Girls, fit academic lesbian 29 still single. how do I diagnose WHY?

[pollysocket]

I cannot tell what MATTERS anymore as contributing factors for why I'm still single.

facts:

1. I'm a retired athlete who still has a bfp of 20%.

2. I am an ex [petite] model who left the industry to pursue my education.

3. I'm an autodidact and have an ivy league education

4. I'm African, Asian, & my aunt is Hawaiian

5. I don't have pets nor roommates.

6. I live in downtown Pittsburgh and can watch stadium concerts and ball games from my window (I don't like this. I'm trying to move because I didn't know it would be such a nuisance on game and concert days. It can get overstimulating so I can understand not wanting to hang out at my place).

7. no drugs/smoking &rarely ever alcohol

8. I'm Sikh &grew up in a Coptic Catholic Voudoo household that prioritized ancestor veneration

9. I've made a living off art for most of my life

10. I'm always at least 7 minutes early to everything.

11. I overcame but rock climb and hike and dance now and live a very active lifestyle. I'm no bodybuilder but I am fit.

12. *I don't tell people this one intentionally but it does inevitably come up eventually because it's viewed by most people as "small talk"* My family abandoned me at age 12 because I am a lesbian. They have no contact with me and have made it abundantly clear I am never welcome ever again. I was homeless for a long time because of their choices because no one is going to let a twelve year old purchase a house.

13. I am monogamous & want children.

14. I make it very clear OLD that I don't care who's woke or religious and I just want to know your true thoughts, that their authenticity is what matters. I don't expect us to ever agree on everything.

This is not a rant. This is *please look at the list and tell me where and how I am screwing up so that I do not die a single virgin*

Thank you for your time, toodles <3 -Lonely Dyke

[alli-112]

I mean, how many other gay women are you actually meeting? I'm a straight young adult living in a college town (aka full of other young adults) and I still have a really hard time dating.

I guess if anything, you sound like you have a really strong personality, which means you might not be to everyone's taste?

[pollysocket]

update: after posting this someone saw it and we've been finding out we're perfect for each other. So far. Time will tell haha. But I feel confident at at ease w her. Her energy fits so well. There's no anxiety, even when we've talked about some real stuff. It's like I can feel real peace and know that she's a part of it, instead of just having it by myself. She's not completing anything. You're right about the strong personality haha I definitely don't struggle there. But I've always felt like I have to bend so much for other potential people. With her we just slide into place and that stress energy isn't there. I'm surprised this is how we met, but I'm really happy.

[alli-112]

Good for you! Manifest that shit

[Nikki1989]

The amount of bisexual or lesbian women I have known in my lifetime I can count on one hand, so it doesn't surprise me. They are not as common as people make them out to be.

[pollysocket]

ye i met my first one last year. i've met 6 since. All of which are either in relationships, or like you for five seconds, tell their ex about you vbcause "we're just frieeends" then the ex says "i want you back baby break up w her i didn't mean to strangle you and beat you up and sleep with your sister and your mom and your other ex" so then they dump you and take them back and wind up pregnant within the year, marreid within the year, or both. And then dead in a box six months later.