Guys, have you asked out a woman in person?

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Have you asked out a woman in person?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Yes, that's why seldom do it anymore.

I'll say this one more time for the women in the back that still haven't heard this (or just refuse to listen). A GREAT MAJORITY of guys that ask women out get rejected a great majority of the time. But women that ask out men reject them 0% of the time. NOW, knowing simple statistics, if you're a guy, which path would you choose? The SIMPLE REALITY is asking a woman out increases a guys odds 0% of her saying yes to him. She's either interested or she's not. Him asking will not change that. And if a woman is unwilling to ask a man out that kind of shows how little she's interested in him. The REALITY is thier are so few women with any real interest in men anymore. Most women today view men simple as thier ego boost. Women have equality now (and that is a good thing). But as with anything thier are unintended consequences that come with that. Women want what they want just like men want what they want. But the problem is women think equality means they can make greater demands on men. Life just doesn't work that way is all. Women want thier cake and eat it too. The problem is, women have either yet to understand (or refuse to understand) was that being a man for millenia came with drawbacks. Women only seem to recognize the advantages of equality. When you choose to assume a more masculine role (as women have) now you have to deal with the RESPONSIBILITY of asking men out, courting men etc. Because if you're going to act the man, someone has to act the woman.😆 Sorry, I don't make the rules. And yes, I understand you don't have to do this. You can choose to ONLY entertain the guys who are willing to approach you. And that is fine. But we don't want 5o hear you complain about WHAT approaches you.

TheSpaceGnome · Accepted Answer

Nope.

It takes 3 years of being best friends with her to make me want to ask her out, otherwise I don't know her well enough to even be interested in a relationship with her.

After 3 weeks to 3 months of just being regular friends, The girl almost always asks me out. I'm always forced to say no because its way too soon, this usually causes her to stop talking to me over time.

Add to that, the majority of women who ask me out through cold approach or voa friends of friends are teenagers, and the entire proccess of finding a wife becomes very frustrating.

Almost enough to just quit entirely if I weren't so stubborn.

I used to acceot advances much faster, but I've become pickier, and I've been lied to too many times so I need that 3 years to weed out liars and figure her out as a person entirely.

Modern society moves too fast for me.

HawkPerception · Answer

Yes. Definitely less than 10 times in my life though.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Yes, this was the only way it was done in my younger years.

Avicenna · Answer

Well, when I was that age you had to, so I have no problem doing it in person.

Fireguy17 · Answer

yeppers, I started dating long before computers were around, so that is how you did it, on a phone or face to face.
Nothing to it, and you get to see the other person's reaction.
You can accomplish more in a 10-minute conversation that a days' worth of texting.

HarveyLaw · Answer

It was and still is - imho ofc - the best way to "ask her". Body language, that subtle exchanged charm, the scents and perfume... nothing compares to this, really.

Not always the best of confidence is required. Just doing it. You already have the "no"s.

slatyb · Answer

I have. I was shy in my twenties but got over it, and now find it easy to make conversation. Still I met almost everyone I dated online after divorcing. At the time I was living in Dallas with few connections to people close to my age. Also I was secular in a mostly religious city and didn't get out much. Online it was easier to find women who shared my values but there never were very many. A dozen or so initially, and one new prospect a month. Even so I was never single for long.

RavVid · Answer

Well of course but I don't run them down in the street to do so. I am thinking of an ad from my childhood which promoted that.

I am not surprised that 45% of 18-25's haven't though. Maybe I was in the last few years when girls might reject you but still politely thank you for asking them nonetheless. Instead of pulling out their phone and making a Tik Tok of it.

Girls would also proactively reject you also and mention their boy friend so you knew to move on to another girl.

Anonymous · Answer

Just 2 days ago I was at this Salsa class/ latino party and I walked up to this gorgeous woman standing in a corner and asked for a dance

We didn’t end up dancing much as we both lacked the fundamental skill.
But I did get her number and am now planning on seeing her soon

I don’t do this often
And I was extremely proud of myself for getting it right from the first go

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, it was always incredibly nerve wracking and stressful and it got worse every time because I kept getting rejected. Woman don't really get how much guts it takes to do that it's really fucking hard and stressful and the rejection stings like hell. It's not their fault if you're not interested, you're not interested but what baffles me is how many of them seem to enjoy turning men down and laughing at them.

ilistengood · Answer

Thank you for making my point, lol. I have , yes , back in my younger days you had no options. Well telegraph maybe, but I always do it in person, or at the most by phone. No texting.

BCRanger10 · Answer

Yes, every time I'd ever asked a woman out, except maybe twice and that was because we'd met online and they were out of town.

OneViewpoint · Answer

OK, this question is hilarious to me. I have probably asked out 98% of the women I have ever dated face to face. Online dating was a shit show. In person is the way to go.

NicholasRedone · Answer

😢 lol 😿 quite a few times lol however it's always been the same result - though I have my other obligations to consider first

Shiprex · Answer

I have but only after I knew we would become a couple. I only go there if there's a strong chance of getting somewhere.

exitseven · Answer

Yes, that is how it was done back in the day. You had to put on your big boy pants and just cowboy up.

Kaneki05 · Answer

I'm shocked it's only 45% and no of course. Never done it online also.

Anonymous · Answer

Of course not MeToo statutes and the whole going to prison for life or being put against the wall and executed thing is a hell of a turn off

Anonymous · Answer

No. I have wanted to, especially with one girl, but I apparently get severe anxiety about when I have a good opportunity.

AndrésC64 · Answer

Not exactly in that age range, but when I was certainly. Girls really didn't ask out guys. Although I was once or twice.

Novemberr_ · Answer

I have tried to ask a few girls whom I loved them so much but unfortunately I was refused which led to the disappointment on myself.

zagor · Answer

Skydiving is a lot safer. Would anyone go skydiving if someone was waiting on the ground to shoot you down?

RingOfFire · Answer

Many times. But I guess in my age that doesn't count! 😭

OlderAndWiser · Answer

MANY times! Not a big deal.

Hellraiser1984 · Answer

Yes got turned down every time. I gave up. No more stress and rejection.

Likes2drive · Answer

Not in many years, it’s always been on dating apps

LiamS95 · Answer

Yes I have and I've also had a woman ask me out in person.

MangakaJ96 · Answer

That has yet to truly happen to me, but I can wait.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

I have actually.. A couple of times..

Anonymous · Answer

I can't have any romantic relationships because i don't drive

Anonymous · Answer

Nope, never, I'm too shy, introverted, and I lack self-confidence.

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