Why is it so difficult for me to get or keep Friends With Benefits?

[Anonymous]

It’s seems like every woman I’m attracted to wants a relationship or on the rare occasion that I meet a woman that wants something casual it doesn’t last for very long— anywhere from a few weeks to three months.

My last friends with benefits ghosted me after a month without warning and I later found out that she got a boyfriend.

[petitedollbabee]

Friends with benefits aren’t a long term thing. They always end up either you start a relationship with them or one of you starts a relationship with someone else. Friends with benefits are like a middle man to a relationship, they’re a gap filler, they keep you satisfied sexually while you seek out someone to satisfy you romantically.


So maybe the problem is that you expect it to be a long term arrangement and you end up disappointed.

[PeachyPie93]

As you see most woman will pass up a casual fuck, for a real relationship.. Question is why do you want a long term friends with benefits? I thought the whole point of that dynamic is to play the field with other people.. So stop expecting that people will put up with bare minimum treatment (for free, I may add) when they can get better.

[Fireguy17]

So what does that tell you, most women want to be in a relationship, and they cast you aside and find one that wants the same things that they do.
They can get laid anytime they want to.

[The-Stud]

Get your life in order instead of fucking around.

[DishLady]

friends with benefits isn’t meant to “keep”… “Keep” is for actual relationships.

[Nikki1989]

Why don't you get a real relationship like a normal person?

[Yaboozi]

Well friends with benefits isn't supposed to last very long, I'd say usually only a few month, any longer and you might as well be dating.