What to do when a guy is pulling away in talking stage? why he pulls away before plans finalize?

[Anonymous]

Everything was good but once we started to slowly finalize plans… he is slowly pulling away…

[Vevv123]

If it’s only for finalizing plans then he might just be busy or trying to figure out his schedule.

[Seangreen]

Well he either is having mixed feelings or being indecisive and if that's the case just get out of there now stop wasting your time

[Asker]

I don’t underhand why would he possibly have mixed feelings or indecisiveness when the conv flow has been so good.. he seem into the planning and say he’s down whenever… but suddenly… yeah ):

[Seangreen]

Look I'm not trying to upset you I'm just trying to be honest with you and if he's a sudden indecisive he could either be insecure with himself and not sure what he's doing and maybe be nervous it could be all on him too. I mean he could be talking to somebody else he could maybe you know there's a lot of factors but if he's definitely starting to break away just let him go. You women have a lot easier time getting guys than guys have getting girls so just if he can't figure it out let him walk

[Asker]

Oh no I’m not upset. It was supposed to be a sad emoji when I wrote it but I don't know why gag turned it into that type of emoji. Hmm yeah… I’m kinda wondering if he is insecure… initially he slowly broked away when I talked about how my friend also wanna see me on the weekend… it was the first sign when he stopped replying about plans… but he came back fine… and then I joke with him about thinking about seeing him or not since we have banter going on.. then he left me on read… I msged I was joking and of course I wanna see him.. he reply saying he knew it was joking and he is bad replying with work, but gave me his number that it might be easier, which I told him playfully if he’s sayin that’s faster then we can test that theory.. I texted him with a greeting last night and now I don't know.. no reply since :/

[Asker]

You’re right, it’s not hard to talk to new people. But it’s hard to find someone who you felt like aligns with you… and it felt like everything aligned with him so far… I’m pretty disappointed

[Seangreen]

Okay I had a situation with a friend a female friend when we were like a year or so out of high school basically occupying all my free time you know putting yourself where she's always around me and I started getting feelings and this went on for quite a while and I don't know why I just didn't say something cuz looking back is an adult I would never have let it go that far without making sure I knew exactly what was going on but I ended up ending the Friendship after her saying a couple times that she wouldn't ever date one of her guy friends so I don't know if that was towards me or like maybe she thought like she already had me like so she can say that cuz I'm not her guy friend anymore but we never talked about being together so I abruptly ended that friendship after she said that stuff what I should have done was at least let it cool down for a couple days called or told her how I felt and if she felt the same way then maybe we could have something and if she didn't then it's better off that we don't hang out anymore but I never did that so I'm never going to really know but with all the mixed signals she gave me it's easy for me to look back now and think yeah she must have really liked me but at that time I thought she liked me but every time I got a mixed signal it was push me back like from not saying anything and then when she said like it three times within a two week period She said she would never date any of her guy friends and I I got a big argument about something stupid with her as a way to just cut her out of my life and years later I hear you know after she's married with kids that allegedly she really liked me and whatever but well you know what she went about it the wrong way I didn't go about addressing it the right way and the moral of the story is mixed signals are not good consider them no

[Asker]

long story short, your story is that mixed signals are a no? Your story sounds like there was a misunderstanding and needed proper communication between the two of you. It is always hard when it is a friendship and not knowing where it is going because considering losing a friendship and where is that transitioning.

well my story is also someone i know from high school... but we only started to get to know each other and it felt like we had mutual attraction, but taking it slow... and now I dont really know... what do you think of my situation?

[Seangreen]

if you are having doubts then its not good, if someone likes you you will know it

[ohsheeT]

Because he doesn't have the money to commit to it

[Anonymous]

Same thing you do if a woman starts to pull away. Let them WALK. Never beg anyone to stay in your life.👍

[Chelsdope0]

Do absolutely nothing

[BarryLiverstone]

Talking phase may have been too long