Guys, a friend told me I was the one who got away. I told him the same for me too. now he seems to have pulled away from the friendship. why?

[N_Mathson]

He was my best friend in high school and several years after, until we lost contact because life gets in the way. I ended up finding him again 6 months ago and it was like no time had passed (its been 13 years). He wanted to text everyday. It was a continuous talk and when i would try to end the convo he was always asking if i was trying to disappear on him again.. He ended up admitting to me he had always wanted me and I was the one who got away but he never told me how he felt back then because he thought i was too good for him. I admitted that he was the one that got away for me too. He said that I only got away for now. He even told me he loved me which he later said he didn't mean and that he was just excited in the moment because we found each other again. We are both married neither of us have any intentions of leaving our marriages. I love my husband more than anything. He started flirting with me and after a bit we said it was wrong and we were just really good friends. But now he hardly talks to me at all and when he does it just seems to be the bare minimum effort after him having told me that he was happy that i was back in his life and we would be friends for life. We live half a country apart. He is in Cali in the air force and I'm in Minnesota. Did he pull away because of his old feelings? Did he pull away because he lost interest in being friends? Did he pull away because he is afraid of what he will do to his wife? Which I completely understand if he pulled away for that reason. And I would never cross those lines. Do I just watch him walk away again or do I try to keep my friendship?

[236color]

I had a female friend that married the guy that said she was the one that got away. I have no idea what would happen in your case, but in hers it was a disaster. This guy would ask her to marry her every time she saw him for 20 years, she always said no. Finally, desperate to get married before her grandmother died, she said yes. Blindsided, he went through with it. See, the thing is, she was his cover. Asked by his friends in the north woods, where worked why he was single, he spun the yarn of his great love that got away. He never expected her to say yes. Truth is, he was a deeply damaged individual. So was she for that matter. So cut to 11 months later, the still unconsummated marriage ends in divorce. Might be something different, but might be he uses you as the reason he's still single. If he's running, let him run.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

As for you he is the one who got away from you & as for him you are the one who got away from him. Of the flip side both of you found someone else & both of you are married so at this point both of you should leave the past in the past & move forward & remain as friends & nothing more & pulling away sis totally understandable.

[stratford]

Sounds like he is worried he might do something he regrets?

[spartan55]

Ask your husband what you should do.

[In_Trance]

what do you do with that information?