What to do when guy pulling away?

[Anonymous]

I took a liking on this guy and he said he liked me as well. We hung out and he even told me I’m the only girl he’s talking and seeing so often. We kept a steady and constant texting, in which he said he wanted me, miss me and all about compromising our hobbies so we can spend more time together. But then I felt he pulling away shortly after. I’m so confused, I confront him about it and he said he wants to slow down because he thinks he’s moving too fast. I don't know if I believe that or there’s another girl he’s interested in so he “benched” me. This was his last text, I never respond or text him ever since and I never hear anything from him. Should I forget him or wait? And what is up with the games?

[PrettyPriya]

Hard to say for sure but maybe things (to him) are just moving too fast. Perhaps he is one that likes to let things develop in a relationship a little slower than you do or are used to.

I guess the decision as what to do is up to you. Can you wait for him? If so, then it sounds like maybe he had some pasts experiences by the looks of the text that were negative. Could be what is "freaking" him out.

I would reassure him that you are okay (if you are) with slowing things down. That shouldn't mean completely, but a compromise might make him feel a little more secure with what is going on between you two.

[Asker]

He did told me he had tendency to move fast. But I don’t like being confused and so I never responded to his last text. It’s been two weeks, I’m missing him and I don’t know if I should text him just to say hi? Or just stay completely no contact and start dating around?

[PrettyPriya]

Okay, so maybe that is the reason he is saying he wants to take it slow. He didn't in the past and things didn't work out.

Now, the whole two weeks? That is a long time and WAY TOO slow. If he wants a meaningful relationship, even if taking it slow, he needs to be a little more involved than every couple of weeks. That isn't fair to you at all.

I would maybe make the effort to say hi and hey do you want to do something this weekend type text. If he cannot at least commit to something casual, tell him that is fine but you don't feel like you can be exclusive to someone that is never around. Sound fair?

[Asker]

That makes sense, thank you so much! I thought I was the only one feeling that two weeks is way too long. It has been a torture, I was thinking about texting him on the Memorial Day weekend but was too scared to do so. I do consider moving on because I don’t want to be a chaser and wait around for emotionally unavailable man. Thank you again !

[PrettyPriya]

You are most welcome! I really do hope it works out for the best and you two can spend some time together. I hope he realizes what he will lose if he does get his head out of his you know what and take things a bit more serious.

I get he maybe was burned in the past, but goodness me that is too slow. I think you are in your rights at that point to tell him yes I still want to see you but cannot commit to someone that can't commit to me.

Best of luck and I will have my fingers crossed for you!

[Avicenna]

Ask him out on a date- that's putting your cards on the table and showing you're interested

[Asker]

I did told him how I feel about him. And I did asked him out before too.. I haven’t text him and vice versa since that last text (been 2 weeks now). I just don’t know anymore

[Avicenna]

Well, if that's the case, then it's time to move on

[LazerBean]

Move on.

[In_Trance]

Lame
Move on