Heavy makeout session on 1st date good sign for long-term?

[Anonymous]

Had a coffee date with a guy I met from an app. After we had a little nature walk and sat at a bench ti watch the creek. We have food chemistry and made out pretty intensely. He tried to feel me up, I pulled his hand away, saying it's just the 1st date. I ask because we both want to date and meet some genuine where it could lead to something long term. I dont want to rush to sex.

[RespectfulGuy]

Obviously you and him want (need) the physical attention.

But that which really connects is your mental and emotional compatibility, which requires a lot of good communications.

In other words, when you walk and sits, do you talk? Do you really connect beyond the flesh? This is the connection required for LTR, even marriage.

You did not write details about the non physical aspect. Hence evaluate for yourself. How "at ease" are you with him? How "free" are your expressions? Do you feel the trust and is willing to become vulnerable for him.

Very importantly, does he manifest the same toward you?

If yes, then you're fortunate to have found someone who could become a long term partner. Otherwise, likely won't through the first big disagreement.

[Asker]

We had spoken before prior to the date with text. During the date the conversation flowed, we talked a lot about his industry he's in. I believe we did connect intellectually, not yet emotionally that takes time.. I felt comfortable and he seemed genuine and kind. Too soon to tell if he manifests the same toward me. He did tell me after out date thatbhe really likes me, and set up a 2nd date the day after..

[RespectfulGuy]

Hey, should I congratulate you then.

Seems like a nice guy you've got 😁

Focus more on the intelluctual and emotional side for your 2nd date. Physical side will come naturally when your minds are connected.

And yes, true feelings and love take time to develop. Don't rush. Keep physical intimacy in restrain. And I sincerely wish you success and happiness 👍

[Asker]

Thank you friend. I apperciate your kind words. Blessings.

[Stevepro68]

It's neither good nor bad. People are a mix of emotional baggage, learned responses, and physiological and psychological behaviors. Leans more towards either arrogance or immaturity

[missindiana93]

Please I had sex with my husband the first night and now we have been together for 10 years.

[Asker]

I know that's the risk you take 😅🤣 because it could last or it could be a ONS

[PeachyPie93]

It isn't good or bad.. but it seems he wants to rush to sex so probably bad..

[nl171]

Many of my long term relationships had makeout sessions on the first date

[jahaims]

Too old to be acting like a teenager not understanding anything