Is it a red flag?

[Ally_17]

Is it a red flag when a guy is constantly texting you and jokingly calls you his wife. I've been going along with it because I mostly thought he was joking, but it kinda freaks me out when he says shit like he wouldn't be okay without me and how other guys wouldn't think I'm a 10 because I'm clumsy and dorky and a huge goofball, but he does. Like I don't think I'm a 10 at all, but it makes me uneasy that he says stuff like that. For context we've been texting for a month and we've only gone on a few dates.

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Thank you everyone for the wonderful advice. I ended up discussing it with my friends and I decided to end things because bro started being too crazy for me.

[DannyUk2017]

Sounds like you just got yourself a Stalker, and all he wants is just to get in your pants, sounds too desperate...

[DannyUk2017]

Update:.. i Salute You! 🫡👏👏👏

[Ally_17]

Thank you! He just started being so crazy last night and it was just too much.

[DannyUk2017]

Exactly what You don't Need, is Crazy, you're young and You need to Focus on your life ahead, not Anyone's Problems...🤷‍♂️👏👏👏

[Ally_17]

Yes sir! My friends told me that if he's being this psycho and possessive and trying to make me feel bad about myself when I'm not with him, what will he do if we'd gotten into a relationship. SMH.

[DannyUk2017]

Exactly, Sounds like you're friends are "watching" over you more than realise, and please stop call me sir, makes me feel... Old...😅😂, Thank you! 🌹☕️

[Ally_17]

They really are! Sorry about that! I appreciate the advice nonetheless.

[DannyUk2017]

Very welcome, And don't apologise, i was just teasing you 😅... Good luck out there, and stay "sharp".👍

[RHK36]

He sounds crazy. For future reference don't give attention to crazy people and move along as quick as possible.

[Ally_17]

Definitely! I'll definitely move forward being more cautious. 🤦‍♀️

[ChicoFromThe305]

How long have you known him for and have y'all had a thing before

[Ally_17]

I wanna say about a month because we matched on Hinge on June 2nd or 3rd. We don't have any prior history, no.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Then yea it's weird, you should ask him what he means, the more you let him say it the more he will feel comfortable saying it

[Ally_17]

I did tell him I thought he was joking and he acted like he kinda was, but he also keeps saying things about being together forever. I just smile because what do I even say to that? At first I thought he was just being sweet, but now it's starting to make me feel uncomfortable.

[Ally_17]

But like at the same time am I only being creeped out because I don't really find him attractive? He has a great personality though.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Yea I honestly think that might be why, finding him attractive could change the way you take that because the reason it makes you uncomfortable is because you don't feel the same way, which when it comes to attraction, it's the same weither the lack of attraction is physically or personality wise, your discomfort comes from your lack of attraction towards him, unless you really take marriage very seriously then it makes sense no matter what.

[Ally_17]

I do take marriage very seriously, but it makes me uncomfortable that he wants to bring up being together forever basically every conversation.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Okay so it's more of an annoyance, something thats repetitive for too long gets annoying, it's normal.

[WonderingManII]

Yes, sounds like He's got a controlling personality.

[Ally_17]

So you definitely think this is abnormal behavior? Like he's constantly texting me like he needs my attention 24/7 and wants to constantly be holding hands. Like we can't just sit next to each other without touching and he wants to call me every night. I'm not like blowing things out of proportion? It's starting to feel exhausting and I just don't know how to feel or if I'm stupid for not feeling cool with all of this.

[WonderingManII]

This quote from you is what makes me think He's being controlling.

"it kinda freaks me out when he says shit like he wouldn't be okay without me and how other guys wouldn't think I'm a 10 because I'm clumsy and dorky and a huge goofball, but he does."

If he loves you a lot, He will want to spend time with you. That is all I know.

[Ally_17]

Thank you so much for your advice/input sir. I really appreciate it.

[Anonymous]

Nope. I worked with a guy who did that with a woman co-worker. He would f*** ever skirt that moved. He called her wife because that what he thought it'd take to get into her pants.

[Bklynbadboy12]

I was gonna tell you that's weird asf

[Bklynbadboy12]

Glad you got away from him

[Ally_17]

Yeah, me too. Lol! Ain't nobody got time for that crazy shit.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Exactly!🤣🤣🤣🤣

[Jeff51]

I think its abnormal for him to do that.