Girls, why are so many women these days so scared of relationships?

[gstephens91]

I go on dates with women and everything is going well, chemistry is there, values are there, attraction is there, then things get serious, then they freak out and get scared and push away completely. It's actually really annoying. I have friends who have had the same experience so it's not just a me problem.

If this is the case and women are so scared of comittment, how can we fix it quickly so that people can start to have healthy relationships again?

Updates

6 mo

To clarify, because commentors have assumed that I only want to get into their pants. This is incorrect. I go on dates with them for a couple months, then I ask them to go into a relationship if I feel the time is right. Nothing nefarious. Usually the women get freaked out and scared when I ask them to go exclusive or even after two months of just going on dates. How I know that they get freaked out or scared is because I find out at a later point that they have trauma that makes them scared.

[SueShe]

So, my question to you is:

What is the purpose for you to go on dates with women? Is it solely to get into their pants and then, once you have achieved what you were seeking, you drop them and move to the next potential victim, right?

Women are not scared of relationships. They are not willing to be yet another number on a long list of victims, of body counts and other sexual partners that have only been targeted for their bodies.

Women do want healthy relationships but not those ones that a vast majority of men seek. Also, remember that a great number of men are gently "persuading", "motivating" or in any other way coercing the girls to be sexual and to have to perform things that are utmost disgusting.

Those are the main reasons. I know you don't like to hear it but that's how it is.

[gstephens91]

My motivation is not a "pump and dump" it is a healthy relationship and eventually marriage.

[PeachyPie93]

Probably they been lied to or had their heart broken so once things get real they run away to not ever feel that pain again. Most people on the dating market are damaged goods and shouldn't really be dating since they aren't healed, so this is what most of us are left with..

[Changiis07]

You could be moving too fast as well. You can have chemistry, values align but maybe it's how you come off, could be too much

[gstephens91]

And that may be so. Thank you for your answer.

[Changiis07]

I had a good guy like me, had good values and such but he was moving way to fast for me and it was a turn off

[gstephens91]

I could see how it would be. Wouldn't you simply tell him, "Hey, you're going too fast, let's slow it down." Instead of simply ending things with him?

[Changiis07]

True I could have but I was wanting to give him a chance and I wanted to like him because he was a good Christian guy but I just wasn't attracted to him, he would start calling me every single day after work and it was way too much because we were only talking and not official so eventually things faded and I realized I could breathe

[Anonymous]

Personally I think the opposite , I’ve yet to see a man who didn’t ghost or wasn’t a jerk.

[gstephens91]

I'm sorry that has been your experiences with men.

[Opinion Owner]

thanks

[katiesmuff]

They like the independence of staying unattached.

[gstephens91]

Thank you for your answer.

[Abbycado]

I’m not and in one.

[Abbycado]

What a fuckwit XD