Why do men pull away?

[Anonymous]

So when a woman meets a guy , he starts giving her all his attention and start texting a woman all day he starts complimenting her and asking her about her life , and they instantly click really well together but , out of no were he pulls away and stop texting her not even once a day , he completely cuts her off , i want to know what is the real reason for that , ( guys please give me the honest reason )

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+1 y

We weren't in a relationship. Yet 🤡 , it was just a failed talking stage

[Lionman95]

There are so many reasons that could make him pull away like being unsure of his feelings, but also because he´s stressed because of other things and he doesn´t know her enough and isn´t sure if he can talk with her about it.
Other reasons could be that he is in some kind of a hole where he sorts his priorities again.
Other reasons could be that though they clicked at first he didn´t build a deeper connection to her.
Maybe he thinks she has an interesting character but not interesting enough for an ongoing relationship.

[Anonymous]

Well I assume in that situation that you aren't giving back equal effort, or it doesn't seem that way to him? If it seems one sided and that he's doing all the "work". Example if the woman never texts first and always waits for the guy to. We just take that as disinterest.

[Asker]

Yeah that exactly happened , but i tried texting him first he wasn't that interested , and said goodbye

[Jamie05rhs]

@Asker He just said "goodbye"? That's it? Nothing else?

[Asker]

He said : Don't need anything?
I said no thanks
And he replied ok goodbye.

[Jamie05rhs]

Hmm. We're missing a lot of context there. What did you say before he said "Don't need anything?"?

[Asker]

I texted him i said i had a scary dream about him , and he said tell me what was the dream i didn't tell him then he said that 🙄

[hsshannah96]

This has happened to me too. The only way to solve it is to stop dating

[FGTRTD]

Probably the same reason we do it. Got bored 🤷‍♀️

[Franky666]

Cause often, we feel intense emotions, such as love much more intense. So we need to withdraw and see if a girl which wants a relationship, is really worth the struggle of drama and eventually loosing a love / broken heart. In my experience, girls are better at getting over a loss by being angry at the ex while men struggle harder and longer and the possibility of suicide is thrice as high.

Therefore men are much more sensitive to the emotional stress of a breakup than women are. If your role models like it or not. That's why 2/3 of all marriages and relations are cut by the woman.

[Star_88]

But if a woman does the same thing to test a guy's love then you'll accuse of her being unreasonable and will shame her for 'testing' her partner. Double standards. Also we don't check out other guys while being in a relationship and we don't have high sexual urge to cheat behind the backs.

[089Lexi]

@Star_88 is your picture from the app choice's?

[Star_88]

@089Lexi yes

[hsshannah96]

You guys don’t feel emotions much since when do you feel “intense” emotion?

[hsshannah96]

Men play video games when they lose something and they move on. Since when do they struggle? They don’t struggle like women do at all! We yell and cry and you guys play video games

[AmandaYVR]

@Star_88 That's right.

[Star_88]

@hsshannah96 exactly. Most guys want women's body and I've seen them discard their girlfriends after getting enough sex and then they get new crush, then they start obsessing all over again and act like they've NEVER loved someone more than that girl. They do this with any good looking and slightly compatible woman.

[DaveJord]

Well he either hooked up with a different girl or you did not move on the relationship by taking it to the next level.

How long did you text or date and did you have sex or not?

If guys think its heading to the friend zone and there no sex or starts to think your stringing him along he will move on. Relationships is a give and take process, so he's offering you friend ship but are you offering him what he needs or wants? Or did you all just stall out.

[DaveJord]

So to respond to your updated... he probably is getting bore with just talking or you have not made him feel that your sincerely interested. There's a good chance that it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with him.

I have chatted an talked with few women but got the impression that it wasn't either moving at the pace or direction I would of liked. Given the circumstances involved didn't make the juice worth the squeeze to me. So I just stopped chatting with her, and she did not really reach out or follow up on it with me so I assumed my instincts were correct.

Now if she was sincerely interested then she should of followed up or put out more effort... but in the end if I am not getting what I want out, or the level of interest or participation am looking for I will move on pretty quick. I feel I have a lot to offer a lady so I am not going to keep chatting someone if I do not think its something I want. So at the end of the day, it comes down to what you want.

There's all types of reasons, some times your just looking for something and you don't think the lady is in the same place or on the same level. Doesn't mean there's anything wrong with her, just means she's not what your looking for. Mostly for me, I have met some ladies that want to take slow and build up to meeting or she's so busy that it does not seem to me that she really interested in investing time into a relationship, but she loves to chat. That really turns me off, but I don't know the specifics with your situation, so I am speaking in general.

[Jamie05rhs]

I agree with Dave.

[jshm2]

You were either boring to talk to, or didn't give a good vibe. Looks aren't the only thing that matters, deary.

Some guys look for decent boobs/ass, some look for charm, some personality, some conversation ability... etc etc.

Don't get too hung up. You want it to fail at the early stage than have to go through 4 years of marriage, two kids and a divorce before both you figure it out.

[Kiran_Yagami]

Usually one of two things.

1) You did something that brought up a red flag for him or...

2) He found another girl.

[Asker]

Definitely

[Hairylegs222]

He isn't interested anymore. Better to simply say "Sorry I'm moving on" or something like that than to be immature vanishing without a word. Doesn't matter though, there's billions of other guys out there. No point dwelling over it when another guy will be in play that hopefully likes her a lot more and stays being interested in her.

