Do guys expect sex after a date?

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Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Just depends on the chemistry and connection we share with the girl , there is no set time limit , when you meet someone that pretty much rocks your world , I have had sex with girls’ that I met the same night , because her and I had amazing chemistry and connection together and we both were super attracted to each other and we knew we wanted each other the second we met each other , so setting a time limit is kind of silly if you ask me, unless you are looking for some particular thing that you have to weigh your options on. If you like someone and they like you back the same , what are
You waiting for? An invitation? Just be honest about what you are looking for when you go on a date with someone , don’t hold back anything , say what you need to say right from the start , don’t be behind the bush about things , if you are having a blast with that person and having a good time with them and the chemistry and connection is there , why end it? Just continue the night and have fun , sex is fun and amazing if you have great sex with them , do it again and again , why wait for another date? If they are lying to you , the truth will eventually shine and they will suffer the consequences of their actions if they are lying to you , but for the time being , you should be having a blast and not worrying about negative things.

incorrected · Accepted Answer

Do you mean a date with your boyfriend or a date with someone you're assessing for that role? Either way, I'd say this:

Some of them do, some of them don't. Among those who do there are three kinds I know about: 1. Men who are used to getting it first time and are usually good at picking up women (usually it's not going to be anything lasting). 2. Thirsty men willing to be pushy (bad vibes). 3. Nightmare level incels (get out of there!). I don't personally want sex with a woman unless it's emotionally connected, or else she wants it too for lustier reasons. I would want to know her well as a friend before making things sexual.

Note: I learned that there are different grades of involuntary celibate (incel). There are the crappy guys who refuse to self improve but think they deserve sex, and we all know about that kind. There are also ugly fellas, people struggling with neurodivergent conditions like Autism who struggle to form relationships, people with mental health struggles, and men with poor finances or life circumstances (low status). They're not nearly all bad people, but as usual the worst of them define the term because the rest are mostly invisible to us; same with MGTOW, feminism and other things like that.

WhitneySnow · Accepted Answer

Hopefully not on the first date, but eventually yeah, most guys will expect it. I wouldn’t do it till we’ve been dating a couple months and I’m sure we’re in an official/exclusive relationship.

RageBabe · Accepted Answer

None of the guys I dated anticipated it on the first date, but some may, and you will need to decide whether or not to accept it.

ohsheeT · Answer

There's no telling anymore guys have changed so much according to what I read on here I think probably a lot of them do

For me I don't think that way but if we start making out and things start to get a little bit hot and heavy just the way I would look into your eyes I would be asking you without saying one word and if you answer me back with only your eyes I would still wait until you did the first move

AviatorTom · Answer

I never expect sex. Judt let it happen, or not.

Anonymous · Answer

I once dated this girl, she befriended me and started chatting and texting. When we started talking about serious stuff I told her that this was more stuff for in person discussion and we should go for a coffee or a date. So we did go on a date and had an amazing time. It was like we knew each other from the start and while I didn't expect anything to happen on the first date. We ended up at my place making out and then sleeping together. It was an amazing relationship and I have never again found such great intimacy and connection. To this day I still miss that.

On the other hand there was this one girl, with whom I went on a couple of dates. She invited me to her place for dinner multiple times and always fell a sleep or invited an exroommate. Somehow she invited me along to a vacation trip with her and her friends and even though I knew she was into me, still nothing happened. Even a few days into the trip, but then at one moment I thought that this was ridiculous and one night just climbed into her bed and started getting closer. She didn't do anything but didn't push me away. So I kissed her and after that we had sex all the time and it was great.

So I guess it depends on what the connection is like.
Would I want to sleep with someone as soon as I could. Sure yeah, do I expect it to happen right that moment, of course not.

