Me and a guy have just started to getting serious, but he pulls away?

[Anonymous]

I have been off and on with a guy that I got an instant connection with a year ago. We reconnected a few months ago, and been going strong for over two months. We have had a rocky start where we both had separate partners, and we do not have that, however I have a child and I do not know how he feels about it.

I have some things at his place. I messaged him why he is being very distant and weird - and I just mentioned that I should get my caps at his place at some point. He replied back and said that he is being very distant and he has anxiety, and its over that things does not feel 100% right between us and he follows with the things that happened last time which was that i have a custody situation with the father of my child, and he just thinks I'm in a vulnerable place and he wasn´t in a place to deal with my situation which is completely okay. I never expect him to be in a place to support me in that, but also he is emotionally unavailable and commitment issues, and gets overwhelmed quite fast and shuts down and has expressed before that we got serious really quick. And I guess he is starting to get feelings, and he dosent know how to handle it.

Now he has expressed that there are things that are the same from last time, and he finds it really hard to have those feelings and just feeling it when he wants this to work and his heart want to make this work. And he said he is trying to take things step by step, it´s just not easy. And I'm just like, where do we go from here? I did tell him that I have had similar emotions that I have had problems to feel, but I want to talk to him about it where I think it will help to just talk about it. However he did not reply about my things at his place, and I think he took it as I wanted to break up with him which is clear is not what he wants. I just wanted to prepare myself for the worst, and I did not expect him to be so emotional.

[MasterKS]

He changed his mind.

[Asker]

What does that mean? Changed his mind about what?

[Asker]

And I tried to get my things back from him in case we dont figure things out for exact those reasons that he might changed his mind, or we break up, etc. But he does not want to that either...

[Asker]

Also I tried to read between the lines. But he basically just said that he wants to make this work still, it´s just not easy by the way he is feeling of the situation. So I'm a bit confused? Are we on a break, can I do things with someone else, does not he want me anymore and he still have my things. So I'm just like what do I do now?