What to do when guys pull away when you start to get intimate?

[Anonymous]

I lately became very close to a guy. He started to tell me everything about himself, really intimate in his thoughts/speech… and he became suddenly more distant.

what to do?
Why guys pull away So easily when they were the first to chase you?

[Anajuxr]

Maybe he's scared.
I actually would do the same. Had many experiences like that and they usually tend to hurtful breakups. Too much intensity leads to impulsive actions...
I'd advise you to respect his boundaries, let him go. If he feels comfortable again, then you'll know that know he trust you.
And don't let it hurt you. You did nothing wrong. :)

[Anajuxr]

But, sure, if you still like him, them show it to him.
There is nothing worst to a insecure person, than try to believe in someone and then the person don't show appreciation to it...
It can pull away him forever.

[Asker]

Yes I met him a year ago through common friends.. there was an instant connection ! Then we kept a light contact. I noticed he seemed scared to meet me only both of us. He tried to invite me 2/3 times to a party at his friends place but I couldnt.
Then We met back at the same first friend’s place. We were close…he shared his candies with me and were almost head to shoulder on the sofa…
Since then We talked like non stop during 3 weeks. Sending messages on morning evening… he is (still) always the first to check my stories on social médias. Was also the first to like my profile pictures…
He started to feel very comfortable and told me lot of intimate stuff about himself naturally… and since a few days he became suddenly distant.
I don’t know what to do…I feel blocked too. Everything was sooo smooth and natural, and then I dont know what to do…?

[Anajuxr]

Did you tried to ask him why is he like that?

[Anajuxr]

Maybe something bad happened...

[Asker]

No I didn't … he posted some stories in between he seems ok

[Asker]

I have so much bad expériences about ghosting or so that now I am scared to reach out ….

[Anajuxr]

I know right... I also have. Maybe you can let a sigh that you're available to reach. Example, you can post a stories about what you feel. If he's posting stories, probably he'll see it.

[Anajuxr]

You know, people usually fake their feelings. Maybe he's ghosting you your maybe he's bad. Then showing you're available is a strategy. If even doing it he doesn't approach you, then there's nothing to do about it... just moving on...

[Asker]

I think he is scared of his own feelings And pulled back a bit. I let him some Space and if he didn't reach out in a few days I guess I ll send him a message

[Anajuxr]

Nice idea :)

[Anajuxr]

Hope everything goes fine! 😊

[Asker]

Thank u will let u know lol

[Asker]

hey! Finally i texted yesterday and it went very well. He seems just a bit more reserved but not in a bad way. He put some hearts on publications ;)
To me he is just a bit afraid of whats happening. He feels very comfortable with me So I try to slow the pace not to make him too scared lol

[Anonymous]

Fear of commitment, and they did you favor in the long run.

[Asker]

Hey ! Not sure to understand the last part of the sentence (English is not my first language) can you develop please?

[Opinion Owner]

He’s not wasting your time.