enough to have about 800 dates if you wanted to


All you need is 3 or 4 tops


And he’ll be long gone from memory

[Asker]

He was just someone I wanted to be with and I felt suicidal after feeling like my trans cousin potentially did something to get his attention and feeling like they’ll be together and she’ll get everything I wanted from him.

[Zack-Bann]

Lady: HE’s GAYYYY
He doesn’t get to turn that on or off

If it’s not your cousin it’s another man
I’m sorry
But if you’re a woman down there there’s NOTHING you can do

[Asker]

But he rejected me because I wanted to wait for sex….

I just think he’s attracted to trans women because he watches trans porn.

[Zack-Bann]

Honey

He’s gay.
End of story

You spent 2 years reading into it

He gets off on cock.
That’s IT

Nothing else matters

Nothing

[Asker]

I agree… he’s 38… he probably wants a trans woman

[Asker]

I felt hurt by him that I outed him and he didn’t say anything until I wrote it on his people he knows pages that’s when police got involved and said I was harassing him

Then this girl @hollyk21 keeps arguing with me saying “well there’s no proof he’s talking to your cousin or that he likes trans women when I literally showed her pics of the trans women he follows that actually have big penises and are naked… one even lives in our city the one he follows…

[Asker]

And after doing all that he still doesn’t block my profile

He said if my claims are true then I need verifiable proof. And he claims that my accusations are false etc

[Zack-Bann]

Maybe he’s lying maybe he’s telling the truth

The one thing that’s for sure is:
You’re obsessed with him and have to move on

[Asker]

What do you think? I just want to know the truth

[Zack-Bann]

I just told you the truth:
You’re obsessed with some random date you had 2 years ago
Move on
Nothing else matters

[Asker]

Okay ✅

[Asker]

I think this was so traumatic I may start dating women I don't know

[Shiprex]

Sorry to hear this but after things like this one needs to sometimes take the pain and move on. It's not easy and you should perhaps take time to learn to love yourself and then find another who may fit the bill for you even better

[MasterKS]

you being fool and wasting your time, get a new dude asap so you can move on with it quickly.

[In_Trance]

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