I see people telling you what you wanna hear, not what you need to hear. I am here to tell you the truth.
Yes, it's very strange. Here's why:
1) Women that are 29 and single are usually not focused on marriage at all. If she doesn't want to get married, that's cool. However, problembis when she does want to get married, but starts looking at a later age when her options start to run out.
2) You wrote under someone else's comment that your friends were "either splitting up or cheating". You don't have good company. Typically, older single women have friends who are very similar to them, and married traditional women also have friends that are similar as well. A wise person once said "you're the average of 5 of your friends".
3) I am going to make an assumption, and correct me if I am wrong, since you didn't give any context. You probably "had fun" in your 20s, but are now wondering if it was the right call. You mentioned elsewhere you had a casual relationship with someone that lasted 5 years, but you were scared of commitment. I don't understand when women are "scared of commitment". A man can risk his finances and last name and you are still scared, when he has more to lose in the situation? How would that make sense? I have a lot of my male friends who do not want to get married for that reason. You basically want to be husband and wife, but not legally husband and wife. How does that make sense?
4) Your biological clock is ticking. After 35, there's an increased risk for your newborn developing Turner syndrome or down syndrome, among many other conditions associated with late pregnancies. If you are not interested in having kids, maybe that explains why you wasted so much of your life. If you do want to have kids, you definitely spent 5 years that you cannot get back, and in another 5 years you will not be as fertile as you used to and you have to worry about risky pregnancies.
Conclusion. If you are happy in your current situation, so be it. No need to ask us strangers online about what your life should be like. If you aren't happy and want to find someone to spend the rest of your life with, than my advice for you is to hurry up before it's too late, but learn how to read signs and red flags so you don't with the wrong person.06 Reply
Asker+1 yNah I jumped around studying and travelling too much I had guys into me but it's not going to work me being in the uk and himself in America
Asker+1 yOhwell tbh I wouldn't want kids in my mid 20s that would mean the freedom would be completely gone hardly anyone I know that had kids never went anywhere in the world or did anything. I guess you can't have it all tbh
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I beg to differ. I'm sure you heard about the terms "instant gratification" and "delayed gratification". I want to become a doctor. That's a commitment. You know what that means? No partying, no traveling, no sleeping around or acting dumb. Just being 20 and being surrounded with people who don't take if seriously isn't the best thing in the world, but I keep pushing. By the time I am board certified I will be at least 31. Even then, that wouldn't be time to start traveling, because I will probably be on call. I don't complain about it, I literally picked this career and wouldn't have it any other way. I do realize that there are long-term benefits to doing that though, mainly job security and financial stability amongst other things. That's an example of delayed gratification. I will travel plenty after I have had enough experience in the field, and start to work part-time. The same example can be used for dating. You date with purpose, get married at an age younger to than your peers to a man who meets your requirements, and maybe for the first few years your husband is saving up to build wealth. After that, you can travel the world without issues. See how this works? If you think of marriage as a prison instead of an investment, you will never get married. You still haven't told me if you want marriage later in your life or not.
Asker+1 yOh no I believe in marriage but I've never found anyone I've liked or had anything in common with. It's not easy
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OK then, let's take a step back and find the route of the problem. Define what you mean by "didn't find someone I've liked or had anything in common with" because it sounds vague. Their hobbies didn't align with yours? How they prefer their coffee? What they rather do on a Sunday afternoon? Or is it something more serious related to family values, faith, political views and things of that nature? Is it just their values you had an issue with? Did you not find anyone physically attractive? I'm trying to understand the situation, so I need more context.
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Anonymous(45 Plus)+1 yYes, VERY strange, considering you're the ONLY single 29 year old on the planet not in a relationship.
Believe it or not, now is probably the best timeof your life to find a partner and settle down. Look a couple of years ahead of you. They're established at work and most of them are LONG out of the silly, stupid, game playing dating game, and the "I just want to fuck them all" stage.
They're looking too. Go poke around. You'll be surprised what's out there. Trust me. Most men are just as tired of the date me, buy me, fuck me, look at me, women who guage life and popularity on how many likes they can get, or dudes they can bag/bed, blow. They're ready to settle down too.
So you've traveled. Nothing wrong with that. Perhaps your worldly and wise now? That's gotta count for something.
Go find a guy and quit wallowing in self pity and guilt, and you won't HAVE any regrets.
Good luck! 🙂02 Reply
Asker+1 yYeah I honestly fluidity bother with dating full stop in my 20s it's kinda of a waste most of my friends are spilting up or cheating
Asker+1 yHonestly didn't**
+1 yNope, it's normal. However It's strange that you asked about it..
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Anonymous(45 Plus)+1 yIt could be. I could see if you were a successful CEO or something g, your own business then I’d understand why. But for most women, most women seem to get married, have children by the age of 25. But on the other hand if you were w someone for a while who cheated, then I could understand that. A part of me makes me question why no kids or marriage at the last. Even if you were a CEO you could have still been married at the last. Just my thoughts.
00 ReplyIt is not strange at all for a modern 29 yo girl to be single at all. I am 53 and divorced with 3 children two twin girls and a boy. I am single and use hands free toys they heat up to 98.6 degrees and keep sucking harder and harder until I cum twice inside m
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Anonymous(36-45)+1 yNope. Usually it's about the time they start panicking about hitting that wall.
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Asker+1 yYeah I'm starting to have regrets and travelling too much and not looking for a partner
Anonymous(30-35)+1 yNo. Why would that be strange?
I am 27 and single. Girls are not interested. So it's a matter of fate.02 Reply
Asker+1 yI just didn't bother with dating but now I feel like it now
Opinion Owner+1 yThat is understandable. Still not Strange.
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+1 yNope. You're at the age where it is quite normal. Usually dating is much harder for women once they get to about 30.
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+1 yNot in the slightest.
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Asker+1 yI'm starting to regret it now maybe I travelled too much and didn't bother to find a partner
+1 yBe single with many man.
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Asker+1 yI'm starting to have regrets all of a sudden that I was too independent and travelled and didn't bother looking for a partner
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Have buddy partner 😘
2.9K opinions shared on Relationships topic. No. How long was your longest relationship?
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Asker+1 yDidn't bother with dating
Asker+1 yNo I not I guess I did talk to a guy causally which lasted for 5 years and he even asked me to move over
Asker+1 yI didn't sleep around tho but I couldn't be fucked being in a committed relationship
Asker+1 yNo we did have sex
Yes it is strange. Let's marry.
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+1 yNope
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Asker+1 yThanks I'm constantly bombarded with friends and family that need to get someone quick
Anonymous(36-45)+1 yDepends how attractive she is
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+1 yNope
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Asker+1 yI'm starting to have regrets about travelling too much and not finding a partner maybe it's too late for moi now
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+1 yNo why?
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Anonymous(25-29)+1 yNope
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