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last summer i used to always go to this bar after work and have a drink , often was this younger blonde girl who worked there as a server. we'd often talk and got along really well.
but this year not so much , i've seen her a couple times and we just haven't clicked like last year , but was weird cause she seemed happy to be back and to see me again.
not exactly sure what the problem is but last year she was single and now she has a new boyfriend ( never meet him so i don't know who he is ) so perhaps she's trying to distance herself from some of the guys she though might of liked her.
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I find it interesting that every year when it’s summer or time for her to come back to town, you’re in full alert. It’s become obsessive at the point dude, you go to these same places and try inserting yourself into friendships with these younger women. I don’t understand why you haven’t moved on.
Mind you this isn’t just a last summer thing, this has been going on for a while.
this girl i only first meet her the summer of 2023 , she was a host that year and i barely paid any attention to her , then last summer she was a server and we got along really well and saw her there like every other day , but this summer is off and we don't seem to be clicking
i talk to a lot of girls that work at that restaurant when i go there , its not really as obsessive as you think , never like ask for there #'s or what there doing after work. its way more casual than your envisioning
its the owners fault he doesn't even hire male servers or older women or less attractive girls , only babes like 18-30's so server is always someone a guy would find attractive
a less attractive girl applied there during the winter , i saw her drop off a resume , she was friends with one of the existing staff members but owner still rejected her cause she was " not hot enough for him "
to explain the girl i was obsessed with at that place wasn't around summer 2024 ( although she is back now and still works there ) but she didn't work any shifts last summer and i mostly hung out with this other girl instead.
this other girl seemed ok with the attention , although at that age it seems like any attention is good attention and perhaps she just enjoyed the extra attention she got from me but then decided she to date this other guy instead
I more so was saying you’re obsessed with dining or drinking at this place and getting fixated on one or more of these women. You do other things, like checking their social media if or when they won’t add you on their own. Didn’t you also attend that bar crawl or whatever in hopes of joining in on their fun? I just don’t know why you think all this behavior is chill and cool. You most likely have a reputation at that place for being creepy and having this expectation that because you’re a customer you’re entitled to a good time, whether that’s with conversations or otherwise and I think you do this because otherwise you aren’t having women talk to you. You go home, maybe hang out with your friends and live lonely. You should try to find a woman closer to your age, don’t give up on the dating apps and find companionship. Then you can leave that place and those “young hotties” alone.
i had went to a couple bar crawl type events a year or so ago but was with different girls not the ones who work at this restaurant , i bought them some free shots then the one got annoyed at me cause she though i liked her friend ( age actually didn't appear to be the issue perhaps she though i was younger )
as for the girls at this restaurant , i'm not sure i'm even following any of them on instagram currently , did follow some before but my original account got lost around 2023 and i had to start a new one so lost some accounts i was following
but if i'm paying money to be there? i'm entitled to being served and its typical to expect server to talk to you a little , no guy tips a server who ignores them and won't even make small talk and been days this year when it hasn't even been as busy as in past so they've been standing around bored
its the owners fault he created this mess and doesn't seem willing to make the necessary changes to bring it into the year 2025 , its like he still thinks its the 90's and big boobs are all that anyone wants , except many people don't care if the server is hot , they more want quality food and service , was all kinds if not pages of bad reviews on google for this place last summer
3 days ago
NEW
Great food and view! No good service came to see us twice in an hour and a half. More likely interested in the bar drama then making money. Could obviously see server have a snack and drink with another server
( an actual review from this place )
Great atmosphere. Good selection of drinks on tap. Food was as mediocre as you could expect a pub to be. Service was downright atrocious. We could tell we were the only “out of towners” in the bar and our server would barely acknowledge us. Had to flag her down between her taking shots with different tables when our drinks were empty and she was rude when she would take our orders
( another one )
You don’t really want simple small talk dude, you want friendship and maybe even companionship and that’s not what any of those women are interested with you. Obviously they’ve got to take your order and deliver it but you aren’t entitled to small talk. That’s just you being nosey wanting to hear about certain women (maybe one in particular) because they won’t bring you into the fold themselves. You’ve been trying for several years now to befriend these people maybe even to date one of them but with your age and personality it’s just not happening dude. There are so many other restaurants and pubs out there you don’t even have to be going out like that. It is a choice and gradually becoming a weird one.
i didn't necessary have any expectations with most of the girls who worked there , i was mainly just into that one girl. the others was content with just casually seeing them there. i think over time some of them got annoyed i was so obsessed with the other girl and wouldn't go to there section when she there
its not a weird place for people to go here , its in a prime location and always been a popular spot for people to go. although doesn't seem as busy as other years, they do a happy hour from 4-5 and normally is regulars who come in everyday but this year its been like empty in that time slot and people not around like they used to.
the place seems to have issues that the owner does not want to address or unwilling to address. i can't really see it surviving in its current form much longer without major changes
https://www.hatcheddating.com/
a couple days ago a couple of the girls were talking about this app , apparently 2 of the girls there were single ( not girl i liked ) and used it to go on a date with a guy , both went to sporting events but one said it didn't lead anywhere and other was with a guy who lived 2 hours away and not sure how it went.
so apparently willing to date a guy who lives 2 hours away cause a dating ap said they were a match, isn't 2 hours a little far for dating purposes? especially when you don't even know the person. so not never interested in dating someone from restaurant but a guy 2 hours away gets a shot? and pretty sure she had never even meet this guy before either it was a first date
either he though she was insanely hot and worth the drive or she found out he has a lot of money
note i didn't go in today cause it was raining and so patio not open and its pretty slow on those days , i went to the gym instead for a few hours.
didn't see any of the girls there who knows what they do on there days off
It's most likely because she has a boyfriend so she is distancing herself from guys.
but its still her job to serve people at this bar and to talk to the customers is part of the experience , she can't just stand behind the bar and ignore paying customers on the basis she now has a boyfriend , she's still expected to pay attention to them and make them feel welcome at the restaurant as there paying guests
The bartender doesn't have to make small talk with you if they don't want to.. If she greets you, is nice and serves you drinks that is all they have to do. Don't tip her if you think she owes you something besides that you aren't entitled to someones time or friendship.
sometimes its less busy there and they have more time to talk about random things. but the fact that she talked to me before makes it seem weird to sudden not want to as much
the servers that are more social and into the scene tend to make more money , way less guys tip a girl well if she doesn't even talk to them a little bit and make it seem like she is enjoying serving them
Oh well, if you want to drink and talk then go with your friends.. lol
Talk it out, or move on.