Should I continue or end?

[Anonymous]

Hey Guys, I’d really appreciate some honest advice here.

There’s a girl I used to really like around 5 years ago. Back then, I confessed my feelings, but she rejected me and said she saw me as a friend. It hurt a lot, and that experience actually became a turning point—I ended up working on myself, changed my mindset, and even transformed physically over time.

Fast forward to about 2 years ago, we reconnected. This year, things shifted—she became much more interested in me, and we eventually got together and asked me to be her boyfriend.

But now, after 1–2 months in the relationship, I’m feeling off. We don’t seem to share many common interests or meaningful conversations. There aren’t many “sweet” moments, and oddly enough, when she’s very kind or affectionate toward me, I start to feel guilty or pressured rather than happy.

It makes me wonder if I actually like her something off with me? Perhaps spend more times and see how it goes?

Right now I’m leaning toward ending the relationship, because if drag on too long may make things more painful for her down the line. I can tell she really likes me and is giving a lot into this, which makes me feel guilty. But knowing she’s also dealing with some recent family issues, and I don’t know what the “right time” to bring this up would be.

I want to be respectful, avoid unnecessary hurt, and hopefully end things on good terms.

Would a text message be better? as kinda feel awkward to end it face to face

Appreciate for any advices🙏

[Selene1600000]

It does not sound like something is wrong with you. Sometimes we like the idea of someone more than the actual relationship, and if you already feel disconnected this early, it is probably better to be honest sooner rather than later. A face to face conversation is more respectful than a text, even if it feels awkward.

[Anonymous]

Regardless of what you decide, face to face is always the right move unless you think you are in physical danger. As for wether or not you should break up, I think it would help to understand why you feel guilty, when she asked you out you said yes so what different from that moment and now?

[Asker]

Felt guilty because she is was being really nice to me, where I am actually not that into her. I said yes before because we were dating and knowing each other. Where as now she thinks me as boyfriend …..

Prefer not face to face as worry her reaction given I can tell she quite likes me.

[Opinion Owner]

You will worry and feel guilty, but we do it anyway because it's the right thing to do. Ultimately, it is your choice, but breaking up through text and avoiding the worst outcome is like threading a needle mid-air

[Asker]

We chat about this over the phone before where she feels I am not that attentive to her.

She is on vacation and I probably will text her first then find a time to chat when she returns

[loveslongnails]

If you're going to end it, do it face to face. Only weak men and losers do it any other way.