Oncewildtwiceburned · Answer

4-5 years ago it was women who pressured me on the first to second date when I was dating and a few times at a bar in the last 2 years I was flirted with as if I was interviewing them for a job, a job I didn’t say I was even hiring for, mind you its a rural area so they probably knew who I was. But all these women were 10+ years younger than me, so I’m sure guys get pressed for sex when they actually aren’t comfortable doing it so soon just as often as women.

The third date is like the expectation now, hell even the first. Its whatever y’all feel like now, there is no moral standard. Guys, just use your big head, take the lead, don't mess with a woman you don’t see yourself raising a kid with. Take the fucking lead and fucking wait to get to know who she is.

I never did that, I have kids I don’t get to raise “cuz crazy bitch” and thats court these days, and I chose to just “date around” for a long time after that. What a waste.

Cripplingkingship · Answer

No I don't expect sex after a date and I don't want sex with her, until we are in relationship and i feel comfortable with her.

But on the other hand, if you expect him to pay for the date, then I think he would expect sex. I don't get this nonsense, why someone has for a date. Pay your share and decide whether or not you like each other. Thats the whole point of dating, is to find a partner, not to pay someone for your time or their time.

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

I don't, I want marriage and children, I don't think trying to get into your wife's pants immediately or setting some expectations is a good precedent for a relationship.

Sex can wait, I'd rather find the right person patiently than chase sex ever again.

Purpleronnie · Answer

I’d say many guys would welcome sex as a conclusion of the date but expect it no I wouldn’t say so generally speaking. I am also sure that some women go on dates with guys knowing it’s on likely on the cards , it’s decided when they selectwhich underwear to put on … right.. ? Everyone’s different and I’m not judging. I’m some guys may expect it but most if not all guys would be foolish to always expect it.

Miristheiss · Answer

No.

If I am only after sex but know this will not go anywhere I may try faster with her. If she comes off as loose I may try sooner but it is not expected and any woman who'd have intercourse, risk disease, pregnancy, let the most graphic, intimate parts of herself be open to full exposer, touching, access with a stranger.

She's definitely not girlfriend or wife material.

pass_the_celery98 · Answer

No, I’m not gonna put a girl in that situation. I prefer having sex when I get married. So to all girls reading this, not all guys are scum, female haters, cheaters, lazy, immoral, etc.

Anonymous · Answer

I think it’s ridiculous to expect sex (or to even have sex) in the first few weeks or MONTHS even, of getting to know somebody.

The fact that people are just so quick to do it, much of the time… it’s pretty gross tbh. Like in an icky way, and also in like just a morally repulsive way. 🤷‍♂️

DannyWang · Answer

I mean... It depends

If it's like a fun fling kinda thing, then for sure.

But if I'm looking for a serious relationship, is rather take my time to know them and then naturally let it take it's course. Since sex is sacred when it comes to a relationship and i won't jump in for such a situation.

godfatherfan · Answer

No guy should ever "expect" sex. You might think "hey, it might be happening tonight", but never expect. Though, there are always assholes out there that think, because they bought you a burrito, you owe him a blowjob.

Shamalien · Answer

Depends on the guy, depends on the girl. If you’re nothing more than a fuck toy then guys will expect that. If he’s a fuckboi, he will expect that.

for regular people, it takes at least a few dates before they go home to have sex. If I’m serious about a girl I try to wait as long as possible. At this time, I’m intending to stay celibate for as long as my willpower holds out

disappoint3d · Answer

I never pursue anyone without the intent of sex. Having to go on dates in the first place is kind of ridiculous.

Animals literally know if a mate is compatible by smelling each other's pheromones. Humans make everything complicated for no good reason.

kaucky1 · Answer

They'd ask for a blowjob in many different ways but if not stay on they be In hurry to go but I don't like food product eat meat comes to life inside me sometimes it be a person so food. But if lady wears a dress large tablecloth🤤squirt only nutrients needed

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

I mean what... you just wanted a free meal and entertainment? I want what I want too.