[JSmuve]

- she never put much effort in and he figured she wasn't as interested as he was
- he got bored of her
- he found a better-looking or more interesting woman to spend his time on
- he was talking to a bunch of broads and had to cut some loose
- he found out something unattractive about the woman in question
- other priorities in life took over
- he died
- he moved
- his girlfriend got pissy and said he couldn't have any side-hoes

[cookiecrusher]

Either losing interest and not man enaugh to let the woman know.

Felt too clingy and pulled back a bit.

The first butterflies are over, now the real caveman emerges.

Some are not very good at texting, so they opt out of if as soon as they can.

Sleeping with other women/wife.

[hsshannah96]

When they ghost I consider myself to have dodged a bullet

[cookiecrusher]

Ghosting is a very weak move👻

[Vick2727]

It could be your boring to him, or he might like someone else. Two, it could be he thinks you don't really like him. So just ask him how he feels and if you like him too. Give it your all.

[AncientWisdom]

Your getting a lot of great reasons here. Personally I bounce at red flag behavior.

[Darklydarkened]

Well, after some time, it just loses to be interesting. Most reason for itis that we just find women boring in the long run

[Honesttguy]

Felt like its not going anywhere time to move on, then moves on.

[hsshannah96]

This is called ghosting and it’s a sign you dodged a bullet. If a guy ghosts I consider it a blessing for me

[On_cloud_wine]

@hsshannah96 moving on is not ghosting. Ghosting example: hmm.. well, I think it’s time to move on… I’m not going to communicate this with the other person.. I’m just going to block them or ignore every text or incoming call from here on out and hopefully they take the hint”

[On_cloud_wine]

Communicating that you’re done with them is the proper way to do it

[Honesttguy]

@On_cloud_wine i aggree letting other person know its not gonna work out is way to go, but i do understand why peole just ghost cus to tell someone its over they have met with drama, so in future they choose to avoid drama and ghosting works for them so they go with thst option. Basic programming

[hsshannah96]

@On_cloud_wine guys who move on don’t usually say “it’s time to move on” they just ghost
So yeah ghosting is moving on

[On_cloud_wine]

@hsshannah96 from what @Honesttguy said: “ Felt like its not going anywhere time to move on, then moves on.” you claimed that was ghosting. He didn’t mention at all how he handles the situation. You’re making assumptions. Ghosting is only allowed AFTER you let the person know it’s over, you’re done and they continue you try to talk to you. I’m sorry you e had some bad apples but I’m just clarifying the miscommunication

[hsshannah96]

@On_cloud_wine yeah but that’s not ghosting if you let them know!!! 😂😂😂

[hsshannah96]

@On_cloud_wine ok

[On_cloud_wine]

@hsshannah96 he didn’t say he ghosted in the beginning when you implied that that was what ghosting was

[hsshannah96]

@On_cloud_wine ok then I guess if he communicated that then good on him

[hsshannah96]

@On_cloud_wine but he didn’t say if he verbally told her that or not

[bamesjond0069]

She did or said or acted a certain way that really turned him off. Usually slut behavior or gold digger behavior or just rude are the main things that make me lose all interest.

[Vegasrunner]

Sounds like he has a good understanding of women. If he didn't pull away this post would be about why he was smothering you.

[jasco]

Either we just didn't get what we wanted, it was for sex or she just wasn't entertaining or something I don't know

[Anonymous]

I don't know why men pull away. I never understood this (unless like she's stressing him out on the regular).
I have never pulled away and I don't know anyone, that pulled away from women.

[Joshua0213]

Cause she isn't putting in the same effort usually, why can't she text me for one day?

[Wise4myage]

Fear of commitment is one reason.

[Asker]

Why is that

[Wise4myage]

They grew up in a broken family.

[DarkWinterNights]

Happened too quick for that. Fear of commitment happens when discussions of taking the next step or getting more serious starts. It’s much more likely the Asker said or revealed something that was a red flag for him.

[Oigit]

@darkwinternightss It might have happened to fast for you and I'm honestly glad that is why you pulled away. But, coming from a broken family of any sort can lead to kids acting out the same behaviors their parents did when the kids are in relationships of their own. It's the reason I have no interest in a relationship and have not for years. After getting out of it I started to realize that I followed all of the behaviors my mother did to get into her bad relationships and the same behaviors when she was in one.

So if anyone tried to be anything but friends with me, I'm going to quickly pull away.

[UsernameXLTX]

How long does this go on for? Timeframe matters to give an answer.

[On_cloud_wine]

Because you continue to nag him that he’s cheating

[rabbitzzz]

Your father wields a shotgun

[Joker_]

we're improving our pull out game

[Zygum]

When you do not meet his requirements, so he quits

[_Just_A_girl_]

Nagging chick

[Jamie05rhs]

@Aiko_E_Lara

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Honestly you don't have to. One sided questions like this is pretty much everywhere in this site.

[Jamie05rhs]

Lol. Alright, man. Sorry about that.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Asker I'm pretty sure you probably annoyed him somehow, and he got tired of it. Probably by not responding when he messaged you. Or maybe you just told him you weren't interested, so believed you and left you alone.

[Anonymous]

cause

[PeteZa]

Came here to say this