Guys, would you be ok if a girl pulled away when you tried to kiss her the first time?

[Anonymous]

I've never been kissed (I know... it's kinda lame for someone who is 25) and I've never had a boyfriend. I've only recently started dating this year (but obviously things haven't gone further than a couple dates with a guy).

Guys haven't tried to kiss me on a first date (or second date) yet but I have a lot of anxiety over when that day comes that a guy leans in to kiss me and I panic and pull away. I don't want him to feel rejected... but I'd rather take it slow and things become more serious with the guy... i know that i'm probably going to be a horrible/inexperienced kisser haha and while i'll try not to be nervous, i probably will be haha so i'd rather feel really comfortable with the guy because i'm going to be feeling insecure/vulnerable (and that's just too soon on a first date for me).

I'm trying not to overthink it and just let things play out how they play out but i just have a feeling that my knee-jerk reaction is going to be to pull away. at that point what do i say? lol

[On_the_other_hand]

What is the terrible thing that is going to happen if you let him kiss you?

Dating and kissing is normal... and fun and beautiful.

Tell him you've never been kissed before and to take it slow. And if he is going to be your first kiss you'd like him to treat it as something special.

f he isn't a prick he'll respect that.

[Anonymous]

Well if he is right he will accept that your not emotionally ready for it. I ask if we have not talked about it before. Most girls just kiss and want it on the first date. I would rather save it.

[Asker]

have you asked & she said no before?

[Opinion Owner]

Well one did but she said yes after a few minutes. It is all about communication. If she did that and did not say why. I would feel put off.

[Asker]

gotcha. thanks!

[Anonymous]

If you end up doing that just quickly say, Sorry, I was nervous , and lean in again for the kiss. If you're not ready to kiss him, then say that but I think at least kiss his cheek.

[Asker]

oh a cheek kiss is a good idea!

[uravgguy]

The guy would probably feel that you aren't interested. Just be honest and say you're nervous

[Asker]

so it's redeemable if i explain that i'm nervous/would rather take it slow? would you be turned off if she admitted that she's never kissed anyone before?

[uravgguy]

Certainly. And no, it's not a turn off. It's not a turn on either. It's nothing to be wary of.

[RyanAmaral]

If I was going on a date who has never dated someone I would hope she would tell me before. Communication is key.

[Asker]

why would you want to know beforehand that she isn't experienced in dating?

[RyanAmaral]

So I can take things slower

[Anonymous]

I'd feel rejected and assume she wasn't into me and move on, unless she opened her mouth and explained … even then i'd be wary. But without communication, i'd take it as a 'I don't see you that way'.

[Marinepilot]

You are one huge idiot ! You do that to a quality man, there will be no second date, What's wrong with you?

[Anonymous]

You think you will end up as a couple with this guy?