Do you guys pull away for a bit when you start catching feelings for someone?

[Anonymous]

my friends with benefits started calling me pet names but he’s kind of ghosting me in real life. It has become more sweeter/present via text, voice notes and before was more of a dry texter. Do you think he’s playing me or he’s genuinely busy?

[DumBear]

I meannnnnnnnn
You're friends with benefits.
I dont always reply back to my friends quickly.

I dont think he's playing you i just dunno if he's romantically into you. He could be or he could be slow to develop feelings.
It seems you're into him, though. Are you sure you want to be friends with benefits?

[Asker]

I like him as a person, I just don’t understand why before we were seeing each other more often and he was more colder and detached on texts and now it’s the opposite: he’s way sweeter but he canceled on me twice. He never did that before.

[DumBear]

Well, could be a dozen reasons. Maybe he isn't in the mood for sex as much lately?
Maybe he is talking to other people? Or he could just be busy.

I suppose if he's being sweeter it could be he's just busy