Why do men show interest and then pull away?

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For example, sending you love songs or going out of their way to talk to you, or even outright flirting with you and then being nonchalant or almost too cool?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

A lot of women don’t bring the right things to the table… they look good and seem cool and nice on the surface, but when it really comes down to it, can they hold a conversation? Be supportive and uplifting? Not get uptight over nothing? Just be chill? Take no for an answer and not get offended?

I’m not even talking about big things, little things. Like can you just live in and accept the moment-to-moment with a guy? There are so many people out there where everything has to go their way. Or even just in the flirting stage, are you doing your part to remain engaging, or are you just being short with him?

Just be sure you’re not coming off too cold or self-centered. If a woman brings stress to a man’s life, don’t be surprised when he pulls away or bails.

Adam1978 · Accepted Answer

Priorities he will only focus on you when he got time, and you women think we pull away just because we aren't giving you attention when you wants it. He is still in the same position, ie you get attention when he wants to give it. Not when you want it.

Pinay_ako · Accepted Answer

Hot and cold? Nah thanks he sounds like he married or with a girlfriend. He’s bored and testing the waters with you if you take the bait and fall for it. No

MoniqueTLC · Accepted Answer

This might help with this question;  :)

devilish-cutie · Answer

it could be many reasons, they could be just feeding htier ego, they couldve met someone else, they couldve changed their mind, but most likely tho its that they can't deal with their own feelings so they need distance to process them

Beardedman1996 · Answer

Because if hit resistance after trying to open up when tend yo close off quick like a clam or oyster to avoid damage for our protection, it may not be your fault but some of us guys have been through the wringer emotionally we will put up guards and walls to protect the pieces we had to pick up a put back together

Ryan1979 · Answer

A. They find something that is concerning B. They have someone else. C. They lose interest because they thought they would have had sex with you by now and you have not presented the opportunity.

AsaKyo · Answer

If that's how men act, then I guess I'm one too  Nah jk jk, umm it's probably because they weren't looking for something serious to begin with and were just using you or something along those lines

rtj1211 · Answer

Ask yourself what a man does with his penis after completing the necessary prerequisites to create a baby?

FilmGuy93 · Answer

They're worried about coming across too intense. Especially if the woman isn't making it clear that she wants him to do those things.

Bolty44 · Answer

They saw your side that they don't like or they have successfully masturbated

Anonymous · Answer

Guys learn really early on it's not who you are, it's who she THINKS you are that matters. And some guys are more shameless than others. I've yet to hear of a woman get all turned on by saying, "I have a fully funded IRA". 😆

genericname85 · Answer

because you won't get to know a girl without showing interest. and you only know that you're not interested once you got to know them a bit.

JPresidente · Answer

May be because things are moving too fast. Or they like to date more than one person at a time and want to keep their options open.

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

Bc tgsts what gets your attention and makes you think about them lol , otherwise you gals would just make them slaves 😂

sheikalana · Answer

Those type of guys are just looking for something casual. It's called fishing.

Anonymous · Answer

You get used to it. Most men are dodgy at best these days.

Anonymous · Answer

Cause maybe y'all aren't showing interest or that you like us which makes some of us pull back. The feelings gotta be mutual

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Same reason why women show interest and then pull away

In_Trance · Answer

something you're saying or doing is turning them off

Guy13 · Answer

Nervous about it

Iron_Man · Answer

Wishy-washy behavior

Waldoe · Answer

Bold in print but... shy in person

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