Billlewis · Answer

Yes, but only opinion one of two scenarios --

-- I service her orally (feet and butt) and nothing else

-- if any intercourse takes place, it would only be a possibility if she gets boinked by someone other than myself.

Radiate143 · Answer

They expect sex for much less. No sense in paying this any mind.

Peridot25 · Answer

A lot do if they’re not looking for something serious.

red324 · Answer

I went on a lot of tinder dates where I never got a second date. Always wondered if I was really just supposed to hook up with them. I still never saw an issue waiting a couple dates though regardless. Who knows

Bricealan · Answer

No, and a guy is absolutely brain dead to EXPECT sex after a date. It does happen and has happened with me to no to BE EXPECTED!

Anonymous · Answer

When I was in high school they seemed to expect it a lot so I would either suck them off or let them feel me up or something and that would kind of keep them from going too far.

sawno · Answer

I don't myself unless we are closer, at some point I would expect sexual things.

Makeushiver · Answer

I definitely don't count on it after the first date though if the airuatio BB arises where it seems okay I'm thrilled.

DrPepper12 · Answer

No. That's unreasonable but a pleasant surprise. 🤷‍♂️

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

I mean we hope for it. If after the first or mostly second date she says "lets wait" or "not so early on", she isn't into you.

dragoblack · Answer

Not all. Maybe a kiss if the date goes well, seems pretty standard

Tulip_A_Dasiy · Answer

I am sure some guys do, just like some guys dont expect it after the first date

slatyb · Answer

Apparently some do. I never did. After three dates women invited me to bed.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

I wouldn't be surprised if that's how it works nowadays

DavEEErattEE · Answer

I don't think you should ever "expect" or feel entitled to it but I know some guys do. For me if I'm seeing someone and hoping it's going to get serious then I want to make sure we are both going at a pace we're comfortable with.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on the guy, though if you hit it off and both craving sex & want a little fun then go for it lol.

paledreams · Answer

Potentially lol 😆 I'm a male lol and she's a female if I had a hot date with a woman lol 😆

ProbablyClueless · Answer

No. Most guys do not expect sex after a date.

JennieF · Answer

Some do yeah. Some of us kind of like it also.

Smegskull · Answer

Depends. If she didn't respect my money and expected unrestricted access to it, I am not going to respect her body and will expect unrestricted access to it.

Sonora · Answer

No, I expect nothing. A kiss goodnight would be nice.

Unit1 · Answer

I don't. But I'll be happy if there will be sex.

Anonymous · Answer

I never expect anything from anyone. But I don't date a girl unless I'm already having sex with her.

OfDeath · Answer

It’s general point of dating in the short term.

Vegasrunner · Answer

What do you think a guys taking you out for?

imfreeze95 · Answer

I don’t but I also am pretty conservative. I don’t believe in sex before marriage.

Anonymous · Answer

Really depends on how the date and the relationship are going. But the entire POINT of dating IS ultimately sex.

Tomisworthless · Answer

I expect sex without dating but i only receive scorn

shortster · Answer

Only if I have been sexually involved with my date in the past.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't expect or want sex until we've been dating a while.

Abu_Kaboom · Answer

It depends on how full his epididymis is at that moment.

Iron_Man · Answer

Most do yes not me though

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on how many dates it's been. If it is date #1, then no. If it is date #10, then yes.

elizamichale1 · Answer

Are u really asking that... huhh

Anonymous · Answer

If they do you don't need them.

TallAnon · Answer

Expect, depends on the girl Imagine, yes.

SolitarySolace · Answer

I don’t. But I don’t even date

Anonymous · Answer

Expect it? No. But I'm not averse to it.

llorando · Answer

Depends on the guy some do and some don't.

Ariesman81 · Answer

No... I expect it before the date.

morganherrel · Answer

Absolutely not, that's so gross

Crazzyyworld · Answer

Girls expect $ after sex

Twalli · Answer

Some guys do. The right kind of guys don't.

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Sometimes at the start, sometimes during

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