For those of you who are single, how long has it been since you’ve met someone and taken the next step?

[DreamCrescent]

whether it be a date or a hookup. and how likely is it to happen again for you?

Updates

11 mo

A lot of us are single by preference. Not too eager or pursuing. Thank you all for taking the time to share

[Finchie40]

I don’t want to sound like my shit doesn’t stink but every time i become single , another girl is waiting to have a turn , Me personally doesn’t run to another girl immediately after a break up , but if a beautiful girl comes on to me , I am more than likely not
Going to say No to her , I will just tell her the truth that I haven’t been single for long and if that doesn’t bother her, then i don’t mind hanging out with her and getting to know her , I also tell her the truth that I don’t rush into relationships until I really get
To know her , and see the big picture. Why I primarily prefer FWB’s with some strings attached with a girl that is coming on to me. It seems most girls’ I meet today are acceptive of that and respect my honesty , I am not into games or drama and I am pretty much an open book about myself and what I like and don’t like. I don’t lie to girls’ I think lying is stupid and it just sets yourself up for disaster , I consider myself a mature adult that treats people the same way I like to be treated in return , am I perfect , Fuck No lol but Ii am not a liar. So if she does that for me , I will do that for her, hoping she is being honest with me , Sadly that isn’t always the case with some girls’i have met and hooked up with but like everything there is consequences for our actions , so if I find out she was lying to me , I walk the other way and thank her for a good time but not a long time. I will only stay loyal and faithful to a girl that is treating me the same way in return , a girl that doesn’t just think about herself that knows what it means to be in a relationship, if things between us stay great , then I will open my heart more to her and ask her to be my partner unless she asks me first. once her and I have a strong connection and trust for each other being her partner isn’t a problem at all but If she starts treating me like a convenience she will become my convenience as well and my respect for her will start to disappear and I will address my feelings of concern to her , if nothing changes I walk the other way but if things change for the better I will stay , I don’t expect perfection but I do expect honesty. Honesty is one of the keys to my heart. Because I can’t stand selfish liars

[Orion84]

Well, the last time I met someone was ny ex, about 16-ish years ago, and we were together for 14 years.

I don't really have any intentions of ever dating again, so I'll say "never."

[DreamCrescent]

okay we get it. you’re off the market. no need to rub it in. realize, the question was posed for people who are single.

happy for you, mister. here’s to another 14 years of bliss

[Orion84]

Well, I am single, so I assumed I was qualified to answer the question. Apparently I was mistaken.

My apologies.

[DreamCrescent]

oh. my mistake I’m sorry. i thought you’re saying you’ve been together for 14 years. i thought that was your happy ending

how come you closed the door on dating again?

[Orion84]

Yeah, I guess I should have clarified a bit better. We broke up two years ago, after 14 years together.

I don't trust easily, nor do I form emotional connections easily, but I both loved and trusted her. Then she betrayed me.

After that, I just genuinely don't think I'll ever trust a woman again. I know that, logically, they aren't all bad, but even the possibility of going through that again is enough for me to say it isn't worth the risk.

[DreamCrescent]

😢😢

i know how you feel. i wish you healing and peace of mind

[Orion84]

I appreciate that, thank you.

[Genie23]

There was someone I started liking not too long ago but I rather pushed him away when he showed me interest and care.. but the last time I let someone in my life and got into a relationship was one and half year ago and broke up last year.

When will it happen again. If I'll be very honest, I don't think I'll ever consider even dating someone because I'm too scared.

[Genie23]

Thank you for MHO

[PeachyPie93]

3 years.. I'm just scared of men romantically. I think I always have been since I could remember. I don't want to get hurt ever again so I can't be bothered to attempt something with a new guy, men just feel like a waste of time. I will leave it at 2 people and unless a guy wants to attempt to climb my walls it probably won't happen again.

[Chazmatazz269]

More than six years, but less than ten.
It’s probably never going to happen again.

[Zack-Bann]

Since losing my virginity this is my longest pause


About 10 months since my last hookup and she was a tourist who eventually went home and I never heard from her again (understandable)


I chose to step out of the game because it was getting far too redundant


I chose to try out the self improvement route


Lost major weight, put on muscle. Worked out my skin care. Grew my hair again.


But now I miss it like a recovered addict misses the needle sometimes


Still I think I should be looking for something less dirty and more meaningful (but also dirty in a different way)

[Geo1970]

Unfortunately the last time I actually had a relationship was approximately ten years ago!
It was/is something I would ever want to revisit.
I was used literally as a punch bag for her ex!
It took me a while to figure it out, but when I finally did, lo and behold she was using me to get back at her alcoholic ex partner.


I want a partner but that part of my life makes me feel reluctant to spend time with another woman.
P. S, I am not giving out to any women who might read this, a partner is a partner, male or female, end of. This was just my own particular situation.

[Valdemort]

Last genuine date was 10 months ago.
Felt like an entire relationship lived in a day and never saw each other again 😅

Was a good time though

[MasterKS]

@Valdemort good one.

[Lucy68]

Almost 4 years honestly

And I probably won't go on another date let alone meet anyone... I'm not really what the males want, hell if I was a male I wouldn't date me either 🙁

[Lucy68]

@Interester 🙁

[DreamCrescent]

@Lucy68 why do say men wouldn’t want you?

[Lucy68]

Reasons. I'm working on losing weight #1 for starters.

[osmanthus]

Since winter 2019. I don't think it will be likely within the near future (2 years out) for me to want to participate in either anytime soon. I also don't anticipate either being a part of my long term future.

[EzraIsShy76028]

About 5 years ago or so. My last relationship was basically hell on planet earth, and she basically made me never wanna date again. Lol.

[bolverk]

My last relationship was in the late 90's, ended because she cheated, I have not bothered with any other relationship since, and will not ever again.

[LifeHitMeandRan]

Been a bit over 10 years. Done with the whole dating thing.

[DonaldDarko]

Decades I am single by choice and plan to stay that way.

[WonderingManII]

I'm 46 and it never happened. Chances are it will never happen. I don't have what it takes!

[ThatCanucker]

I have been single my whole life. I have never met a woman who was interested. Now I am way too old to bother with trying to date

[Johtolol98]

unfortunaely I've been single since birth lol. i suck at picking up signals even if obvious and my social skills suck. im autistic with adhd add and bipolar 2 disorder

[LiamJHayden]

I go on dates, but haven't clicked with someone is almost two years.

[Jltakk]

Never went beyond friendship. I've been turned down many times if that's what you're asking.

[Bobabuba]

It has been 14 years.

[shortster]

February. Probably November.

[Daphne98]

When the trust is earned I guess.

[Anonymous]

I actually never had a relationship.

[MasterKS]

Thats is why casual exists, easy and fun.

[DreamCrescent]

yeah but I’m trying to get a sense of how often it actually happens for people

[MasterKS]

@DreamCrescent will share something about it private.

[DreamCrescent]

😳 (rubbing my palms together excitedly)

[jamesgoldman]

11 years and never

[grega239]

10 years

[Anonymous]

I am still single 😌

[PeterLegg91]

Me too

[Opinion Owner]

How nice

[Dan_5001]

Still single.