Guys, dry humping and long make out sessions after 10 dates, is that okay?

[Anonymous]

This guy I knew at my college for about 6 months or so asked me out on a date and I said yes. After one date we really connected well! And had a great time. From there on he asked to see me several days from the week. Even if it was for 5 minutes. (We Talk n text everyday). ! He has asked me to be his girlfriend a week ago but I told him I didn't want to just yet. And He has told me he wanted a serious relationship with me. We went out on a date yesterday night and great as usual. We went on a hill top to look at the city lights. (Also we have never made out the Times we hung out.) alone in the car looking Into each other's eyes. A soft kiss slowly turning out into a passionate make out session. Then eventually just dry humping each other like crazy! About an hour or so. I didn't feel bad or pressured in anyway and he wasn't trying anything such as taking off my clothes or touching me . But I wouldn't want him to think I'm easy or get into sexual things quickly because of how soon it is already. But I can't help feel what I feel towards him. Anyone experience something like this that turned out great? Or bad? Personal thoughts about it?
Also I'm 23 and he is 28.

yes, its okay.

no, its not.

[Anonymous]

I think that's great. Happy for you and if you like him go for it!!

Take your time and move as slow or fast as you feel comfortable with. When it's special, it's special and you should trust your instincts. When it feels right, it will be.

It sounds like you two really hit it off and are getting close. It makes the moment more special. I voted yes.

In terms of experience, with my first gf, it was definitely special like this and progressed from dry humping to a special moment.

I don't feel the same about the new one who teased me with her feet on me and I eventually went for, but regret. Could you help me out pls? I don't know what to do?

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1385081-my-new-girlfriend-i-had-a-threesome-did-she-get-jealous-normally

[Asker]

Thank you for your great response and sharing your experience. Yes! He's the one person I feel I can trust more then I ever have in the longest time. I guess would you say it's okay to continue just doing that? Cause I'm definitely not ready for sex!
Sure I will answer your question :)

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks. Would appreciate it.

Yes! Of course it's ok to continue doing that. Just take it slow. I know how important the first time is. I took it slow too and it is worth it. It's meant to be a special moment. Always do what feels natural to you and what you enjoy =D

[Asker]

Answered :) If you don't mind me asking, how long did you two wait?

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks will check it out and look forward to a discussion over there!

Sure. With my first girlfriend (not the one in the thread), who I really liked, we dated for about 2 months before that time. The second month was full of dry humping and then it progressed to massages and then the 3rd month was full of passion!

[Anonymous]

Honestly if we have not had sex by date 4-5 five or 1 months, whatever comes first, then I would likely call it off. And before I get hate on me, you have the right to behave sexually however you want, as do I. I say I would break it off because clearly we have different attitudes towards sex and are therefore not compatible.

[Asker]

Oh no, I won't judge you I like your honesty! So I guess from how your telling me that he would stay because he's being patient with me? And you'd break it off if there's no sex at a certain point?

[Opinion Owner]

ha thanks, I just know so many girls on here don't like guys that want sex, but it is important to me personally in a relationship. I guess if he has made it this far he must really like you, but who knows, his views on sex and experience may be very different.

[Mesonfielde]

Why wouldn't it be? Some people give out blow jobs in the first date and don't question themselves about it, lol.

[Asker]

Oh shit that's true ! Haha!
I just worry of him thinking I'm easy or get bored of me

[meatballs21]

After ten dates I'm very surprised you haven't had sex yet given your ages and how much you allegedly like each other.

[Asker]

I did that once with someone I REALLY liked and he turned out to be a cheater and using me for sex. So this time I'm holding things off and really trying to make it work with this guy ! : ).
Is that how it is nowadays? Haha

[meatballs21]

So this guy is paying the price for some other guy being a cheater? I get it.

Yes, ten dates seems like a while nowadays to still be dating but not having sex.

[Anonymous]

Nowadays a lot of girls put out after like the third date, some while on the first, so you don't really have anything to feel ashamed of lol

[Asker]

Thanks! I appreciate that! : )
I guess that's pretty true now that I think about it

[Opinion Owner]

No problem! I hope things between you and this guy continue to work out :)

[rockaholic]

Why you might think this is bad?

[Asker]

I've heard sometimes it's not good to get sexual too soon because the excitement dying down?
I mean I don't think its bad but I just worry of getting him bored of me or thinking I'm easy.

[rockaholic]

No... if things became boring... you don't like each other for real then... sex is all the way exciting if the couple like each other