Should I end it?

[Anonymous]

So to get straight to the point we’ve been together since 7/8 years now married 2. I’ve cheated in the past but now the relationship just seems suffocating. I understand it’s my fault but it draining

I’ve deleted all social media for the last two years & she has my phone location. Over the last year I haven’t been out with my friends because they enjoy themselves by going out by going to lounges and bars & she doesn’t want me in that environment. She doesn’t want me going to their houses either cause she feels there maybe me females there. She said the only way she’ll feel comfortable with me going to lounges etc and their houses is if she's there. I literally work and come sit in the house unless I decide to take her out and it makes me feel like I need space. Or is this what marriage supposed to be like?

[Finchie40]

Well the fact that you cheated on her should have been your answer to end it right there , Does she know that you cheated on her? If so , then her trust for you is broken and it’s going to take a long time for her to feel she can trust you again. Also the fact that you married her , you should prioritize her over everyone else , we don’t get married to be single , that’s something you should of thought about before marrying her , I am not saying you have to hold her hand everywhere you go but you should still make her your top priority , the same way she should be making you , So if she decides one day she wants to go to bars and lounges without you , you can make it clear to her that she can not because she stopped you from going without her , Double standards usually destroy relationships, It sounds like you truly don’t love this girl , so you are probably best to end it with her so you can live your life and she can live hers

[coachTanthony]

Get out before it’s too late. Start over with someone new and learn from the past. This situation sounds horrific… you made a mistake…. You owned it and are now paying for it over and over again. Like Chris rock said men cheat because we want something new but you now get a new wife as well and not necessarily in a good way!

[sheikalana]

I felt suffocated reading your question. I understand your wife's insecurities but she also needs to get over it. She needs to understand you're also allowed to have some Me time and have fun with your friends. Just because you're married that doesn't mean you're not entitled to have friends, privacy or fun. A marriage is not supposed to feel like you've been caged. I'm not the most outdoorsy person and I often prefer to stay in the house but I don't expect my husband to do the same. He has his friends and once in a while likes to meet with his pals. In the beginning I also used to feel insecure but he reassured me and always keeps me informed of what's going on. Don't break things off. You need to communicate to her that this is bothering you and putting you off tell her you miss your friends and she needs to be more understanding.

[Peridot25]

Nope. It’s what happens when you break someone’s trust. So suffer the consequences 😂😂😂🖕🖕🖕

[OlderAndWiser]

Yes, marriage is a relationship in which you spend most of your time together. Of course she doesn't want you out alone because of your history. But it also sounds like you aren't ready for a committed relationship. Do you have any children together?

[Avicenna]

You should end it if it's clear the problems can't be fixed

[V_Injector]

Once that trust is gone, it's gone bruah.

You could set up a home gym like I did, start making youtube guitar videos like I did, or start a video gaming habit like I did. But you're not me and probably don't want to be me. Getting online and trolling is what I do for fun.

I gotta ask, what are you getting out of this relationship? Is it kids and shared bills? Is it anything you couldn't do for yourself? If the answer is no and no... then get out of that hot mess. Do hookers and cocaine.

[pethouse]

Welll, you did cheat so she has a right to be paranoid about you cheating. But at the same time i feel like she should be following the rules that she set for you as well. Removing social media and drinking is probably for anyone’s best interest.


It may be smart to go to couples counseling and have someone mediate the situation before making that decision.

[pethouse]

by the way you should be happy that she still wants to be with you after everything. It seems like she cares about you a lot.

[exitseven]

It will never get better. Even if you push back she will just make you suffer for it.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Don't divorce. Separate for a few months or more to refresh.

[laly520]

yes end it
u messed up

[Akam93]

Yes you should. Sounds controlling.

[Anonymous]

She should have ended it a long time ago.

[_no_one_]

Its time