I'm extremely jealous, the man that marries me he cannot tell me with how many woman he has been. I dont want to kiss him anymore. Am I sick?

[PrettyBarbieDoll]

If he tells me with how many woman he has been? I don't want to touch him or kiss him. Cause my mind will think how many woman touched him. He better not tell me anything! I dont want to know his past! Cause i get disgusted! Am i sick? Or is he sick?

[Bricealan]

@prettybarbiedoll Neither of you are "Sick" per se...

Maturity, makes the difference with POV's on what you are asking...

!) First off, it you don't want to know... he is stupid to tell you about past sex, but that said, those 'tales' he tells are usually just macho bullshit.

2) Secondly, I used to be (when 20 something) very jealous of a girlfriend past sex life, BUT changed as I matured, and that did not bother me at all, in fact, it enhanced OUR sex life, as we both shared our sexual adventures, (some good, some bad) but never caused any resentment or jealousy...

Perception of those times by each. partner has to view as the past and taken into context.

As a caveat, I liked hearing about HER past sex, and what she liked, as it helped ME enjoy sex with her more.

[PrettyBarbieDoll]

Well good for you. I could never! Cause my mind would think this is what he did with other woman. He has to give me the feeling he never touched a woman. Even if he did. Thats the psychological part.

[Bricealan]

@prettybarbiedoll Thanks for the MHO

[bowenw]

It is not sick. If that is your wish, be sure to tell him upfront.

[PrettyBarbieDoll]

But a full grown man should know by that age that talking about an ex while stepping into a new relationship is never a good idea! I'm not telling him shit! He should be wise enough to know what to do and what not to do. If i need to teach him that? He is not my type.

[bowenw]

You have your expectations very well figured out.

[bowenw]

Thank you for the MHO. 😊

[itsannalee]

Past is past, anything hr tells you won’t change your future with him.
He has right to keeps his past, as long as no one is harmed there is nothing wrong with that. If you can’t handle it, move on.

[PrettyBarbieDoll]

I say it with chest i cannot handle his past. So he better not come and talk to me about his exes. Go be with your exes than! Bye! Next!

[TheSpaceGnome]

Interesting.

I would only pick a virgin woman for safety/hygeine reasons, and to avoid the ick factor of another dude's jizz having been inside where I put my dick.

I never really considered "jealousy of the past" as a potential reason for wanting a virgin.

[PrettyBarbieDoll]

You are you. I am me. I like men that don't talk about their fucking exes even if he had 1000 exes. The moment he opens his mouth about one? I'm out.

[TheSpaceGnome]

if he had 1000 he almost certainly has STDs and children.
Thats a crazy high number.

[PrettyBarbieDoll]

It was hypothetically. Just an example.

[slatyb]

No, you are just immature with absurdly romantic notions of relationships. The past is past.

[PrettyBarbieDoll]

I'm very romantic. But he can ruin it by talking about his exes! I don't need that shit it annoys my soul deeply. So he better focus on me or he go and be with his stinky exes

[slatyb]

I agree with you. I have never talked about my exes with anyone I was dating

[Ironic_Method]

I think this is on you and therapy should be a thing.

[PrettyBarbieDoll]

I don't need therapy i can manage my emotions and thought process just fine. People that go to therapy usually don't know how to
manage their thought process and need help because the emotions are too overwhelming. I don't have that issue.

[Pterodon]

So you want a virgin. Good luck with that but there are some out there

[PrettyBarbieDoll]

No i did not sat that. He just doesn't have to inform me with how many woman i he slept. He does not have to tell me what he like sexually. He just has to show me and not talk much. That's it. Happy wife happy husband.

[Anonymous]

No, you're not sick, jealousy is a normal human feeling.

But extreme jealousy is not good for you (both emotionally and mentally).

[DarKnight36]

Virgin Male But not yet born..

[Anonymous]

Everybody wants to go to heaven but nobody wants to die.😆